How angry would you get?

[littlebitstrouds]

I recently made a post looking for a matching hard drive for my older sata drive, so I could set up a raid array. Someone had it and agreed to ship one to me for $40. He had said no CC-Paypal but I mistakenly tried to send him a CC-paypal. After refusal I apologized and funded via bank account. However during the 4 days it took to process, my current sata drive massively failed, and not only needing a computer immediatly, but also realizing this ruined my plans of a raid aray with that particular setup I just picked up two new sata drives and told the buyer of my situation and voluntered to transfer $5 for compensation and prepared myself for a negative heat eval. However I've only recieved extremely vulgar PM's from the buyer including refusal of the comensation and what not.

If I handled this wrong, than I am awfully sorry, and will never make a deal like this again. Personally I'm always nervous of trolling so I might just never buy again on here. However, if not, and my actions were some what warrented please let me know as well. If you want the actual PM's I will copy and paste them.

Thanks.

 

[effowe]

Edit: Read wrong, don't worry about it.

 

[chuckywang]

It's just $40. If you're so worried, just turn around and sell it for $40 bucks again. You're out the shipping, and that's it.

 

[KarenMarie]

You made the guy wait for more than 4 days, just to back out of buying it? I dont know that I could do that to someone and I would have just bought it anyway.

And if i were the seller, i would be pissed... for about an hour.

 

[JC86]

its just 40$, I'd be annoyed but its an understandable situation . . . that being said, i'd just have bought it and put it in my mom's computer to avoid all the trouble.

 

[littlebitstrouds]

I think the reason he has gotten so angy, is because he's be burned by young buyers a lot. I for one, am not a young buyer and was slightly offended at being grouped as one just because of a deal gone sour with no money or goods exchanged at all. I understand the upset nature, I guess when I offered to slightly compensate, and was turned down with such anger, it made me sad at this guy's lack of compasion.

 

[angminas]

Hmm, starting to sound a bit self-righteous there. I thought you could take it?

I think I agree with KarenMarie. You're the one who set this in motion and you're the one who stopped it. If you don't want to get lumped in with deadbeat buyers, don't be a deadbeat buyer. A bit of a stretch, yes, but I hope you see where I'm coming from. Maybe he really needed the $40 and your $5 just doesn't cut it. Maybe he turned down somebody else who also bought another drive in the meantime. Whatever is up with him, it's not up to you to decide how he should feel about this. I understand that you think $5 makes up for his trouble, but the truth is it probably doesn't, and it's more likely you who are lacking compassion. Remember that FS/FT here on ATOT is a lot more of a family thing than an eBay thing, at least to a whole lot of people. If you were selling something to your cousin and he backed out, how would you feel about being offered $5? It might feel like an insult, especially if the sale were at a family price to begin with, which is quite common here.

That said, it's good that you're looking for input on this. I strongly recommend you do whatever is necessary to make it up to this person. Humble yourself and accept 100% of the blame. Ignore the what-ifs and just accept that, although you didn't anticipate it, and maybe even couldn't have (another stretch), you caused trouble for your fellow ATOTer.

 

[Oakenfold]

Yes i'd be upset. The buyer is backing out of the agreement. It's the principal of the matter, after all trading over the internet is built on trust. This kind of stuff belongs on ebay not on AT FS/FT forums. The $40 you saved by not buying the hard drive just stuffed your credibility.

The seller shouldn't be attacking you personally with "vulgar PM's" as that is not how business is done.
Just my .02

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: Oakenfold
Yes i'd be upset. The buyer is backing out of the agreement. It's the principal of the matter, after all trading over the internet is built on trust. This kind of stuff belongs on ebay not on AT FS/FT forums. The $40 you saved by not buying the hard drive just stuffed your credibility.

The seller shouldn't be attacking you personally with "vulgar PM's" as that is not how business is done.
Just my .02

Yup, sounds like both parties are not people that i'd want to do business with.

 

[littlebitstrouds]

Thanks for the input. Good advice. I was going to try and make it up to the buyer, however with his last extremely vulgar pm, I've choosen to just let it lie. Thanks again.