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How do you deal with someone flirting with your S.O. on social media?

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slackerinabox

Lifer
Firstly, a disclaimer: my wife didn't instigate, partake in, or humor this fellow at all (co-worker, and nearly all are on her facebook) - she deleted him swiftly so this isn't about her.

Anyways, my wife reposted an innocent post from a blog she reads (Jezebel) and some creepy, pimply faced coworker (of less than 2 months, at that - she just started) replied "Who's this Jez. posting, B est C0ast listening girl? I'm intrigued - you may be more interesting than I thought!"

Now, I know game theory and a passive aggressive neg ("I don't come off as interesting?") when I see one and his post was inappropriate especially since she's a married new mother... And how is she supposed to reply to that?

Anyways, my question is - what would/did you do when someone posts something even marginally flirty on your long term gf/wife's page? I know common knowledge is that it's insecure to say anything BUT everyone I know who doesn't seem to mind also seems to have questionable standards of ethics and morality to me (in other words, the friends who just don't care if someone flirts with their gf seem to be have records of cheating themselves, so their advice isn't very meaningful to me).

Just sit back or say something? I'm not really asking for advice, I already acted (and swiftly!) - but what would you do?
 
Don't take it personal. Most guys are so horny they will try to fuck anything that is warm and moves. If it becomes a pattern then you firebomb the dudes house.
 
freedomsbeat212 said:
Who's this Jezebel posting, Best Coast listening girl? I'm intrigued - you may be more interesting than I thought!"
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I can't comprehend what this sentence means. What is best coast listening girl?

And I'm not sure how "you may be more interesting than I thought" is supposed to be flirting. Maybe he's just trying to break the ice considering they've worked together less than 2 months?

I think you're paranoid.
 
Flirting online is so far down my list of concerns it doesn't even register. Hell, Alke's posts rank higher than online flirts.
 
Reason # 534234 why facebook sucks and I simply refuse to use it (EVER)

What would I do? I would never be there to begin with.

Anyways.....you cannot control other people, simple as that. And don't worry about anything you can't control.

What would I do? I would let my wife deal with it/her problem. And of course I would recommend her getting off facebook (if she asked).

Facebook is a giant megaphone for retards. 😉
 
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pelov said:
I can't comprehend what this sentence means. What is best coast listening girl?

And I'm not sure how "you may be more interesting than I thought" is supposed to be flirting. Maybe he's just trying to break the ice considering they've worked together less than 2 months?

I think you're paranoid.
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It's 20 year old hipster flirting (we're 30 and well above that b.s.) - Best Coast is a band. It's the "I'm intrigued [by you]" and the implication that there's more to discover, which is classic game.

Maybe I'm paranoid, but she agreed that it was an unprofessional comment
 
I would trust my wife enough to know that she loves me and won't even notice his advances as anything other than creepy.
 
A 20-year old hipster makes a harmless comment to your wife over facebook and you think he wants to sex0r her.

You're paranoid.
 
You need to be the pack leader and express your dominance. I suggest peeing on his shoes.

Or you could just trust your wife and let it go.
 
if it happens just once it's fine... more than that it's creepy... but unless your wife is partaking in it, just laugh it off.
 
Capt Caveman said:
This. OP is insecure and doesn't trust his wife.
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I don't believe in that. A friend of mine posts a booby picture of herself, guys comment in the hundreds and her BF doesn't say a thing - my immediate thought is "this is sending the vibe that he doesn't care and it's open season!" I trust my wife very much and am not threatened by some scrawny hipsters (if it were Javier Bardhem or Brad Pitt that instigated then, yes, I'd be insecure), it's the message that being indifferent puts out that makes me ...curious...
 
freedomsbeat212 said:
I don't believe in that. A friend of mine posts a booby picture of herself, guys comment in the hundreds and her BF doesn't say a thing - my immediate thought is "this is sending the vibe that he doesn't care and it's open season!" I trust my wife very much and am not threatened by some scrawny hipsters (if it were Javier Bardhem or Brad Pitt that instigated then, yes, I'd be insecure), it's the message that being indifferent puts out that makes me ...curious...
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Thanks for confirming that you're insecure and don't trust your wife.
 
freedomsbeat212 said:
I don't believe in that. A friend of mine posts a booby picture of herself, guys comment in the hundreds and her BF doesn't say a thing - my immediate thought is "this is sending the vibe that he doesn't care and it's open season!" I trust my wife very much and am not threatened by some scrawny hipsters (if it were Javier Bardhem or Brad Pitt that instigated then, yes, I'd be insecure), it's the message that being indifferent puts out that makes me ...curious...
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Random nearly incomprehensible post on Facebook = pics of boobies?

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