I dry everything on low heat. I am usually too lazy to use fabric softener.
Towels (all colors) - warm water, normal cycle, detergent + booster
Underwear/socks (all colors) - warm water, normal cycle, detergent + booster
Whites (basically just white shirts) - warm water, normal cycle, detergent with bleach and a bleach booster
Delicates (all colors, unless I have enough to separate white and dark loads) - cold water, gentle cycle, normal detergent although sometimes I'll use a gentle detergent
Sheets - warm water, normal cycle, detergent + booster
Blankets/Comforters - warm water, gentle cycle, detergent + booster
A fair amount of dry cleaning, usually 25-30 items a month (usually slacks and shirts). Probably bad for the clothes :/