So you really want to hear from her that she doesn't want to see you anymore because there is another guy or she can't stand you or you creep her out...etc, etc... Dude your just setting yourself up to be crushed harder...your already in pain, why make it worse????
dude... at this point, 2 things are clear.
1. she doesn't want to talk to you. : she's avoiding you.
2. you do not want to be in a relationship where the other party doesn't want to speak to you... or avoid you.
for your sake... just let her be.
she's not worth it. i don't know jack about you. but even then, i can say... that she's not worth your time.
there are many other fish in the sea.
if one avoids your bait... don't go chasing that one fish, asking why.
women are evil like that.
and i guess, men are dumb like that too.
1. she doesn't want to talk to you. : she's avoiding you.
2. you do not want to be in a relationship where the other party doesn't want to speak to you... or avoid you.
for your sake... just let her be.
she's not worth it. i don't know jack about you. but even then, i can say... that she's not worth your time.
there are many other fish in the sea.
if one avoids your bait... don't go chasing that one fish, asking why.
women are evil like that.
and i guess, men are dumb like that too.
It doesn't matter what the reason is if he said he's just going to accept it and move on. Besides, there's a good chance she'll lie to him with something like "It's not you, Its me!" or "I just needed some space".
What I think it's going to happen is that he WILL NOT just take the reason and go away. He would try to save the "relationship" by saying "I'll change!" or "But I don't do that anymore" bit.
The point is that even if she blanetly lies to him it's still a reason, it's easier to say and deal with "She's decided to become a lesbien." than "she just won't talk to me"
of course you'll wonder from that point on out if it was you that turned her gay.
You still need a reason why she broke up with you?
LOOK AT WHAT YOU ARE DOING!
Girls can smell desperation and low self esteem a mile and a half away. It's obvious why she stopped your "relationship." It wouldn't surprise me if you're the "clingy" type at all.
I do agree with iamwiz82 - if this was a longer relationship you're completely entltled to act like a nutjob, but if it was anything less than a year you need some therapy.
LOOK AT WHAT YOU ARE DOING!
Girls can smell desperation and low self esteem a mile and a half away. It's obvious why she stopped your "relationship." It wouldn't surprise me if you're the "clingy" type at all.
I do agree with iamwiz82 - if this was a longer relationship you're completely entltled to act like a nutjob, but if it was anything less than a year you need some therapy.
I was being facetious. But..... that brings up a good point.
Would guys prefer a woman telling them the truth in a relationship breakup?
What do you prefer? "I can't see you anymore because you are a conceited bastard, I hate your guts, You dress like a slob, I can't stand any minute with you. Please get the f*(* out of my life"
or "I don't think we're compatible" Which is sort of true, without going into details.
or "It's not you, it's me" Big lie.
Would guys prefer a woman telling them the truth in a relationship breakup?
What do you prefer? "I can't see you anymore because you are a conceited bastard, I hate your guts, You dress like a slob, I can't stand any minute with you. Please get the f*(* out of my life"
or "I don't think we're compatible" Which is sort of true, without going into details.
or "It's not you, it's me" Big lie.
Hah, you break up with me? Even if you did, honey, I'm too conceited to care why!
Seriously though, something along the lines of "I can't see myself in this relationship anymore" or "I just don't enjoy spending time with you" is good enough for me. Sometimes you just get sick of another person.
Luvya, I'd say just let it go. You obviously still care for her. What good will come from finding out why? It's either her, or it's you. If she says it's her, then you'll think she's lying. If she says it's you (and she could be lying, but it's what you'll believe anyways), then you'll be hurt even more, and try to change for her. Sometimes people just start annoying you for no apparent reason. That might've happened here.
And yes, I do dress like a slob.
dfi
Always the truth! It's hard to hear, but it's always better in the end, and definitely helps when you're trying to get over someone. Lies always end-up being too 'nice', so that whoever was broken up with might have a glimmer of hope that something can be salvaged, which in fact it cannot. Truth!
Closure is a load of horse sh!t.
Now let me explain what I mean by that. You can get over just about any problems you had in your relationship. Some are harder than others, of course, but I believe anyone can overcome anything. If you are being abused by your boyfriend, that can be overcome and you don't have to know the reason why you're boyfriend was beating you. Why don't you need to know? Because it's totally irrelevant. Time is a better method of healing yourself than closure. Obsessing over what happened and why will not get you back together with that person and it won't make things easier for anyone.
