How do you plan to live with your parents after they are retired?

[jupiter57]

Reminds me of my older Brother.
He's 59 YO, and still lives with our Mother who is ~80 YO.

Only she has to take care of him, as he cannot cook, clean, do laundry, or anything, I have never even seen him microwave food! (He could, I'm sure, it's just that he has just never had to! Actually, the man has NEVER, EVER had to do anything other than dress himself!)

And no, he is not physically or mentally disabled, he was just raised that way, firstborn son. (He is also an alcoholic and substance abuser since High School)😱

It wasn't that he was raised that way.. it is that he is a lazy bum with no ambition and doesn't mind living a pathetic life... Don't make excuses for him...

Hey! I'm not making excuses for him, just telling what a low-life Mommas Boy he is!

One can say "enabling" him to do so is AS BAD

Clearly his mother should've kicked his ass out on the street at 18....but that's not exactly easy to do from a mother's stand point.

I do believe in tough love though.

See my reply above.
This man has been a tit-sucker his entire life, never had a job, never done a hard days work in his life, never even had to hear an alarm clock!
Yet, he's her pride & joy, LOL!

 

[JPS35]

That's a lot of people in a small car; may want to consider upgrading to a 4 door or station wagon.

 

[TridenT]

I'd put a bullet in my head before ever living with my Mother again.

KT

Ditto. No way is it ever happening.

They can learn how it feels to be neglected when they need help the most.

 

[SAWYER]

I haven't talked to my mom or any of my family in years so I won't be doing anything

 

[momeNt]

They certainly wouldn't be allowed to LIVE with me, but I wouldn't be against burying them in my backyard or keeping their ashes in my house.

 

[Mixolydian]

They can learn how it feels to be neglected when they need help the most.

True dat. Someone did bring up Karma earlier in this thread...

 

[sze5003]

Do you have children of your own?

No none. But my parents have that old mindset that the son in the family is suppose to take care of everything. I'm not Asian either. Since they got divorced I've been constantly asked to help out financially and I have from what I can. I've also been put down and messed with a lot because they think I should be dating someone else not my current gf who they don't like and are not willing to meet because of a way she acted a while ago. So I'm always guilt tripped into things and say stuff like oh but you would do so and so for her but you don't care about your family if oppose to doing what they want.

But after all I'm not that cold hearted if my mom needed help I would let her live with me. Sometimes I think about if I got a job somewhere far I would just go so to have some piece of mind. But once I brought that up and my mother was like well your siblings and I would follow you lol. They would be completely lost if I didn't live 25 min away. Kind of sad when you think about it.

 

[Dumac]

Oh wow, I didn't know so many people just abandoned their parents when they become old and a "burden"...

Better they just die young from a heart attack or something, right? Otherwise you have to shove them in a corner with a bunch of other old people and make yourself forget they exist.

 

[Chaotic42]

Oh wow, I didn't know so many people just abandoned their parents when they become old and a "burden"...

Better they just die young from a heart attack or something, right? Otherwise you have to shove them in a corner with a bunch of other old people and make yourself forget they exist.

I know you're being sarcastic in an attempt to make a point, but for me? I want to die on the day before I become unable to care for myself. If that's at 30, fine. If it's at 110, fine. I know what that's like first hand. I spent most of my childhood watching my father take care of my mother. I can tell you that I wish that on no one. I want to go out the day before I'm schedule to go into the home (or have my children lose out on years of their life to wipe my ass).

 

[Red Squirrel]

When my parents retire I'll probably spend more time to visit them, but they'll definitely want their own time together and I'll want my own time as well, can't imagine going back to living with them all the time.

They are both sick and tired of working, and I wish I could win the lotto or become a 1%er so I can give them enough to retire, though. 😀