Hot chick likes me, but has a BF of two years

Jun 8, 2000
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Short version of my story:

Met this girl at a party months ago. Said Hi to each other, and that was pretty much it. Another guy was hitting on her the entire night. Didn't see her again until this Friday night.

I arrive at the party, walk up the stairs, and then all of a sudden I see her. She throws herself at me (she actually remembers me), and remains physically attached to me for the remainder of the night. She whispers in my ear that she'd get with me if she didn't have a boyfriend.

Everybody at the party, once they see what's happening, starts warning me not to try to kiss her or anything because she has a boyfriend that she's been going out with for two years. I follow their advice, though the girl remains on my lap or in some way attached to me physically for the entire night.

After like 30 minutes at the party, she invites me to her birthday bash which is just like two weeks away. She asks for my phone number. I didn't have my wallet with my business cards on me at that second, so I didn't give it to her. A little later she asks again, and I run to my car and give her a card. I tell her to give me a call.

Later on in the night, late at night, she programs her phone numbers into my cell phone. I don't really remember how this happened, all I know is that in the morning I had her phone number (she was still sleeping when I left the house -- later on, during our phone conversation she says she wished I had woken her up to say goodbye).

So anyways, I wait a day, and then on Sunday night I work up the courage to call her. All my friend's told me not to, saying that if she remembered anything that happened that she would be pissed at me because she had a boyfriend.

I call. We talk for about an hour (could have easily gone onto 3 hours if she didn't have to go to sleep). Near the end of the conversation she asks me what I'm doing on Friday, and if I want to hang out with her. I say OK, she said she'd be in touch with me.

So, I'm in an interesting situation. She's turning 17, and she's been going out with the same guy for two years (eek!). Her BF is appearently a bartender or something, so he works on Friday and Saturday nights and he can't be with her. I'm older than her, but younger than her BF. I'm a lot more succesful in life though (drive a BMW, wear DKNY, etc.) which I know for a fact is attractive to women.

What do I do? Obviously there's mutual attraction. She remembered everything that happened that evening, and she didn't resent me or anything. She in fact invited me out (when my highest expectation for the phone call was an assurance that I would indeed be invited to her birthday bash where I could meet other hot chicks).

Advice?
 

StageLeft

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Unless she is historically loose, and there is no way for you to really know, she doesn't care for her BF obviously. If there is no chance you'll meet up with him this is NOT your problem. it is his and hers. Go for it, man :)
 

Wheezer

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2 questions

1) how would YOU feel if you were the BF? (you could be in his situation someday)

2)if she is going to flirt with you and other guys even though she has a BF of 2 years wtf make you think she'll be fathful to you? Money and cars don't mean sh!t. and if they do then she is a very shallow person and you WILL get burned.

I only bring these things up to ponder. Not that this would become anything serious but you never can tell what could happen .

You sound like a big boy so you'll have to make your own chioces.

remember "what comes around goes around"
 

ShadowHunter

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To put it plainly, she sounds like a hoe. I'd stay away from her, unless yer lookin for some no strings attached nookie. ;)
 

duragezic

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If she likes you more (sounds like it) why doesn't she dump her BF and hook up with you?

Should be pretty simple IMO. I don't know why a girl would try and hook up with someone else when they have a BF unless they were purposely trying to cheat.

But then again...
<------- no gf before :disgust:
 

vash

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Just remember this: its takes TWO to tango.

You like her (obvious), and she has an interest in you (obvious). Roll with the punches and see how it goes. Remember, she has someone to fall back on and she may think of that guy as a "fallback" guy if anything that happens to you doesn't pan out. Go for it, but don't make it obvious that you are so eager. Miss a date or two, but definitely call her back -- just make her think you are seeing someone else too.

vash
 

jobberd

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seems like she's pretty in to you. I'd say go for it, but if possible see why things aren't going fine between her and her boyfriend, and make sure that she breaks up with her bf before you move in. its only fair :p
oh, and ENOUGH with the damn pic requests :|
 

Presence

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I just thought these two lines were funny....


