How do you deal with death?

[AzAbyss]

The reason I ask is I recently had a family member pass away and was wondering how other people handle somebody close to them dying. Also, what do you believe happens to a person when they die?

-Az

 

[Rallispec]

when you die.. you're just kinda gone.. i dont believe in heaven or hell.

 

[Elledan]

Understand it.



<< Also, what do you believe happens to a person when they die? >>

Well, they die.

Anything other 'theories' are based on mostly superstition and very few facts.

 

[Czar]

I lost two family members last year, uncle and grandmother. The best way to deal with it is accepting it, lives come and go its just a part of life
I belive nothing happens to you when you die, except that you die and thats it.

 

[CyberCowboy]

1. get drunk
2. kill yourself.
3. Pretend it never happened.
4. Accept it and move on.

hehe... I like 1 & 4. But I would probably do #4.

 

[pyonir]

<< when you die.. you're just kinda gone.. i dont believe in heaven or hell. >>


what he said. and how do i deal with it? it makes me sad when i hear about it, but there is nothing you can do. they are gone. makes no sense disrupting your own life because you are so deep in grief that you can't function. my aunt died just this last week, whom i as close to. i am 1800 miles away, so there is nothing i can do for my family so i don't let it affect me. i just think of her once in a while, but i don't let it get me down. i look at the cool stuff we did and my first memories of her. not life without her. i don't know, i have always felt death is a fact of life, deal with it. so that is what i do.

 

[kuk]

I have a friend whose mom passed away in the end of last year ... she turned to friends, especially me, for comfort and to talk about what happened. She's still in state of shock, still unable to believe that her mom is gone ... but she's continuing with life. Now she's visiting a shrink, which might clear things up a bit for her ... leading her to answers that she couldn't come up with before.

 

[Dumbledore]

i've had lots of ppl close to me die..i guess whether or not you believe in heaven or hell, one must HOPE that there has to be more to life than the world we live in.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

When I die, I'll let you know.

Nik

 

[Geekbabe]

<< The reason I ask is I recently had a family member pass away and was wondering how other people handle somebody close to them dying. Also, what do you believe happens to a person when they die?

-Az >>



well, one of the things we do is to tell the grief stricken that we are sorry for their loss

 

[Hammer]

I accept it as the natural order of things, and try to remember the good times shared with that person. That's all you can really do.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

You have my condolences.

Grief is different for different people... I just try to remember the good things about the person... Dealing with it basically boils down to time.

 

[InfectedMushroom]

<< Also, what do you believe happens to a person when they die? >>



When you die, you die. You stop receiving new information and knowledge. That's the part that I am most sad about when I think about dieing.

 

[Sepen]

I have had both of my Parents pass away. My Mothers death was suddenly. My Fathers death came about over a long period of time. He did it with dignity and courage. Life goes on, deal with it. Hurts like he;; for a while. And like my Father I believe once you are dead, then that is it, death. Nothing, notta.

 

[fatalbert]

there isn't much to do, one try and accept what has happened. Or if they were suffering, be glad that their pain is at an end

 

[AgentOrange]

I've had two friends of mine die. They were both under age 25. One was shot and the other drowned. Those are the hardest to deal with without a doubt. If someone is older and passes away of "natural causes" it doesnt seem to hit as hard. I just remember them and make sure to talk to their family as much as possible. Death is tough no matter what though. Hang in there...

 

[SWScorch]

Sorry to hear about that.....

I believe that when you die, that is the end. No afterlife, no reincarnation, no heaven/hell thing. As for how I deal with death, it doesnt really affect me. When someone dies, its just like they're away or something. I'm not the type of person who would be grievously affected by death. Its a fact of life. I know when I die, I wouldn't want anyone to cry over it. Hell, I wouldn't know I'd be dead, so why be sad? Because they'll miss me?