The only reason he wants to know why is probably because he'll want to try and fix it. The problem with that is that the girl has obviously made herself clear in what she wants. If she's not taking his calls, she doesn't want to be with him. It sucks, but it happens. Regardless of how long they've been together, if she doesn't want to give him a reason, then she doesn't have to. He needs to accept that and move on. Tricking her into answering the phone and then confronting her about what happened is only going to creep her out, make her afraid of you and piss her off.
You cannot make her tell you what is going through her head. You just have to accept that the two of you aren't right for each other and get on with your life. It's definitely easier said than done, but it's something that's completely possible. It may not seem like you'll ever be able to forget her and move on, but it you will. Chances are in a few months, you'll get so fuggin' tired of thinking about her and the situation, that you'll just get sick of the whole thing.
I'm not just talking out of my ass here. I'm speaking from plenty of personal experiences. If she wants to tell you, she would've told you. If she doesn't want to tell you, there's nothing you can do to make her. Either way, the reason she doesn't want to be with you isn't as important as saving your pride and accepting her decision like a man.
"Its guys like this that make scared about having a daughter =("
So, you would be very proud of your daughter to date some guy for a while, then just decide to never speak/see him again randomly one day? That's how you hope your daughter will act? And you would expect her former boyfriend to go "Oh, well, looks like this girl I've seen every day for the past six months, well, Im never going to see her again. Hmm. Strange. Oh well. Hey, bob, would you pass the salt please?"
So, you would be very proud of your daughter to date some guy for a while, then just decide to never speak/see him again randomly one day? That's how you hope your daughter will act? And you would expect her former boyfriend to go "Oh, well, looks like this girl I've seen every day for the past six months, well, Im never going to see her again. Hmm. Strange. Oh well. Hey, bob, would you pass the salt please?"
I wouldn't be proud of my daughter for doing that, but I would definitely respect her decision enough to let it go and leave her alone about it.
I think his point was that he doesn't want his daughter to run into guys who become this obsessive over things.
Uhmm . . . Luvya, having read many of your girl/women problem threads, I am guessing you are a timid guy/sissy type. I do not mean that in unkind sense at all.
I just mean you should try a bit to come off the shy mode. And be warned: Bugging a lady's number is not as enduring as when a lady bugs a guy's number. So, maybe you should leave her alone. You don't want to risk being charged with harassment. She could get a restraining order against you.
At some point in my life, I needed a reason too, for I so badly wanted a closure. But I knew realistically that I could not get it. So I stopped looking for an answer from the person involved. I found the answer myself, though I will never exactly know the other party's reason. You just need to move on with your life and avoid seeming like a pest/sticky person who's desperate and clinging onto someone who does not want to be bothered.
I just mean you should try a bit to come off the shy mode. And be warned: Bugging a lady's number is not as enduring as when a lady bugs a guy's number. So, maybe you should leave her alone. You don't want to risk being charged with harassment. She could get a restraining order against you.
At some point in my life, I needed a reason too, for I so badly wanted a closure. But I knew realistically that I could not get it. So I stopped looking for an answer from the person involved. I found the answer myself, though I will never exactly know the other party's reason. You just need to move on with your life and avoid seeming like a pest/sticky person who's desperate and clinging onto someone who does not want to be bothered.
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There are 3 ways to do this:
1) Call from a work/payphone number which shows as NOT AVAILABLE on someone's caller ID. How do you test this out? Try calling your cellphone from work/payphone or call your home (assuming you have caller ID) and ask them what name/number shows on the caller ID display.
2) *67 area code then 7 digit phone number
3) Call your local Bell phone company (assuming this is for your home not cell phone) and request that ALL outgoing calls do not display your phone number, a fee may apply.
1) Call from a work/payphone number which shows as NOT AVAILABLE on someone's caller ID. How do you test this out? Try calling your cellphone from work/payphone or call your home (assuming you have caller ID) and ask them what name/number shows on the caller ID display.
2) *67 area code then 7 digit phone number
3) Call your local Bell phone company (assuming this is for your home not cell phone) and request that ALL outgoing calls do not display your phone number, a fee may apply.
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