How do people enjoy being single and alone?

[sze5003]

There has to be something you wanted to always do when you were in a relationship that you couldn't do because of it say for time constraints ?

For example I love to take my motorcycle out every weekend. I can't do that every weekend because I'm not single and my gf doesn't drive and she spends weekends with me, so I have limited time to do things.

Get a hobby, if I were single I would be riding every weekend, going for my skydiving license since I would save some more money, see my friends more often, get time to play games more often, go on vacations whenever I want, not have to spend hours in a store for useless things that take me two seconds to find, not have to go to family events with the gf becsuse that's what she likes to do, watch whatever show on tv I want, probably more stuff I can't think of.

My relationship is alright but isn't really going as I expected either so who knows. But that's what I would do.

See your friends once or twice a week, travel, learn to ride a bike, etc. If I had a gym buddy I would go to the gym every week, going on my own..that will never happen because I'm skinny and can't lift 200lb with one hand and look jacked like everyone else in the gym.

 

[mnewsham]

I don't understand how people don't enjoy being alone.

You don't have to put up with anyone else and their bullshit. It's great.

I enjoy being alone, but I also enjoy meaningful sex with the opposite gender on a regular basis... Guess I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet and become more "social"

 

[ultimatebob]

I enjoy being alone, but I also enjoy meaningful sex with the opposite gender on a regular basis... Guess I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet and become more "social"

Heh... There are a lot of married men with children who haven't had sex (meaningful or otherwise) for months. Just keep that in mind.

 

[Red Squirrel]

Speaking of things you can do when single, I doubt most wives would allow men to build something like THIS in the basement:

http://imgur.com/a/VvoP3

 

[Staples]

I was really that jobless nerd living in their parents basement with no real friends till I was 26 or so. I am married and have children now but I was never really unhappy when I was younger. My wife needs lots of attention and it seems most people do but I guess I am just a weirdo.

 

[Newell Steamer]

It's fucking great.

Go where ever you want to, when ever. For vacation, dinner, drinks, etc.

Screw around. Bring any horny girl over for the night.

Fart. Belch. Shit with the bathroom door open.

Friend come and go as they, and you, please.

Blast music, movies, video games.

Howard put it best,.. one minor edit/addition; If you can't find happiness being single (yourself), you need to figure out a way to be happy being single (yourself).

 

[Anubis]

im not alone, the voices in my head keep me company

 

[z1ggy]

Two words: Flesh Light.

 

[sze5003]

It's fucking great.

Go where ever you want to, when ever. For vacation, dinner, drinks, etc.

Screw around. Bring any horny girl over for the night.

Fart. Belch. Shit with the bathroom door open.

Friend come and go as they, and you, please.

Blast music, movies, video games.

Howard put it best,.. one minor edit/addition; If you can't find happiness being single (yourself), you need to figure out a way to be happy being single.

I miss it haha but most of my friends moved away or are too busy to do stuff. Either way you are suppose to go and make new ones, find new things to do. The amount of free time you have when you go on a break or split up is tremendous. I didn't realize how much it was when I was single.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I enjoyed being single and living alone. Now that I'm married, I REALLY miss it.

 

[AViking]

There are so many groups and activities to be found. Facebook has tons, meetup, couchsurfing, and more. There is zero reason to be alone.

With that said it's important that you learn to be comfortable with yourself before you try to become comfortable with a new partner. Some alone time is good.

 

[PricklyPete]

I thoroughly enjoyed being single, but I would not give up my relationship with my wife for the world.

 

[Squeetard]

I enjoyed being single and living alone. Now that I'm married, I REALLY miss it.

"I never knew what true happiness was until I got married, but then it was too late".

 

[Lean L]

So this is an interesting thread. I am surprised this was not moved into L&R but I digress.

I think what everyone is saying is very much valid. You have to enjoy the small things in life like being able to take a whole evening off to just explore a park or visit a museum.

I think you should feel thankful for that you are a man and are able to experience these moments as a man. I think rarely do women have a chance to feel the misery that is single life for too long. Any woman can usually get snatched up pretty quickly just by dressing up and walking outside.

As a man, you will deal with the fact that it's not about your looks. If you have a current personality that seems to say that you are not enjoying yourself as best as you could, there will be no women lining up for you. This gives you a pretty good opportunity to really develop yourself instead of just being with someone all the time. It gives you a chance to evaluate your life and determine what is important to you or what you really enjoy.

I'm personally in the same boat. While I realize the opportunities that are available now, I do dearly miss the things that a girl can do to/for you.
I think in the end, you have to really hate yourself before you love yourself again.

