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Originally posted by: Riprorin
talk over you, cut you off, and don't let you get a word in edgewise without being disrespectful.

My father-in-law has this habit and my wife acquired it from him.
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With all due respect,many times when you post here you come across as dismissive and convey the attitude that you are superior to others and are just humoring them by responding to their POV.Add facial expression and body language to match that and you've got a receipe that infuriates some types of people.Obviously,since I don't know you in real time that's just a guess,so if the shoe doesn't fit don't wear it.

Btw,you might try telling her directly,at a time when you aren't in conflict and perhaps come up with a rule or two concerning this so situations don't escalt to the point where you feel cut off or disrespected.
 
In general my wife's is attitude is this is the way I am/ this is the way it is, deal with it.

She doesn't like to go out and as she doesn't make friends easily, so we don't have many social contacts.

I'm a fairly driven person so while I try to get along with everyone at work (and am generally pretty successful at it), I'm not above stepping on toes to get the job done. Failure is never an option for me.

My general observation is that strong-willed, liberal, opinionated women tend to dislike me.😉, usually based on superficial assumptions.

I work for such a woman, however, and we get along great. Principally, I suspect, because I am very good at my job and make her look good plus since I work for her, she's gotten to know me better.

As far as my behavior here, I am passionate about my beliefs and my beliefs tend to go against the grain. That obviously doesn't make me very popular with some people.


 
Originally posted by: Riprorin
In general my wife's is attitude is this is the way I am/ this is the way it is, deal with it.

She doesn't like to go out and as she doesn't make friends easily, so we don't have many social contacts.

I'm a fairly driven person so while I try to get along with everyone at work (and am generally pretty successful at it), I'm not above stepping on toes to get the job done. Failure is never an option for me.

My general observation is that strong-willed, liberal, opinionated women tend to dislike me.😉, usually based on superficial assumptions.

I work for such a woman, however, and we get along great. Principally, I suspect, because I am very good at my job and make her look good plus since I work for her, she's gotten to know me better.

As far as my behavior here, I am passionate about my beliefs and my beliefs tend to go against the grain. That obviously doesn't make me very popular with some people.
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You also strike me as a person who feels that " this is the way I am/ this is the way it is, deal with it."

As to my opinions of you,they are only based on my observations of our interactions in a text based medium.I will say here however much you might hide it at work I suspect you don't have much use for any woman who might dare to attempt to interupt you while you pontificate on any subject that you consider yourself an expert in.
 
Originally posted by: Riprorin
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Does your wife work? Frequently parents who don't get a lot of adult conversation will build up a lot of thoughts that need to come out, and end up talking non-stop when they finally get someone to talk to.
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No, she stays at home.
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That's the problem, ultimately. I know from personal experience that staying home with small children and not having a lot of contact with adults other than your spouse can make you bottle up thoughts to the point where you want to burst from the lack of adult conversation. When she gets the chance to talk to an adult, she probably feels like a dam bursts. How can you help? Go out more often, be around others more. Help her to get outlets and intellectual stimulation. Being insulting won't help her with her underlying problems, which most likely are not rooted in disrespect for others, but in the isolation that she feels. If you insult or make fun of her, you will make her feel even more isolated and feel that she should just stop talking about anything with you at all because she'll just invite ridicule.
 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Riprorin
In general my wife's is attitude is this is the way I am/ this is the way it is, deal with it.

She doesn't like to go out and as she doesn't make friends easily, so we don't have many social contacts.

I'm a fairly driven person so while I try to get along with everyone at work (and am generally pretty successful at it), I'm not above stepping on toes to get the job done. Failure is never an option for me.

My general observation is that strong-willed, liberal, opinionated women tend to dislike me.😉, usually based on superficial assumptions.

I work for such a woman, however, and we get along great. Principally, I suspect, because I am very good at my job and make her look good plus since I work for her, she's gotten to know me better.

As far as my behavior here, I am passionate about my beliefs and my beliefs tend to go against the grain. That obviously doesn't make me very popular with some people.
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You also strike me as a person who feels that " this is the way I am/ this is the way it is, deal with it."

As to my opinions of you,they are only based on my observations of our interactions in a text based medium.I will say here however much you might hide it at work I suspect you don't have much use for any woman who might dare to attempt to interupt you while you pontificate on any subject that you consider yourself an expert in.
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Nah, I'm not a sexist - I treat men and women the same and don't have any hang ups about women in authority. I can also be conciliatory although I do have strongly held beliefs. By and large my personality has served me okay.

My main problem is that I probably married the wrong woman.

I wanted kids otherwise perhaps I shouldn't have gotten married at all. One thing I've discovered about myself is that I enjoy being alone and prefer to deal with people in short spurts.

I don't think that you can infer too much about a person from a venue like this. I view this as outlet for debate; I'm not nearly as argrumentative in real life.😉
 
well what about people who pause while talking? It would seem that they are done talking and as soon as you start talking they continue on making it look like you are cutting them off ?
 
I had an ex-gf who was like this.
Note the "ex"

That talking over me drove me nuts. I just never talked when she was around, which most people find odd b/c I'm normally pretty chatty.

It bothered me even more when she did it to other people b/c I felt like she was being rude and making both of us look bad.
 
Originally posted by: Riprorin
talk over you, cut you off, and don't let you get a word in edgewise without being disrespectful.

My father-in-law has this habit and my wife acquired it from him.
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Advice? . . . isn't it a little LATE . . . now? 😛

OK - get used to it or get out . . . you ain't gonna change anyone elses habits.

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: Riprorin


My main problem is that I probably married the wrong woman.
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The Virgin Mary was already taken
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She has the magical ability to remain a virgin after childbirth, too! So you can keep bustin that shiz. 😉
 
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: Riprorin
talk over you, cut you off, and don't let you get a word in edgewise without being disrespectful.

My father-in-law has this habit and my wife acquired it from him.
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She's probably tired of listening to a little man blather on about being a Christian Martyr and the Atkins Diet.
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Actually, I know her position and I don't talk to her about either topic.

She's doesn't go to church and she's on an ultra-low fat diet.

Neither is very good for you, imo.



 
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