I met jaime through the internet sometime in september of last year. We hit it off real quick, but she seemed to have a fairly strong sexual appetite (not that I was complaining). Phone sex was fairly common, sometimes multiple times a day, and in the beginning, I enjoyed it. We talked pretty much every day for about a month before I ever saw a picture of her. When she did send me a picture, my heart sank. She is 5'1" and weighs probably near 250lb. Still, I didn't want to be mean, so when she would call up all horny, I would oblige. We met one night for a movie and ended up fooling around (mostly because she got rather hot and bothered real quick and I didn't want to hurt her feelings by stopping her).
Over time we hit up a "no strings attatched" relationship. The kinda thing any guy would want. All the free sex you would want, but no commitment. It was mostly her idea because she was trying to get over a guy that had broken her heart. Well, most guys had treated her like dirt and I was at least attentive to her and tried my best to make her feel pretty. Months passed and I could tell she was getting more and more attatched. Sometime in December it became apparent that she was more that just friends into me. Multiple conversations later, we decided to at least try an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Well, more like she was into me, all the other girls i was trying to date or whatever were turning me down, and I didn't want to turn her away and make her feel even worse about herself. So I decided "what the hey".
During this time, i had grown to care about her alot. I was never "in love" and still not, but I do care about her as if she was my own sister and I think thats what has kept us together the most. Her family is insane. Constantly fighting, totally disfunctional. They can't even stand being in the same room with each other, but insist on doing stuff together and dragging me along to be the awkward one while they bitch and complain about everything.
Not to mention her growing need for me as an emotional crutch has become more to bear. One night my phone was unplugged in my upstairs bedroom and I couldn't hear the phone downstairs. We had talked earlier that evening and she had said she might call back later that night, but when i hadn't heard from her, i just went to sleep. The next morning I had 2 messages on my phone at home and 3 on my cell phone. I call her back on my way out the door for work and she freaks out on me crying saying she was worried that I was gone and her greatest fear was to be abandoned. Heck this was less than 12 hours from when we talked last. When I would go home to see my parents, which happens basically once every 2 or 3 months, for the weekend, she would complain that I don't call her enough and that I seem to be cut off from her. Again, this is one day and I am trying to spend time with my family, and I still do call her at least once a night. Due to leaving college and other happenstance, I am also her best friend at the moment. So its not like she can go to her friends if there is problems.
She has severe problems with self asteem. She has a insalin problem where she can't loose weight due to a chemical imbalance. She wont take the pills to fix it because she get sick. She wont stick to any diet or exercise program and gets discouraged very quickly. She keeps telling me we should break up and me to find a better girl. Honestly, I have been looking passively, but I wouldn't want to break her heart. The sex stopped being good back in feburary, and we normally only do it when she begs enough and I run out of reasons not to. Then I please her for a while and stop. I have basically gone back to masturbation as my ownly outlet.
Am I being too much of a nice guy? Should I just ask for space? I really am at my witts end. She did help me through a tough time last spring, and I would hate to hurt her in anyway, but what am I to do. I am feeling smothered and I don't want to deal with the extreme family baggage that she has(there is a buttload more than what I have said that goes on).
Over time we hit up a "no strings attatched" relationship. The kinda thing any guy would want. All the free sex you would want, but no commitment. It was mostly her idea because she was trying to get over a guy that had broken her heart. Well, most guys had treated her like dirt and I was at least attentive to her and tried my best to make her feel pretty. Months passed and I could tell she was getting more and more attatched. Sometime in December it became apparent that she was more that just friends into me. Multiple conversations later, we decided to at least try an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Well, more like she was into me, all the other girls i was trying to date or whatever were turning me down, and I didn't want to turn her away and make her feel even worse about herself. So I decided "what the hey".
During this time, i had grown to care about her alot. I was never "in love" and still not, but I do care about her as if she was my own sister and I think thats what has kept us together the most. Her family is insane. Constantly fighting, totally disfunctional. They can't even stand being in the same room with each other, but insist on doing stuff together and dragging me along to be the awkward one while they bitch and complain about everything.
Not to mention her growing need for me as an emotional crutch has become more to bear. One night my phone was unplugged in my upstairs bedroom and I couldn't hear the phone downstairs. We had talked earlier that evening and she had said she might call back later that night, but when i hadn't heard from her, i just went to sleep. The next morning I had 2 messages on my phone at home and 3 on my cell phone. I call her back on my way out the door for work and she freaks out on me crying saying she was worried that I was gone and her greatest fear was to be abandoned. Heck this was less than 12 hours from when we talked last. When I would go home to see my parents, which happens basically once every 2 or 3 months, for the weekend, she would complain that I don't call her enough and that I seem to be cut off from her. Again, this is one day and I am trying to spend time with my family, and I still do call her at least once a night. Due to leaving college and other happenstance, I am also her best friend at the moment. So its not like she can go to her friends if there is problems.
She has severe problems with self asteem. She has a insalin problem where she can't loose weight due to a chemical imbalance. She wont take the pills to fix it because she get sick. She wont stick to any diet or exercise program and gets discouraged very quickly. She keeps telling me we should break up and me to find a better girl. Honestly, I have been looking passively, but I wouldn't want to break her heart. The sex stopped being good back in feburary, and we normally only do it when she begs enough and I run out of reasons not to. Then I please her for a while and stop. I have basically gone back to masturbation as my ownly outlet.
Am I being too much of a nice guy? Should I just ask for space? I really am at my witts end. She did help me through a tough time last spring, and I would hate to hurt her in anyway, but what am I to do. I am feeling smothered and I don't want to deal with the extreme family baggage that she has(there is a buttload more than what I have said that goes on).
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