Help with gf losing a family member

[austin316]

My girlfriends grandmother was diagnosed with cancer last november. Her case has worsened and the doctors have basically given her 6 weeks at most to live. I have never lost someone close to me, nor have I had a person close to me be given such a short time to live. I was wondering if anyone has had a similar situation and if you knew of any good poems/writings that helped you get through the terrible ordeal. I was hoping there may be a poem out there that lets you celebrate her life, rather than dwell on the upcoming negative.

 

[Bryophyte]

Try to be patient with her inevitable mood swings as she works through her grief. I remember getting into a terrible fight with a boyfriend just after my grandma died years ago. She will just need your support. Try not to take anything personally that she may say in anger for awhile.

 

[PowerEngineer]

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Try to be patient with her inevitable mood swings as she works through her grief. I remember getting into a terrible fight with a boyfriend just after my grandma died years ago. She will just need your support. Try not to take anything personally that she may say in anger for awhile.

Very good advice!

It's not often that we see our bf/gf under the kind of personal pressure that your gf will be going through. It may well be tough on her, but you'll also get some valuable insight into the kind of person she really is underneath. It's good to know how people you are close to (and may consider getting even closer to) are going to react when the chips are down. Be generous in your judgements, and I hope you like what you discover.

Good luck.

 

[Josephus]

Help her celebrate her memories of her Grandmother.... the good times the bad times (if there are some)

ask her to tell you how she feels... and just say it back in a different way, give her a chance to talk it out...

Words to say... someting like...

"She helped make you who you are, those memories you hold. She will live on in you in the way she shaped your life."

 

[Josephus]

 

[ApacheXMD]

my gf's mom passed away last week.. I'm going through the same thing. Her mom was in the hospital for a few days prior, and it was hell for about a week.. I don't really know how to act or what to do. I've just tried to be with her as much as possible, be a shoulder to cry on, and to keep her busy so she doesn't cry too much..
After her mom passed, there was lots to do around the house, so I tried to help as much as possible. Run errands, do some cleaning, answer the phone... the little things that need to be done. I think both my girlfriend and her family appreciated it. They have enough to deal with as it is..

so yeah.. just hang in there man.

-patchy

 

[Kelvrick]

Deal with the mood swings, try to get her mind off things. Some other things I can think of are putting off any events with the guys off for a while and then reap all of the benefits when she's past the emotional stage.