Honeymoon as planned, or sister's graduation?

[Dr. Zaus]

make her fail so you can go as planned.

 

[Leros]

I guess it depends how much graduations matter in your family. In my family, they mean virtually nothing. In my girlfriend's family, they are are very important and relatives will actually fly out for it.

 

[zinfamous]

make her fail so you can go as planned.

excellent.

but overall, this is all just too lame.

little sister has issues and should fucking get over herself. though, if her plan is to whore it up and fail out of college, this may be her final moment of success, so I can see why she might be upset at Big Sis missing her one final moment.

and also, waiting a few days for a honeymoon is no big deal. people often wait a week, or month, or even a year or so to go on a honeymoon.


meh

 

[zinfamous]

Big deal. Priorities before shallow fantasies.

Stick around for the graduation, and also have a darn reception to celebrate with and thank the people who have come to attend and support your marriage, and give them a chance to hang out with each other. This is just as important imo.

this.

bailing out on the wedding after a few hours is considered..."culturally inferior" these days.

 

[KK]

do what your soon to be wife says to do. that is all that counts... til you get divorced.

 

[JTsyo]

do what your soon to be wife says to do. that is all that counts... til you get divorced.

Her sister and she's the one that wants the honeymoon right away. Let her decide.

 

[Anubis]

Is she that conceded and in her own world that she would not attend her sis' graduation.

i wouldent have attended my own graduation but i was forced to


go on the honeymoon

 

[IndyColtsFan]

and also, waiting a few days for a honeymoon is no big deal. people often wait a week, or month, or even a year or so to go on a honeymoon.

meh

My wife and I waited an entire year before we went on ours. Personally, I think it is silly fantasy (if that's what you want to call it) that she is so insistent on leaving the reception and going straight to the airport for the honeymoon. Trust me, most people are exhausted on the day of their wedding and waiting a day or two will really help.

 

[Gibson486]

My wife and I waited an entire year before we went on ours. Personally, I think it is silly fantasy (if that's what you want to call it) that she is so insistent on leaving the reception and going straight to the airport for the honeymoon. Trust me, most people are exhausted on the day of their wedding and waiting a day or two will really help.

It's just a silly fantasy that really does not mean much at all. What is the significance of going straight to the plane after the wedding? How is it really different than waiting a day or two? If anything, it is going to be a hassle because before the wedding (and after), packing is the last thing you want to do.

 

[biostud]

Wait two days, otherwise you'll just end up wondering if you did the right thing and the honeymoon will be spoiled. Or start the honeymoon renting a room at a local hotel/spa or something similar.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

It's just a silly fantasy that really does not mean much at all. What is the significance of going straight to the plane after the wedding? How is it really different than waiting a day or two? If anything, it is going to be a hassle because before the wedding (and after), packing is the last thing you want to do.

That's right, and as a bride, you're really running around all day on your wedding day beginning at the crack of dawn. It will be much more relaxing to wait a day or two and then go on your honeymoon.

 

[MotionMan]

For what it's worth the date of the graduation was known when the wedding date was planned. She asked her sister at the time if she would mind if we missed her graduation and she stated, "No, it's just high school." Now her sister's saying she doesn't remember this conversation. The wedding is on a Saturday night and graduation is on Monday night

You and your fiancee were dumb for planning the wedding like that, regardless of what the sister had said. You should not miss a family member's graduation.

edit --

Sorry guys, no pics.

Delaying the wedding isn't an option as it's already been booked with deposit. Delaying the honeymoon means either going to work for a day and then leaving or taking an extra day of work to sit around the house and do whatever.

1. Take a couple extra days off;
2. Ride the limo from the reception to a nice local hotel and spend a couple nights "honeymooning";
3. Go to the graduation;
4. Leave for "remainder" of honeymoon (even take a limo to the airport).

MotionMan

 

[MotionMan]

Is she that conceded and in her own world that she would not attend her sis' graduation.

Took me a minute to figure that one out:

Conceited.

MotionMan

 

[blackdogdeek]

i don't get it. if your fiancee wants to go on your honeymoon instead of her own sister's graduation what is there for you to figure out?

do what your fiancee wants. it's her family so she's taking the responsibility of missing the graduation.