<< I didn't have my wallet with my business cards on me at that second, so I didn't give it to her. A little later she asks again, and I run to my car and give her a card. I tell her to give me a call. >>


And this one hehe....


<< I'm a lot more succesful in life though (drive a BMW, wear DKNY, etc.) which I know for a fact is attractive to women. >>



As for advise, Id say be careful....if her boyfriend is a bartender well bartenders know bouncers...and bouncers know fists hitting heads. As Wheezer stated, what comes around goes around....dont be mad when she ends up doing the same for you. So if you just wanna play games then go ahead but dont look for something serious.
 

alaniscool

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To put it plainly, she sounds like a hoe. I'd stay away from her, unless yer lookin for some no strings attached nookie.

Or some STD's. :disgust:
 

Dark54555

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<< she's not legal yet...so i wouldn't go for her

btw...pics?
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Depends what state you're in...17 is legal in Texas, for example.
 

Dark54555

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My only advice: KEEP OUT OF A LOVE TRIANGLE. If she'll completely ditch the BF, should be all good (though would help to make sure you can take him in a fight, if worse comes to worse) If she won't, there's no point in chasing her.
 

59Vette

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what makes you think she won't find another guy while she's with you? she's doing it now.....
 

Viper0329

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I'd stay away. Apparently, she doesn't want to dump the BF. Sounds to me like you are just a toy to play with. I wouldn't go after her.

As Wheezer said, what makes you think she would be faitful to you?
 

LivinLaVivaPollo

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<<So, I'm in an interesting situation. She's turning 17, and she's been going out with the same guy for two years (eek!). Her BF is appearently a bartender or something, so he works on Friday and Saturday nights and he can't be with her. I'm older than her, but younger than her BF. I'm a lot more succesful in life though (drive a BMW, wear DKNY, etc.) which I know for a fact is attractive to women.>>

Yikes... You're a lot more successful in life? Do you have the right to say that? I like how you express your wealth in little subtle ways: your business cards, your BMW, your cellphone, and of course, designer fashion. You think girls like that stuff? Maybe the easy pickups will, like the girls you find at parties that have had 2 year boyfriends... Truth is, girls don't give a damn about how much DKNY you wear and the kind of car you drive, the shallow ones will though unfortunately. Besides man, bartenders are tough people. You really wanna get beat down? Even if she instigated it, you should have to answer to the unspoken rule, RESPECT another man's girl. If he works at a bar, then he must be at least 21... if you are older than her, but younger than him, then you must be between 18 and 20... so that must be your dad's BMW.
 

calbear2000

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<< <<So, I'm in an interesting situation. She's turning 17, and she's been going out with the same guy for two years (eek!). Her BF is appearently a bartender or something, so he works on Friday and Saturday nights and he can't be with her. I'm older than her, but younger than her BF. I'm a lot more succesful in life though (drive a BMW, wear DKNY, etc.) which I know for a fact is attractive to women.>>

Yikes... You're a lot more successful in life? Do you have the right to say that? I like how you express your wealth in little subtle ways: your business cards, your BMW, your cellphone, and of course, designer fashion. You think girls like that stuff? Maybe the easy pickups will, like the girls you find at parties that have had 2 year boyfriends... Truth is, girls don't give a damn about how much DKNY you wear and the kind of car you drive, the shallow ones will though unfortunately. Besides man, bartenders are tough people. You really wanna get beat down? Even if she instigated it, you should have to answer to the unspoken rule, RESPECT another man's girl. If he works at a bar, then he must be at least 21... if you are older than her, but younger than him, then you must be between 18 and 20... so that must be your dad's BMW.
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lol... well said
 
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She sounds like she was trashed... If you don't know her boyfriend then dealing with him is her problem, so if you want it then go for it. BTW what are you so successful at to be able to afford a BMW at such a young age?
 

