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how do you get over embarassing situations quick?

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I tend to be really hard on myself and lose sleep over stupid embarrassing moments. Not talking about stuff like falling on my face in front of people in public.. that I can get over quick. But embarrassing myself in front of people I see often. For ex.. introducing myself in front of people at work and stutter/mumbling due to nervousness.. I'll end up feeling uncomfortable after that.. Need to learn how to get over situations like this and not dwell on it so much but I find it difficult.. any tips?
 
Do you think the other person bothered to think about it?

"Ha ha! That guy stuttered a bit and was nervous / shy. Man. What an idiot."

Nah. They've probably all done it.
 
I dwell on things like this too, but I've been diagnosed with severe social anxiety. I've never agreed to take drugs for it, so I just try my best to let little things go. I just try to convince myself that likely no one else is thinking about it after it happened, why should I?
 
Strip down, put your underwear on your head, and run outside into traffic screaming at the top of your lungs that smurfs are out to eat you.


It'll make whatever previous embarrassing moment you had a forgotten memory.
 
HumblePie said:
Strip down, put your underwear on your head, and run outside into traffic screaming at the top of your lungs that smurfs are out to eat you.


It'll make whatever previous embarrassing moment you had a forgotten memory.
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Yea and you get a nice padded cell out of the deal.
 
I force myself to think of other things until it passes from the front of my mind. Sometimes I'll be practically yelling "Stop!" at myself if I keep returning to the embarrassing thought over and over again.

What I really hate is when something I did years ago inexplicably pops into my head and I feel the same anxiety and embarrassment over again. That happens more often than the other situation these days. You have to learn how to put things out of your mind and move on. You see other people do it every day, so it's not like you're obligated by society to obsess over every moment.
 
Every month. I get 30 dollars in pennies. Then I stick them up my butt. After crapping them out I spend them freely. Then whenever I do something embrassing I just laugh at whoever witnesses it knowing statistically there's a very good chance they've handled one of my ass pennies.
 
i just don't care.

after awhile, people will admire your 'confidence' even though it's really apathy.
 
After awhile you have to get used to the idea that no-body really cares enough to remember your insignificant 'embarrassing' moment. Think back to the last tome someone stuttered or mumbled in from of you, unless they always talk like that you don't ever think about or remember it. You are no more important that that person is, no-one cares.
 
I let my imagination go wild on stuff like that as a mental exercise for a little while. That way the reality of the situation becomes trivial and is easy to get over.

That technique works for phobias too, I got over my fear of roller coasters by purposefully thinking the worst while climbing the first hill, then letting it all go at the top.
 
I'm the exact same way. I'm very socially awkward and have to push myself very hard to appear friendly and outgoing. Shaking hands, hugging, talking to people in elevators/hallways, eating lunch with people I don't know -- they all make me nervous and very uncomfortable. The slightest thing that doesn't put me in the best light drives me crazy afterwards.

I probably should be on some kind of medication.
 
AyashiKaibutsu said:
Every month. I get 30 dollars in pennies. Then I stick them up my butt. After crapping them out I spend them freely. Then whenever I do something embrassing I just laugh at whoever witnesses it knowing statistically there's a very good chance they've handled one of my ass pennies.
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you aren't alone! :thumbsup:
 
Try humor, let everyone know that the situation makes you nervous and make a small joke about it. Pretty soon your nervousness will disappear and you will be able to take command of the situation and survive it. You will soon find that everyone feels the same way.
 
I like to put pennies in my mouth and suck on them. The salty, coppery taste takes my mind off of whatever I'm worried about.
 
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