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slackerinabox

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So my gf's sister needed a ride up from Manhattan to Long Island the other day (a 20-30 mile trip)... I let my gf drive (I don't like driving much) but I went along because I needed to do some shopping myself... Let's call her "Kara"... Kara's nearing 30 yet having her sitting in the back seat was worse than driving from NYC to L.A. with a 5 year old in the back.. We got stuck in traffic and she asked how long it would take.. My gf, a person who doesn't like to bullsh1t, said that she didn't really know but could guess 20 minutes or so... Kara then said "what do you mean that you don't know? How long is this going to take!?" My gf then calmly explained that traffic on the expressway could last for hours or speed up after the next exit- she said that she really can't tell at this point.. Still, Kara insisted that we give her an E.T.A... Frustrated I shouted "21.45 minutes"... On her way to the place (a place that we were taking her as a favor, mind you- to buy a freaking luxury pillow) she kept on asking how many exits were left.. Since the destination was a place we go to often we didnt' really know the exact exact number.. We tried to explain that but, again, she asked for an exact exit number.. I firmly said that I had no idea and she then shut up.. For 5 minutes... "We're at exit 15.. How many exits are left now?".. To that I just turned my radio back up....

When we got to the store I quickly went my own way and headed to the home audio section.. I told her that I would be going there yet she still threw a hissy fit - "I thought I lost you guys!" On the way back I was driving and, since we were stuck in traffic I started detouring to go a different way... She asked why I was getting off the highway.. I told her because of the traffic and that I knew a different way.. She then incredibly asked me if the different way was better... I quickly quipped that it was actually much slower and that I was just in the mood for some nice scenary... So she shut up for the rest of the trip...

My gf noticed me being snippy and asked that I apologize.. I refused since any such apologize would have been false.. My gf then explained that Kara's a lawyer and probably had to get home in a rush to get back to work.. My theory is that she should have then stayed home and not gone out pillow shopping... How do you deal with these kinda people? I wanted to pull all of my hair out and almost asked her to get out of my car.. Am I over reacting?

Thanks for letting me vent!
 
spaceman

spaceman

Lifer
Dec 4, 2000
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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
So my gf's sister needed a ride up from Manhattan to Long Island the other day (a 20-30 mile trip)... I let my gf drive (I don't like driving much) but I went along because I needed to do some shopping myself... Let's call her "Kara"... Kara's nearing 30 yet having her sitting in the back seat was worse than driving from NYC to L.A. with a 5 year old in the back.. We got stuck in traffic and she asked how long it would take.. My gf, a person who doesn't like to bullsh1t, said that she didn't really know but could guess 20 minutes or so... Kara then said "what do you mean that you don't know? How long is this going to take!?" My gf then calmly explained that traffic on the expressway could last for hours or speed up after the next exit- she said that she really can't tell at this point.. Still, Kara insisted that we give her an E.T.A... Frustrated I shouted "21.45 minutes"... On her way to the place (a place that we were taking her as a favor, mind you- to buy a freaking luxury pillow) she kept on asking how many exists were left.. Since the destination was a place we go to often we didnt' really know the exact exact number.. We tried to explain that but, again, she asked for an exact exit number.. I firmly said that I had no idea and she then shut up.. For 5 minutes... "We're at exit 15.. How many exits are left now?".. To that I just turned my radio back up....

When we got to the store I quickly went my own way and headed to the home audio section.. I told her that I would be going there yet she still threw a hissy fit - "I thought I lost you guys!" On the way back I was driving and, since we were stuck in traffic I started detouring to go a different way... She asked why I was getting off the highway.. I told her because of the traffic and that I knew a different way.. She then incredibly asked me if the different way was better... I quickly quipped that it was actually much slower and that I was just in the mood for some nice scenary... So she shut up for the rest of the trip...

My gf noticed me being snippy and asked that I apologize.. I refused since any such apologize would have been false.. My gf then explained that Kara's a lawyer and probably had to get home in a rush to get back to work.. My theory is that she should have then stayed home and not gone out pillow shopping... How do you deal with these kinda people? I wanted to pull all of my hair out and almost asked her to get out of my car.. Am I over reacting?

Thanks for letting me vent!
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cliffnotes?

