How did your parents react when you told them you were getting married?

[Buttsmacker]

Originally posted by: Garet Jax

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Title says it all. What kind of reaction did you get? Did you tell them in person or over the phone? What kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Were they suspecting it was coming anyway?

My parents were not overjoyed when I told them and they made it pretty clear. They said things like "You know marriage is for life" and "Once this is done it is very difficult to undo".

A few things happened that allowed them to see why I fell in love with my wife and they backed off, but I don't know that they were ever very happy.

Remember you are marrying the person you like and love, not the one your parents do. When times get rough in your marriage (and they will) your parents are not the ones with whom you will work through the issues.

and what about if he wants to make you have a ceremony for his parents?... the same ones who don't like you!

 

[Rogeee]

Well let's see, I'm 42 and just got engaged, my parents passed away in 1976, I'm going to assume that they are rolling over in their graves.

 

[dirtboy]

If your parents or her parents don't like either one of you, you will have problems because of it. Family gathering will be infrequent and awkward. As I grew up, I changed the girls I dated as I looked more for someone that will get along with me (difficult) but my friends and family as well. And vice versa. It's really nice bring your gf around your family knowing they like her and going around her family knowing they like you.

Otherwise those events are stressful and not fun.

My gf's sister doesn't like me, but she's a bitch anyways. Her husband is cool, so I just mostly ignore her when she's around, and she automatically ignores me, so it's a mutual thing now.

 

[jjones]

They gave condolences to my soon-to-be wife.

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: Garet Jax
They will come around in time.

If not, you will see more of your parent's shortcomings and have to learn to live with them.

Good luck, but don't even think of not getting married because of your parents.

I'm pretty aware of my parent's shortcomings, no candy-eyed view of things there. I'm not thinking of changing my plans because of them....more just trying to predict what their reaction will be. I know I won't get that from here, but it is at least food for thought until I find out myself. 🙂

 

[BatmanNate]

Mine were in on it ahead of time and my mom helped me out with my scheme. Both were supportive and happy to be a part. My MIL on the other hand, cried tears that I don't think were joyful.

 

[Buttsmacker]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: Garet Jax
They will come around in time.

If not, you will see more of your parent's shortcomings and have to learn to live with them.

Good luck, but don't even think of not getting married because of your parents.

I'm pretty aware of my parent's shortcomings, no candy-eyed view of things there. I'm not thinking of changing my plans because of them....more just trying to predict what their reaction will be. I know I won't get that from here, but it is at least food for thought until I find out myself. 🙂

like i said, let's just email them

 

[thecoolnessrune]

I live with and have been raised by my grandparents. I dont really expect they will still be alive when I get married.

 

[Vette73]

Well being from a "republican" family they were not to happy. But I think the part of if you don't like her then you don't have to worry about EVER seeing any grandchildren. 🙂

Now they have hung around and gone shopping with my wife, and some of her family a little bit, they like her a lot. They, my parents, are also trying to learn to speak vietnamese.
Of course now my mom just keeps asking about grandchildren. 😛

 

[Ninjja]

Originally posted by: silverpig
Me: Mom, Dad, I'm planning on asking Heather to marry me in the next week.
Mom: *happy cries*
Dad: Son, we're gonna have a talk about this...
Me: It's kind of too late... I already have a ring.
Dad: Oh, well, then congratulations son. *shakes hand*
Mom: *happy cries*

lol, this is cute.

 

[Alone]

Oops.