It sounds to me like you're having trouble dealing with the death; you dont feel anything and are wonderinf if thats normal. Chances are it will catch up to you sooner or later. Try to acknowledge that its a part of life, and if you believe in heaven or any that, then take comfort in the assumption that they are in heaven.

 

[Azraele]

My mom died a few years back when I was a sophmore in college, the day before Thanksgiving. My dad naturally was a mess, so I took it upon myself to be the "stong one" only crying at night when no one else would see. I pretty much cried myself to sleep for months.

I believe in an afterlife of some sort, I just haven't figured out what kind of afterlife it is yet.

 

[deerslayer]

<< 2. kill yourself. >>



not funny man, my cousin killed himself September 8th of last year, i'm still trying to accept it and move on, i guess maybe if you've ever had someone in your family kill themselves, especially if it was someone you were really close to, you wouldn't joke about it, my friends still joke about it, i don't think they realize how much it bugs a person after they've had to deal with it

 

[Elledan]

<< My mom died a few years back when I was a sophmore in college, the day before Thanksgiving. My dad naturally was a mess, so I took it upon myself to be the "stong one" only crying at night when no one else would see. I pretty much cried myself to sleep for months. >>

I'm sorry it must have been an awful time =(



<< I believe in an afterlife of some sort, I just haven't figured out what kind of afterlife it is yet. >>

Why do you think that there is some kind of afterlife?

Just being curious...

 

[xirtam]

Every time I've died in the past, I've gone straight to heaven.

Just thought you should know.

 

[linuxboy]

How do you deal with death? The reason I ask is I recently had a family member pass away and was wondering how other people handle somebody close to them dying. Also, what do you believe happens to a person when they die?

When a bond is broken that was such a part of my self that it is though I die, unimaginable and excrutiating pain passes through my body. I writhe in agony and curse my meaningless existence and lament at how short and cruel life is. When death occurs, I am thrown between extreme poles of angst and solitude. Angry at myself for being helpless against it. Angry at others for having allowed it. Angry at the world for being in such a pitiful state that death occurs and that I have to feel as I do.

And so I stand in the austerity of my mind, afraid to move, afraid to cause any action, and try to prolong my own existence as much as possible, knowing that this meaningless act only provides a warm blanket of nihilism. I like it in this box and I build walls to close off myself to protect the pain from ever entering. I do such a good job that nothing at all bothers me. I'm able to be supra human and laugh at death while others around me cry and regard me with shifting suspicions. Then I finally build the roof and stay in the house, alone, and comforted that I don't have to deal with the outside world and death.

Slowly, a storm severe and unexpected cautiously starts washing my walls down. I am afraid. I remember what it means to be outside and I cower and hide. The rains come and destroy my efforts and my years of effort. And in this state I am naked and alone again, doomed to face my own self and death, that old enemy looms nearer.

So I get up from the ruins, a rising phoenix, and begin moving again, laughing at death and growing mad with time, waiting for the rains to come and knock down all the houses I see.

Once in awhile, I'll meet a stranger I've known since the dawn of time and we travel together, sharing everything. Such occurences are rare and are cherished. And then the friend too departs and I am again alone, doomed to choose which way to go.

When a person dies, that person's biological functions cease to function.


Cheers !

 

[Azraele]

<< << I believe in an afterlife of some sort, I just haven't figured out what kind of afterlife it is yet. >>

Why do you think that there is some kind of afterlife?

Just being curious... >>


I don't know, I just do. It's more of a feeling rather than any logical explanation of why I think that way. That answer your question?

 

[Infos]

Speaking of death....
On the Discovery channel right now till 10
'Science of Death: What Happens To the Human body Upon Death'

 

[Elledan]

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<< << I believe in an afterlife of some sort, I just haven't figured out what kind of afterlife it is yet. >>

Why do you think that there is some kind of afterlife?

Just being curious... >>


I don't know, I just do. It's more of a feeling rather than any logical explanation of why I think that way. That answer your question? >>

Well, you know what? You aren't being logical

Thanks for explaining, though