 

[MotionMan]

i don't get it. if your fiancee wants to go on your honeymoon instead of her own sister's graduation what is there for you to figure out?

do what your fiancee wants. it's her family so she's taking the responsibility of missing the graduation.

Anyone who sides with the sister will blame OP more than his wife.

MotionMan

 

[Ancalagon44]

I dont think its a massive deal to have to wait, but on the other hand, I'd be careful always putting others ahead of you two as a couple. It sets a bad precedent - soon the little sister is going to need you to buy her a '69 Mustang or something for college. Or the mother in law needs to stay in your bedroom while you and your wife sleep on the couch.

The sis knew about the wedding, she could have said something then.

On the other hand... as exciting as it sounds to jet away directly after the wedding, you will probably both be exhausted afterwards. I know I'm not a good traveller when I'm tired. But then I suppose you could sleep on the plane and might get special treatment onboard. Dont expect to be let out of cattle class though!

 

[blackdogdeek]

Anyone who sides with the sister will blame OP more than his wife.

MotionMan

welcome to married life. you may take slack for your future wife's transgressions but that is a far better price to pay than to anger your future wife by foiling the dream wedding and honeymoon she's been imagining for most of her life.

you would never live that down. ever.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

welcome to married life. you may take slack for your future wife's transgressions but that is a far better price to pay than to anger your future wife by foiling the dream wedding and honeymoon she's been imagining for most of her life.

you would never live that down. ever.

Her honeymoon isn't being foiled by having her wait 2 whole days.

 

[TwiceOver]

High school? Tell her she'll be there when she graduates from a real school.

 

[blackdogdeek]

Her honeymoon isn't being foiled by having her wait 2 whole days.

according to the OP:

and she has always wanted us to take a limo from the chapel to the airport, get on a plane, and start our honeymoon

regardless of whether or not you or i think this is reasonable, it seems the fiancee has it in her head that this is what she wants.

i still don't see why OP would choose fiancee's family's wishes over fiancee's wishes.

 

[MotionMan]

i still don't see why OP would choose fiancee's family's wishes over fiancee's wishes.

I think he senses that his fiancee is torn about what to do, otherwise, they would not even be having the conversation.

MotionMan

 

[IndyColtsFan]

according to the OP:

I know what the OP said -- why bother posting and asking our thoughts if what his fiancee said was the law of the land and they were going to do it regardless?

i still don't see why OP would choose fiancee's family's wishes over fiancee's wishes.

I don't think the OP is "choosing" the family over his fiancee's wishes. He is asking us what we think about the situation and frankly, I think the fiancee is being unreasonable.

 

[blackdogdeek]

I think he senses that his fiancee is torn about what to do, otherwise, they would not even be having the conversation.

MotionMan

oh. ok i could see that.

if so, the problem is much more difficult because now OP will have just enough input to make his future wife blame him for any fallout from their decision. still i'd rather have my wife angry at me that her sister and in-laws are angry at me than have my wife angry at me for wrecking the whole ride off into the honeymoon sunset thing.

 

[rasczak]

I am getting married to my fiancee this coming May, and she has always wanted us to take a limo from the chapel to the airport, get on a plane, and start our honeymoon.

Unfortunately, her younger sister is having her high school graduation two days after the big date and has stated she will be upset if her sister misses her graduation for her honeymoon.

Opinions? Note: Mother-in-law will always side with younger sister.

If this is truly the case, the f lil sis and let your wife have her dream. You're responsibility is to your wife, not some snot nosed 18y/o wench.

 

[blackdogdeek]

I know what the OP said -- why bother posting and asking our thoughts if what his fiancee said was the law of the land and they were going to do it regardless?

i misunderstood the OP. i've only had one cup of coffee so far this morning and i was up late watching the walking dead.

I don't think the OP is "choosing" the family over his fiancee's wishes. He is asking us what we think about the situation and frankly, I think the fiancee is being unreasonable.

it comes down to weighing the two events, the honeymoon exit vs the graduation, and imho the honeymoon exit weighs more since afaik the OP's fiancee has been picturing the whole thing for a long time while i doubt the fiancee's sister has been picturing her HS graduation for a long time. but i admit i don't really know how long either has been picturing either event.