How can I help my friend? She is majorly bummed out...

[gopunk]

over life, etc... fight with parents, self, etc. she thinks her life is screwed up, etc.

anyways, she is like on a hunger strike and does nothing but stay in bed. and when i call her, she has a really weak voice and does not want to talk for long. she doesn't want to do anything.

what can i do? i'm going to visit her tomorrow and bring her a magazine she likes (MIT technology review).

 

[AreaCode707]

Sounds depressed for sure. Take her out to lunch, do what you can to get her outside and involved in some things. That's the best nonclinical advice I can give you. Suggestion two, if you think it merits it, is to maybe get her to see a counselor of some sort.

 

[Azraele]

How about a friendship flower? Or make her a good homecooked meal. See if you can get her to go out. Or just sit there and be with her, let her talk.

 

[Ausm]

Take her out to eat at a nice restaurant


Ausm

 

[Swag1138]

Just tell her that her life isnt messed up. She might be in pain right now, but pain is how we know we are really alive.

I used to be really really messed up about my life, and my life is truly screwed up right now (I came out of the ignorance that led to my becoming an overweight lazy peice of crap, and now Im trying to fix all that. Not an easy thing to do, to overturn 19 years of crap. I was like her, till I realized that my life sucked, yes, but it wasnt going to get any better unless I did something about it. I decided to embrace the pain and let it fuel me to improve myself.

She will find her own way to deal with it, I would actually say the best thing you could possibly do for her is be there to listen to her. Dont let her keep her feelings inside, that is probably the least healthy thing that she could do. I wouldnt have reached the above conclusion without my friends who wouldnt let me hide myself away.

 

[gopunk]

but what do i do when she says no (which she will)? she refuses to eat at all...

she also refuses to do anything else... i asked her if she wanted to do something tomorrow, and she was like "no". but i'm going to go over anyways... her parents asked me to.

hotchic - yea, i was hoping it wouldn't have to come to that. i dunno, we'll see i guess...

 

[Anubis]

see if you can get her out of the house. do something that might bring meaning back into her life

Pics?

 

[Doboji]

Help her as much as you can, but dont sacrifice yourself to do so. You're only a friend you can't be her savior..

-Max