There's always the possibility that you realize the world is complete crap instead of coming up with a more productive answer however... That's the scary part... that's the part that I'm trying to fight myself.

 

[M0oG0oGaiPan]

stay busy. you're free now. enjoy your single life. you can join a meetup group if you want to find people who have similar hobbies.

 

[BurnItDwn]

I don't know for sure how to answer the question. It sounds like you need to discover who you are, what makes you happy, what makes you tick. Find your passions in life.

 

[GasX]

If you are lost without someone else in your life, you need to find yourself before getting someone else in your life.

 

[poofyhairguy]

I don't regret being married for a second because my wife is awesome, but I do feel like that my fellow modern men are getting the shit end of the stick when it comes to potential partners.

I look at my wife's sister:

She has all these expectations for a man in her life (he better give me tons of jewelry, my engagement ring better be this big even though I haven't met the guy or know his budget, etc.), and she won't settle for a guy unless he treats HER right.

And what does she bring to the table?

She sucks at cooking unlike my wife. She watches the worst TV shows (Hart of Dixie) so no bonding over Picard like me and my wife. She is a slob by nature and she makes a teacher's salary but expects the world. She is so self-centered that I don't see how see can watch out for a guy or a kid if she had one. She is basically banking on her looks, and those decline year after year of her single life.

And more and more I meet these girls in my age group or younger like her that brings few traditional positives to a relationship like a nurturing spirit, talent in the kitchen or even a blockbuster career, but expect the world out of whatever man they get their claws in. A whole generation of women whose family treats them like a princess growing up, and they build up that sense of entitlement to an unrealistic extreme (unless you are a supermodel). Then they have the gall to ask where all the good single guys are when their concept of a "good" single guy is just as fairy tale as Barbie.

If I was a single guy and I kept meeting women like that then I would embrace being single too.

 

[SMOGZINN]

There's always the possibility that you realize the world is complete crap instead of coming up with a more productive answer however... That's the scary part... that's the part that I'm trying to fight myself.

To quote one of the modern worlds greatest philosophers,


If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle
- that's the thing.
And...always look on the bright
side of life...

 

[OverVolt]

I don't regret being married for a second because my wife is awesome, but I do feel like that my fellow modern men are getting the shit end of the stick when it comes to potential partners.

I look at my wife's sister:

She has all these expectations for a man in her life (he better give me tons of jewelry, my engagement ring better be this big even though I haven't met the guy or know his budget, etc.), and she won't settle for a guy unless he treats HER right.

And what does she bring to the table?

She sucks at cooking unlike my wife. She watches the worst TV shows (Hart of Dixie) so no bonding over Picard like me and my wife. She is a slob by nature and she makes a teacher's salary but expects the world. She is so self-centered that I don't see how see can watch out for a guy or a kid if she had one. She is basically banking on her looks, and those decline year after year of her single life.

And more and more I meet these girls in my age group or younger like her that brings few traditional positives to a relationship like a nurturing spirit, talent in the kitchen or even a blockbuster career, but expect the world out of whatever man they get their claws in. A whole generation of women whose family treats them like a princess growing up, and they build up that sense of entitlement to an unrealistic extreme (unless you are a supermodel). Then they have the gall to ask where all the good single guys are when their concept of a "good" single guy is just as fairy tale as Barbie.

If I was a single guy and I kept meeting women like that then I would embrace being single too.

Yea some girls are undateable. I have zero problem telling it to them. Girl was saying she wants an engagement ring that is at least 6 months of the guys salary when she is the type of girl that causes the divorce rate to be 50%+. Good luck finding anyone that stupid. She is single and upper 20's so good luck.

 

[5150Joker]

Why do all the nerds here always recommend the gym? Not everyone is an out of shape fat slob. Personally I think the OP should get together with some friends and just enjoy life and maybe date when you've gotten past your issues.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Why do all the nerds here always recommend the gym? Not everyone is an out of shape fat slob. Personally I think the OP should get together with some friends and just enjoy life and maybe date when you've gotten past your issues.

fwiw I'm pretty sure it's established that just the act of exercising tends to make people happier/feel empowered. Also, some of us are out of shape skinny slobs.

 

[Red Squirrel]

Another issue is society as a whole also expects men to bow down to woman. If we're not ready to give up everything for them, then we're being selfish.

 

[Thebobo]

Its ok, I got a cat, not sure why. He ignores me to.

 

[QueBert]

I love being alone, at one point I went 6 months without seeing another person or so much as uttering a word. It was very relaxing.