Holy sh!t, I might be breaking up with my girlfriend

[Deeko]

I'm sure you guys are sick of hearing about our problems. Well, I am too. We were talking about her dance she is going to, and suddenly she broke off into one of her rants about how we're too serious and crap like that. She does this every 3 weeks or so, all but breaks up with me, and the next day or 2 she wants me back. This time, I didn't lie there sulking and waiting. I told her that I'm sick of this, that she isn't happy because she doesn't want to be happy, and so on and so forth. I haven't actually said the words yet, but it is fairly implied, and I'm not so sure that I need to take it back. And another thing, she is too damn cowardly to talk to me in person about problems w/ us, I saw her all weekend, she wasn't really herself but would never say anything was wrong, even when i asked. We talked on the phone today, again wasn't herself, and wouldn't say what was wrong. Tonight, over the wonderfully un-personal medium of text messaging, she finally came out with it. Is it that hard to freakin say it to my face?

Anyway, I'm sick of this rollarcoaster. I need stability, she doesn't want stability. Her life has been full of turmoil, liek I've posted before, and if something stable comes into it, she treats it like a virus and needs to flush it out, even if that virus is really the cure. Whatever, I'm not going to be her fvcking doorstop anymore.


This is a Repost.

 

[Viper GTS]

Been there, done that. I rode that rollercoaster over & over again, then stood in line for more.

My advice?

Walk away.

Do it now while you still can.

Viper GTS

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Been there, done that. I rode that rollercoaster over & over again, then stood in line for more.

My advice?

Walk away.

Do it now while you still can.

Viper GTS

hit it first!

 

[HappyPuppy]

You sound like a pubescent teeny bopper.

 

[Deeko]

Other posts about her:

She wants to go to a dance w/ another guy (11/3)
Her foster family gives her crap because they don't like me (10/6)
The breakup (8/16)
things going well? (8/26)
foster sister trouble (8/3)

there are probably more, but that's enough referrences for you.

 

[Deeko]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
You sound like a pubescent teeny bopper.

A really pissed off teeny bopper. Now isn't the time to cross me.

 

[esso]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
You sound like a pubescent teeny bopper.

Another instance where ATOT mimics real life.

EDIT:

Now isn't the time to cross me.

The only cross people are the non-subscribers clicking your links.

 

[Dragnov]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Been there, done that. I rode that rollercoaster over & over again, then stood in line for more.

My advice?

Walk away.

Do it now while you still can.

Viper GTS

hit it first!

Ah how refreshing. No matter how serious or non-funny a subject is, an ATOT can always find humor!

 

[SWirth86]

Why do you refer to it as a rollercoaster... Rollercoasters are fun, and predictable. This is not... More like the lotto, completely random, and you never win.

Anyway, more on topic, yea, just leave her.... and dont let her come begging back. Relationships=suck;

 

[eakers]

deeko hunny, i know exactly where you are, i think everyone goes through what you are going through. you want so bad to hold on but hun, if shes not happy you can't keep her. breaking up with someone you love (especially if its your first love) is really difficult because its scary.

it might be the hardest thing but its the best thing: break up and don't talk to her for a little while.

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: SWirth86
Why do you refer to it as a rollercoaster... Rollercoasters are fun, and predictable. This is not... More like the lotto, completely random, and you never win.

Anyway, more on topic, yea, just leave her.... and dont let her come begging back. Relationships=suck;

Having been on the same coaster, that was EXACTLY the way I described it too.

Why is it a rollercoaster?

Because they take you up high & then leave your stomach trailing behind when the ground falls away beneath you. There is no level ground or steady climb, it's a whiplash inducing, high velocity, coaster ride from hell.

Viper GTS

 

[rgwalt]

Been there, done that. I rode the coster until it flew off the tracks. Not worth it. Many times girls don't know what they want. They want both excitement and stability. They want to feel something, even if it is feeling bad, sad, or devistated.

Bah... Tell her exactly how you feel, and leave the situation. If she can get her act together, then fine. Otherwise, move on.

Ryan

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Been there, done that. I rode that rollercoaster over & over again, then stood in line for more.

My advice?

Walk away.

Do it now while you still can.

Viper GTS

Wise words from one who experienced the same situation right in front of our eyes on ATOT. Unfortunately, as I'm sure Viper was told by others and probably me, sometimes you have to go through it to realize what you should have done in the first place.
Believe us, you should walk away. You're a teenager, you're in high school, and in the end, HS relationships are simply building blocks for later in life. Ask any guy 10 or more years removed from HS, and 99% percent will say they wish they had dumped their "high school sweetheart" when things started going bad and tried to tap any and every girl that would let them. The other 1% will lie and say they don't think that.
Dump her ass and go out with her best friend. Then go out with HER best friend. etc, etc, etc. You'll be glad you did after you graduate.