Presence

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<< Yikes... You're a lot more successful in life? Do you have the right to say that? I like how you express your wealth in little subtle ways: your business cards, your BMW, your cellphone, and of course, designer fashion. You think girls like that stuff? Maybe the easy pickups will, like the girls you find at parties that have had 2 year boyfriends... Truth is, girls don't give a damn about how much DKNY you wear and the kind of car you drive, the shallow ones will though unfortunately. Besides man, bartenders are tough people. You really wanna get beat down? Even if she instigated it, you should have to answer to the unspoken rule, RESPECT another man's girl. If he works at a bar, then he must be at least 21... if you are older than her, but younger than him, then you must be between 18 and 20... so that must be your dad's BMW >>



hehe just what I was thinking. Didnt wanna hurt feelings tho.:D
 

RedRooster

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<< <<So, I'm in an interesting situation. She's turning 17, and she's been going out with the same guy for two years (eek!). Her BF is appearently a bartender or something, so he works on Friday and Saturday nights and he can't be with her. I'm older than her, but younger than her BF. I'm a lot more succesful in life though (drive a BMW, wear DKNY, etc.) which I know for a fact is attractive to women.>>

Yikes... You're a lot more successful in life? Do you have the right to say that? I like how you express your wealth in little subtle ways: your business cards, your BMW, your cellphone, and of course, designer fashion. You think girls like that stuff? Maybe the easy pickups will, like the girls you find at parties that have had 2 year boyfriends... Truth is, girls don't give a damn about how much DKNY you wear and the kind of car you drive, the shallow ones will though unfortunately. Besides man, bartenders are tough people. You really wanna get beat down? Even if she instigated it, you should have to answer to the unspoken rule, RESPECT another man's girl. If he works at a bar, then he must be at least 21... if you are older than her, but younger than him, then you must be between 18 and 20... so that must be your dad's BMW.
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Ouch! Touch&eacute;.
 
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<< <<So, I'm in an interesting situation. She's turning 17, and she's been going out with the same guy for two years (eek!). Her BF is appearently a bartender or something, so he works on Friday and Saturday nights and he can't be with her. I'm older than her, but younger than her BF. I'm a lot more succesful in life though (drive a BMW, wear DKNY, etc.) which I know for a fact is attractive to women.>>

Yikes... You're a lot more successful in life? Do you have the right to say that? I like how you express your wealth in little subtle ways: your business cards, your BMW, your cellphone, and of course, designer fashion. You think girls like that stuff? Maybe the easy pickups will, like the girls you find at parties that have had 2 year boyfriends... Truth is, girls don't give a damn about how much DKNY you wear and the kind of car you drive, the shallow ones will though unfortunately. Besides man, bartenders are tough people. You really wanna get beat down? Even if she instigated it, you should have to answer to the unspoken rule, RESPECT another man's girl. If he works at a bar, then he must be at least 21... if you are older than her, but younger than him, then you must be between 18 and 20... so that must be your dad's BMW.
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I agree that my clothing, cars, etc. are more or less meaningless, I brought it up to get your input her on whether or not she may be a gold digging ho. I don't use $ to substitute for flaws in my personality or anything else.

I brought it up to ask: Gold Digger or Real Attraction?

As for how I could afford it, that's not the topic of this thread.

It's 19 to drink in British Columbia.

No, I don't have any pics unfortunately. I didn't bring my digicam to this party because I didn't know anybody there except for 2 people. Going around and snapping incriminating pictures of strangers drunk, is a sure-fire way to get hit in the face.

I like the advice on avoiding a love triangle. I guess I'll see what happens this Friday, it's interesting though that she asked me out. If she ends the relationship with her current BF in favour of me, there'd be nothing wrong with that. At her age, being stuck with one person for 2 years cannot be good.
 

Rickr

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Here's a tip: ask her! "Someone told me you had a boyfriend of two years. What's up with that?"