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gorcorps

gorcorps

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My entire family is at a complete loss on what to do. I'm the oldest of 3 kids with a sister younger than me and we've both been pretty good kids. Did well in school, didn't get in too much trouble (normal stuff most kids go through) but my little brother seems to be a lost cause. He's been caught stealing 3 times now, with a suspension from school for the last one for taking some kids ipod.

He just started high school and his grades are slipping for the dumbest reasons. He forgets to turn shit in and just plain doesn't do certain assignments. It's mind boggling why he doesn't turn things in, as he does do most of his work.

My parents aren't separated, my mom still is involved with school and constantly checks with his teachers to see where he is in the class. I honestly can't figure out what's different about his upbringing that he would turn out so bad.

What as an older brother can I do here? I honestly have no clue? My mom is in tears after seeing his grades and how little he cares, and we can't figure out why he doesn't give a shit.
 
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JJChicken

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Originally posted by: gorcorps
My entire family is at a complete loss on what to do. I'm the oldest of 3 kids with a sister younger than me and we've both been pretty good kids. Did well in school, didn't get in too much trouble (normal stuff most kids go through) but my little brother seems to be a lost cause. He's been caught stealing 3 times now, with a suspension from school for the last one for taking some kids ipod.

He just started high school and his grades are slipping for the dumbest reasons. He forgets to turn shit in and just plain doesn't do certain assignments. It's mind boggling why he doesn't turn things in, as he does do most of his work.

My parents aren't separated, my mom still is involved with school and constantly checks with his teachers to see where he is in the class. I honestly can't figure out what's different about his upbringing that he would turn out so bad.

What as an older brother can I do here? I honestly have no clue? My mom is in tears after seeing his grades and how little he cares, and we can't figure out why he doesn't give a shit.
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let him live his one life jeez. grades aren't all that important
 
A Casual Fitz

A Casual Fitz

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That's the dice you roll with having kids. There are much worse things that could happen.
 
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ric1287

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Originally posted by: Barack Obama
Originally posted by: gorcorps
My entire family is at a complete loss on what to do. I'm the oldest of 3 kids with a sister younger than me and we've both been pretty good kids. Did well in school, didn't get in too much trouble (normal stuff most kids go through) but my little brother seems to be a lost cause. He's been caught stealing 3 times now, with a suspension from school for the last one for taking some kids ipod.

He just started high school and his grades are slipping for the dumbest reasons. He forgets to turn shit in and just plain doesn't do certain assignments. It's mind boggling why he doesn't turn things in, as he does do most of his work.

My parents aren't separated, my mom still is involved with school and constantly checks with his teachers to see where he is in the class. I honestly can't figure out what's different about his upbringing that he would turn out so bad.

What as an older brother can I do here? I honestly have no clue? My mom is in tears after seeing his grades and how little he cares, and we can't figure out why he doesn't give a shit.
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let him live his one life jeez. grades aren't all that important
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yeah, cmonnn. Plenty of successful people failed out of high school and go on to lead productive lives.
 
oiprocs

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Originally posted by: ric1287
Originally posted by: Barack Obama
Originally posted by: gorcorps
My entire family is at a complete loss on what to do. I'm the oldest of 3 kids with a sister younger than me and we've both been pretty good kids. Did well in school, didn't get in too much trouble (normal stuff most kids go through) but my little brother seems to be a lost cause. He's been caught stealing 3 times now, with a suspension from school for the last one for taking some kids ipod.

He just started high school and his grades are slipping for the dumbest reasons. He forgets to turn shit in and just plain doesn't do certain assignments. It's mind boggling why he doesn't turn things in, as he does do most of his work.

My parents aren't separated, my mom still is involved with school and constantly checks with his teachers to see where he is in the class. I honestly can't figure out what's different about his upbringing that he would turn out so bad.

What as an older brother can I do here? I honestly have no clue? My mom is in tears after seeing his grades and how little he cares, and we can't figure out why he doesn't give a shit.
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let him live his one life jeez. grades aren't all that important
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yeah, cmonnn. Plenty of successful people failed out of high school and go on to lead productive lives.
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tee hee hee
 
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ggnl

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Originally posted by: CrackRabbit
A good old fashioned ass kicking sounds like what he needs.

But that is just my opinion.
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Probably a good idea actually. Sounds like he's maybe missing some discipline since dad's not around.
 
hanoverphist

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my cousin asked me this very question. he and his bro are 10 yrs behind me and my bro. in our case tho, i was the slacker. there is nothing you can really say to make him change, he has to realize the need to get an education on his own. forcing him will make him go thru the motions and get the grades, but unless he actually cares he wont learn a thing. my younger cousin, the one that was being asked about, is 29 and has spent the majority of his adult life in prison. he never did catch on at age 8 when he got his first B&E that he wasnt going to have a very successful career as a criminal. no amount of ass kicking from his bro has changed him, and no amount of help from his family has changed anything. i kind of miss him, he moved to new york for some girl. already got locked up for a year after only being there for 3 months.

sometimes you have to just bite the bullet, watch the decline and be there to help pick him up when life smacks the hell out of him and knocks him face first on the asphalt.
 
ConstipatedVigilante

ConstipatedVigilante

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It sounds like your dad needs to give him a good scolding. That always put my brother and I into line - no physical violence required, just a convincing display of intimidation.
 
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Atheus

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Wait 5 or 10 years? Maybe he'll turn out really well - you can never tell from performance at school. School is designed such that anyone with the capability for independent thought hates it viciously.
 
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Atheus

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Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: CrackRabbit
A good old fashioned ass kicking sounds like what he needs.

But that is just my opinion.
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Probably a good idea actually. Sounds like he's maybe missing some discipline since dad's not around.
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Maybe a bit old for that don't you think? I know what used to happen if people tried to 'discipline' me when I was 15...
 
ConstipatedVigilante

ConstipatedVigilante

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Really though, wait til he's 17 or so. Every 14/15 year old is a little punk trying to show that he's a man. It was interesting to see how people changed from middle school to the end of high school. The douchebaggery tends to subside.
 
Red Squirrel

Red Squirrel

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Try to make him understand that the path he's taking will lead him to being a bum on the street.

then again, some people are very short sighted with where their life is heading and really don't care at all. Though if he actually DOES the work and not turn it in, t hen that's really retarded, as he could actually be getting some half decent grades.

But if nothing works then let his future make him decide to change and if he still does not change then tough luck. Kick him out of the house by like 18, or as soon as he's done high school, if he chooses not to go to college (or can't). if he does choose to go to college then I would give him a bit of slack and let him live home but if not, present to him, the door. Byyyyyeeeee *retarded policeman voice*
 
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