 

[Deeko]

This is such a shock to me. I've thought through the 11 months of our relationship that if it ended, she would be the one ending it, that I would always be willing to try to work it out. I just can't take it anymore. She can think about what she wants, and if she wants me back, she is sure as hell gonna have to work for it.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
You sound like a pubescent teeny bopper.

A really pissed off teeny bopper. Now isn't the time to cross me.

Rule No. 1 for a man to have a happy life:

Don't get involved with chicks who have baggage unless you are willing to live with that bagge for the rest of your life. The baggage
will never go away. It will only fester and get bigger as the years go by. Find yourself a nice young lady who doesn't have problems
that will destroy your life.

Just my opinion.

 

[Mookow]

I could say "st@b her", but that would be against the rules...

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Gr1mL0cK

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Been there, done that. I rode that rollercoaster over & over again, then stood in line for more.

My advice?

Walk away.

Do it now while you still can.

Viper GTS

hit it first!

Ah how refreshing. No matter how serious or non-funny a subject is, an ATOT can always find humor!

<--- does a jig!

 

[Deeko]

Believe us, you should walk away. You're a teenager, you're in high school, and in the end, HS relationships are simply building blocks for later in life. Ask any guy 10 or more years removed from HS, and 99% percent will say they wish they had dumped their "high school sweetheart" when things started going bad and tried to tap any and every girl that would let them. The other 1% will lie and say they don't think that.
Dump her ass and go out with her best friend. Then go out with HER best friend. etc, etc, etc. You'll be glad you did after you graduate.

I'm a freshman in college. She is in high school. That's a part of the problem, I am older, and I am pretty mature for my age, I'm looking for something more than a little high school fling, and she just wants to be the cute girl with problems that the guy pities. She doesn't want to be happy.

 

[geno]

Talk to her about what you're feeling, and leave her if you feel it's necessary dude... Viper's advice is dead on.

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Believe us, you should walk away. You're a teenager, you're in high school, and in the end, HS relationships are simply building blocks for later in life. Ask any guy 10 or more years removed from HS, and 99% percent will say they wish they had dumped their "high school sweetheart" when things started going bad and tried to tap any and every girl that would let them. The other 1% will lie and say they don't think that.
Dump her ass and go out with her best friend. Then go out with HER best friend. etc, etc, etc. You'll be glad you did after you graduate.

I'm a freshman in college. She is in high school. That's a part of the problem, I am older, and I am pretty mature for my age, I'm looking for something more than a little high school fling, and she just wants to be the cute girl with problems that the guy pities. She doesn't want to be happy.

get with some college girls. do it!

 

[CKDragon]

This is a tough one... always factor in that you're a Dragon. This means, of course, that there are no respectable, 'hittable' girls at Drexel. Just kidding, of course. Good luck.

CK

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy

Originally posted by: Deeko

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
You sound like a pubescent teeny bopper.

A really pissed off teeny bopper. Now isn't the time to cross me.

Rule No. 1 for a man to have a happy life:

Don't get involved with chicks who have baggage unless you are willing to live with that bagge for the rest of your life. The baggage
will never go away. It will only fester and get bigger as the years go by. Find yourself a nice young lady who doesn't have problems
that will destroy your life.

Just my opinion.

wow you mean we shouldn't go out of our way to find emotiannly disturbed girls to date or marry. .... hmmm.... sounds like your on to sdomething captain obvious.

 

[Storm]

Originally posted by: Deeko
This is such a shock to me. I've thought through the 11 months of our relationship that if it ended, she would be the one ending it, that I would always be willing to try to work it out. I just can't take it anymore. She can think about what she wants, and if she wants me back, she is sure as hell gonna have to work for it.

Since u 2 dont see eye to eye anymore or so it seems, better to end it.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Believe us, you should walk away. You're a teenager, you're in high school, and in the end, HS relationships are simply building blocks for later in life. Ask any guy 10 or more years removed from HS, and 99% percent will say they wish they had dumped their "high school sweetheart" when things started going bad and tried to tap any and every girl that would let them. The other 1% will lie and say they don't think that.
Dump her ass and go out with her best friend. Then go out with HER best friend. etc, etc, etc. You'll be glad you did after you graduate.

I'm a freshman in college. She is in high school. That's a part of the problem, I am older, and I am pretty mature for my age, I'm looking for something more than a little high school fling, and she just wants to be the cute girl with problems that the guy pities. She doesn't want to be happy.

So, why don't you try dating some of the girls your own age? Can't hand it? You shouldn't be dating HS girls. You should be partying with college girls.

 

[StageLeft]

Sounds to me like you need to break it off for yourself. Do you think that an objective outsider knowing what you know would recommend you break it off? If your friend was in the same predicament would you recommend he break it off? FOR GOOD? That's your answer as to whether you should. With so much turmoil though the chances of a healthy future seem all but nonexistent.