How do gay people meet, not including bars?

[ShawnD1]

I was watching Will & Grace and I can't understand how Jack keeps finding all these gay men to pound his ass. Like how do gay men actually find other gay men in real life? For straight people, it's really easy because men can just hit on any random girl and there's over 90% chance she's straight. For gay people, you would need to hit on 10-20 different guys before you even find a gay one, then on top of that he needs to be single, then on top of that he needs to be interested. After all that has cleared, it's like a trillion to one.

Can any gay people chime in to explain this?

 

[Heller]

why do you care how gay people meet? is there something your not telling us?

 

[A Casual Fitz]

why do you care how gay people meet? is there something your not telling us?

*you're... FUCK

 

[Numenorean]

*you're... FUCK

Don't mind him. He smokes weed and it has destroyed his brain. Or he just wasn't that bright in the first place.

 

[nageov3t]

depends on how desperate you are?

between gay bars, grindr, manhunt, and craigslist, hookups don't seem terribly difficult as long as you're not a complete troll.

not that I've ever used them for that myself, but the general impression I've gotten is that it's pretty easy if your standards aren't high.

 

[tboo]

They meet doing dirtpipe boomerangs

 

[brainhulk]

 

[Heller]

Don't mind him. He smokes weed and it has destroyed his brain. Or he just wasn't that bright in the first place.

 

[dwell]

The same ways as straight people. Jesus, what do you think they are, dogs or something?

 

[kami333]

Whole Foods

 

[ShawnD1]

Gay people work for the government?

They meet doing dirtpipe boomerangs

wtf does this even mean?

The same ways as straight people. Jesus, what do you think they are, dogs or something?

How do you know someone's gay though? Do you just assume that any man who starts talking to you in public is gay?

Adam: Hey there, are you waiting for the number 10 bus?
Steve: I notice you are a man, I am a man, and you are randomly talking to me. Are you gay?
Adam: Yep.
Steve: Your place or mine?
Adam: I have a hot tub
Steve: I don't have any shorts to wear in the tub
Adam: You won't need them

 

[MJinZ]

Whole Foods

Hah

 

[MJinZ]

How do you know someone's gay though? Do you just assume that any man who starts talking to you in public is gay?

Adam: Hey there, are you waiting for the number 10 bus?
Steve: I notice you are a man, I am a man, and you are randomly talking to me. Are you gay?
Adam: Yep.
Steve: Your place or mine?
Adam: I have a hot tub
Steve: I don't have any shorts to wear in the tub
Adam: You won't need them

You're over-complicating things. How do you know a girl is interested? I'm sure it's the same subtle clues like holding eye contact, gestures, smiles, winks, and then approach. I mean, as long as either party isn't a total social failure, I think you can communicate your intentions before you ever say a word to each other.

 

[dwell]

How do you know someone's gay though? Do you just assume that any man who starts talking to you in public is gay?

Unless they're in the closet most of the time it's pretty obvious. How do you know when you walk up to any random woman in the street they're not taken, etc?

 

[GasX]

OP, just take a wide stance in a public restroom

 

[ShawnD1]

You're over-complicating things. How do you know a girl is interested?

She's interested because she says stuff back. That's interpreted as the "let's fuck" signal because men and women are not "just friends" very often. Men, on the other hand, often have men around them that are just friends. If you're at Home Depot and some random dude starts talking to you about electrical equipment, it's possible that's he just friendly and isn't cruising for cock. I'm pretty sure all or most of my not-gay friendships with men have started by random conversation with a stranger.

If you're a girl, you can assume that a random guy talking to you is sexually attracted to you. If you're a guy, assuming he's gay and trying to hit on you is the worst assumption ever.

I'm sure it's the same subtle clues like holding eye contact, gestures, smiles, winks, and then approach. I mean, as long as either party isn't a total social failure, I think you can communicate your intentions before you ever say a word to each other.

Yikes. Now I wonder if I give out weird signals. When I talk to people, I always maintain eye contact and smile.

 

[lxskllr]

Yikes. Now I wonder if I give out weird signals. When I talk to people, I always maintain eye contact and smile.

