How FORGIVING are you?

[RegularK]

What is the worst thing anyone's ever done to you...physically or emotionally...that you had forgiven them for? or vice versa. What's the worst thing you've done to someone that they actually forgave you for?

It takes a lot to piss me off, but when you do, it's hard to find forgiveness from me. I always thought of myself as someone who was not very forgiving or forgetful. But latey, i've made a few exceptions to that.

cheers,
KiM

 

[fredtam]

If someone actually pisses me off (very hard to do) or stabs me in the back I never forgive them. I may may not let them know it though. I still have people I plan on getting back someday over things they did 15 years ago.

 

[RGN]

More forgiving than the Emperor.

 

[moshquerade]

i had a guy i was dating exclusively cheat on me with my sister's best friend. damn, that hurt, but i forgave him eventually.

 

[Mo0o]

Once upon a time a girl liked me and I didn't like her back and apparently I led her on. As a result she got hella pissed at me. Since then I've been trying to make up for it. But as of now, 1 year later, she still refuses to talk to me. I guess she doesn't fall into the forgiving category

 

[bradruth]

Honesty & loyalty are very important to me. If someone goes back on either one I tend not to forget it.

 

[dirtboy]

I'm very forgiving, especially if the person comes to me right away and tells me they screwed up.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
I'm very forgiving, especially if the person comes to me right away and tells me they screwed up.

you sound like a nice person.

 

[pulse8]

One of my exgirlfriends was spending a lot of "quality" time with this guy while she was away at school. Nothing physical, but she was definitely not into our relationship anymore. I moved out to California anyway and she's marrying that guy this month.

I can't really hold a grudge because it worked out for the best anyway.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Depends on how good of a friend you are and what exactly you did. Most of the time, I'll just get over the little stuff. But if you do something horrid enough to get on my bad side, I will never ever forgive you.

 

[K1052]

It depends heavily on the circumstances and the person. I am generally fairly forgiving about most things though.

I do, however, have certain lines that should not be crossed.

 

[clamum]

Depends but I'm quite forgiving... people aren't perfect.

 

[ohtwell]

I'm usually pretty forgiving. I can't think of a certain instance though.


: ) Amanda

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: dirtboy
I'm very forgiving, especially if the person comes to me right away and tells me they screwed up.

you sound like a nice person.

I am...sometimes.

I have long since realized that I'm not perfect and while I don't realize every mistake I make, when I do, I admit it. I can only hope those that I have wronged will forgive me, so I make it a point to forgive others once they understand what they did was wrong.

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: ThisIsKimbO
What is the worst thing anyone's ever done to you...physically or emotionally...that you had forgiven them for? or vice versa. What's the worst thing you've done to someone that they actually forgave you for?

It takes a lot to piss me off, but when you do, it's hard to find forgiveness from me. I always thought of myself as someone who was not very forgiving or forgetful. But latey, i've made a few exceptions to that.

I'm the opposite... i give my trust and friendship to people very easily, but it takes very little to lose it. And no, i'm not very forgiving at all, at least not when it's intentional. When it's not intentional, hell you could blow up my car and i won't have a problem with it (nor would i make you pay for the damages), but if you intentionally keyed it two inches, i would never forgive.

 

[Kibbo]

I can be very forgiving. To the point of stupidity, really.

I think now I've learned how to forgive, without forgetting.

 

[DAGTA]

I try to be very forgiving as I know I'm far from perfect and my friends often forgive my mess-ups. I forgive... but I don't forget.

The worst thing I've forgiven someone for? Shortly after my ex-fiance and I split up, she went out and slept with one of the high up guys in the company I was applying for after college. I had followed this company for years and was focused totally on working for them. She came back and told me what she did. Of course that killed me going to work there. It took a lot, but I forgave her.

Myself: I grew up in a home with parents that exaggerated and fought often. As such, I found that I often say/said very hurtful things when I'm extremely angry. I've gotten better at not doing it over the years but I still mess up. It's damaged and destroyed many relationships. Some people have forgiven me for it and some even realize that I honestly feel horrible later after I've done it.