 
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Firus

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That's the kind of crap that no one should have to put up with. You were the one driving, the passengers are there for the free ride and should appreciate every minute of the freeness
 
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Wallydraigle

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Nov 27, 2000
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I don't have anything to do with people like that. If I have to be around them I try to piss them off so they just shut up and I don't have to listen to it.
 
tyler811

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
So my gf's sister needed a ride up from Manhattan to Long Island the other day (a 20-30 mile trip)... I let my gf drive (I don't like driving much) but I went along because I needed to do some shopping myself... Let's call her "Kara"... Kara's nearing 30 yet having her sitting in the back seat was worse than driving from NYC to L.A. with a 5 year old in the back.. We got stuck in traffic and she asked how long it would take.. My gf, a person who doesn't like to bullsh1t, said that she didn't really know but could guess 20 minutes or so... Kara then said "what do you mean that you don't know? How long is this going to take!?" My gf then calmly explained that traffic on the expressway could last for hours or speed up after the next exit- she said that she really can't tell at this point.. Still, Kara insisted that we give her an E.T.A... Frustrated I shouted "21.45 minutes"... On her way to the place (a place that we were taking her as a favor, mind you- to buy a freaking luxury pillow) she kept on asking how many exists were left.. Since the destination was a place we go to often we didnt' really know the exact exact number.. We tried to explain that but, again, she asked for an exact exit number.. I firmly said that I had no idea and she then shut up.. For 5 minutes... "We're at exit 15.. How many exits are left now?".. To that I just turned my radio back up....

When we got to the store I quickly went my own way and headed to the home audio section.. I told her that I would be going there yet she still threw a hissy fit - "I thought I lost you guys!" On the way back I was driving and, since we were stuck in traffic I started detouring to go a different way... She asked why I was getting off the highway.. I told her because of the traffic and that I knew a different way.. She then incredibly asked me if the different way was better... I quickly quipped that it was actually much slower and that I was just in the mood for some nice scenary... So she shut up for the rest of the trip...

My gf noticed me being snippy and asked that I apologize.. I refused since any such apologize would have been false.. My gf then explained that Kara's a lawyer and probably had to get home in a rush to get back to work.. My theory is that she should have then stayed home and not gone out pillow shopping... How do you deal with these kinda people? I wanted to pull all of my hair out and almost asked her to get out of my car.. Am I over reacting?

Thanks for letting me vent!
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throw her out
 
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Wuffsunie

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She's a lawyer? Damn. I'd hate to see her during a trial of any kind.

Too bad the GF was there, or you could have ditched her at the store.

I definetly would have been way more harsh with her, but there's the whole GF factor to consider. Next time just smack her down with one of the suggested responses here in a nice, calm tone of voice. Even if she dosen't pick up on it, your GF should. And you'll be a little more justified if and when you toss her into traffic.
 
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LordMorpheus

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Aug 14, 2002
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I don't like back-seat whiners.

So i either ignore them, or mock them viciously. Nothing shoots your blood pressure up like holding in good insults. And nothing lowers it like letting said insults taste freedom.
 
Legendary

Legendary

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Tell her to shut the hell up. That is all. People like that piss me off to no end.
 
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slackerinabox

Lifer
Mar 15, 2003
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Yeah, I tried blasting the music (ok, not really blasting but playing loud enough to distract myself) but she's the kind of brat that asks the driver to turn down the radio.... So anything about a 8 (out of 30 on the radio) annoyed her and she would bitch.. now, call me old fashioned, but when your in someone's car - someone who's doing YOU a favor- you don't bitch about the volume... That wasn't a pleasant night... We went through a neighborhood that was heavily populated by indian people and she asked me why the stores were closed so early..I (being an indian) just replied that new immigrant indians have a tendency not to shop very late and that they don't go clubbing that often... Now I was just jokingly referring to how conservative some indians are- she then proceeded to give ME, the child of immigrants, a lecture about how that's racist and stereotypical! grr.... sorry.. i'm done.. i promise!
 
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Gunther

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I would have told her to shutup :) I can't stand people like that. I would have told her either to shutup(you can say this politely :) ) or we all go back and drop her off. You do not owe her an apology, she owes you an apology for being an ass when you guys were doing her a favor.
 
waggy

waggy

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Dec 14, 2000
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doh. my mother-in-law is like this.

she complainers about everything. She will start by complaining its taking to long to get there then she will complain I'm speeding. She does this with everyone who drives.

finally i got tired of it and asked her if she would like to drive (she hates driving) when she said no i asked her to then shut up and let me drive. she got mad but it kept her quit for the trip.

she did it again on the way back from the Zoo. i had told them before the trip to not start that crap. when she started i just pulled over to the side of the tollway and turned off the van. and asked who was driving because i was done (noddy else likes to drive) my wife begged me to drive again and i refused. finally after them apologizing i drove off. but at least she kept quit.
 
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