It's just different. I used to attract queers like ugly on a monkey, and I could always tell when some dude was hitting on me, as opposed to some random guy chatting.

 

[ShawnD1]

Unless they're in the closet most of the time it's pretty obvious. How do you know when you walk up to any random woman in the street they're not taken, etc?

Um ya kinda don't. My gf has lots of stories about being hit on. One of my coworkers flirts with me a lot and asks me out on dates. I can name lots of times where me and a coworker at some bullshit job like Best Buy get along really well, so I ask her out on a date only to find that she already has a boyfriend. You can't tell someone is single until you ask them.

As for spotting gays, it's not that easy. The stereotype ones dress exactly like metrosexuals... or more accurately metros dress exactly like gays. My manager at Best Buy was gay, but I didn't know that until a week before leaving that job. He had the typical well-maintained hair, well-fitting jeans, and nice shoes and shirt that any self respecting man would wear. Go to any university and you'll find literally thousands of men dressed like that.

 

[MJinZ]

She's interested because she says stuff back. That's interpreted as the "let's fuck" signal because men and women are not "just friends" very often. Men, on the other hand, often have men around them that are just friends. If you're at Home Depot and some random dude starts talking to you about electrical equipment, it's possible that's he just friendly and isn't cruising for cock. I'm pretty sure all or most of my not-gay friendships with men have started by random conversation with a stranger.

If you're a girl, you can assume that a random guy talking to you is sexually attracted to you. If you're a guy, assuming he's gay and trying to hit on you is the worst assumption ever.



Yikes. Now I wonder if I give out weird signals. When I talk to people, I always maintain eye contact and smile.

Do you do those things................. BEFORE you even talk to them?

Then yes, you are giving out weird signals. Obviously during the conversation is a different matter.

I can just see you now, look a guy up from head to toe, look in his eyes to see his reaction, smile and wink, and watch his reaction, and he smiles back, and you approach him and start "hey man, I see you like electrical equipment. Wanna shop together?"

lololol :awe:

 

[MJinZ]

It's just different. I used to attract queers like ugly on a monkey, and I could always tell when some dude was hitting on me, as opposed to some random guy chatting.

Pics of GTFO shens.

 

[MJinZ]

Um ya kinda don't. My gf has lots of stories about being hit on. One of my coworkers flirts with me a lot and asks me out on dates. I can name lots of times where me and a coworker at some bullshit job like Best Buy get along really well, so I ask her out on a date only to find that she already has a boyfriend. You can't tell someone is single until you ask them.

As for spotting gays, it's not that easy. The stereotype ones dress exactly like metrosexuals... or more accurately metros dress exactly like gays. My manager at Best Buy was gay, but I didn't know that until a week before leaving that job. He had the typical well-maintained hair, well-fitting jeans, and nice shoes and shirt that any self respecting man would wear. Go to any university and you'll find literally thousands of men dressed like that.

Unless they have a ring.

Or aren't trashy slutty flirters. :sneaky:

And yes, 90% of gays behave and act normally. 5% are ultra feminine and then you'll find the other 5% which are ultra masculine.

Of course, the only obvious gay people are the 5% ultra fems - so what we see is what stereotype. The other 95% are just manly straight men after all. :hmm:

 

[IronWing]

Gaydar is real. It just works.

 

[ShawnD1]

Do you do those things................. BEFORE you even talk to them?

Then yes, you are giving out weird signals. Obviously during the conversation is a different matter.

I can just see you now, look a guy up from head to toe, look in his eyes to see his reaction, smile and wink, and watch his reaction, and he smiles back, and you approach him and start "hey man, I see you like electrical equipment. Wanna shop together?"

lololol :awe:

When it comes to women who are just friends, yeah I actually do that.

 

[nageov3t]

Pics of GTFO shens.

I've got this one friend who always seems to have gay guys hitting on him.

pisses me the hell off because, like, one -- he's not even really attractive, and two -- fuck off and stop cock blocking me.

 

[silverpig]

They sit around and watch Will and Grace. Then post about it on the internet.