airjrdn: I feel your pain.
my 2 cents: They are way better off doing something. Take the money and take them on a weekend trip. Or, give them a gift that requires them to do something, build something, create something, or even fix something. That's it!!! Give them a broken tv and tell them they can keep that in their room. Then give them a pile of EE text books. (jk) More seriously, I gave my kids PCs in pieces. We worked together to build it. Yours may be a little yung for that but you may be able to come up with something they want that they may be able to put together themselves, with as little help from you as possible. I buy my daughters furniture from IKEA. She could probably work there as a paid installer at this point.
Good luck.