Help me out here. How many of you have met a girl on the net, then met in real life and ended up together?

[Noriaki]

*sighs*

I started talking with this girl from (fairly) nearby on the 'net...then we finally met in real life...and I've been in love with her since (well I kinda had a crush on her right away, but over time I've realized that I love her).

This was over 3 years ago now...and I still haven't gotten her

Has anyone had any kind of luck with these kind of situations? I'm patient...but I'm beginning to think it's a lost cause....

Sorry depression....you know it's "that" time of year again.....

 

[Scrapster]

My uncle did it. But the lady makes bertha look like a supermodel.

 

[cxim]

Hell, Isla is the only one I've met, from the net, that did not have me reaching for my harpoon... & she's married...

 

[Noriaki]

Hahah I've met her in real life. She's pretty enough. 5'4" maybe 5'5" shoulder length blonde hair, big enough boobs, she's not super skinny, but I don't like skinny girls..she's pretty medium. beautiful eyes that I can spend hours trying to decide if they are blue or green....

She's perfect (for me)...*sighs* we have lots in common, she's sweet and affectionate, she's also one of my best friends....

Hahahah Just thinking about her makes me happy

 

[RossMAN]

How does she feel for you?

Try to look at your relationship from a third person quasi-non-bias perspective ... is it lust, infactuation, true love or her big enough boobs that you long for?

Sometimes it takes time to win over a heart but 3 years in Internet friendship is equivelant to a VERY LONG TIME. I think the average Internet chat frienship lasts just weeks, then you lose touch but 3 years is a long time.

Try and keep in contact with her without invading her space or pestering her, use ICQ/AIM, talk on the phone, videochat, etc.

 

[Noriaki]

Hahaha I don't care what she looks like. It's her mind, personality and affection I love her for. In fact to most guys she's probably no better than medium at best....my thinking she's the most beautfiul woman on the planet is a function of my feelings for her, not the other way around. Thanks for the warning though

She thinks of me as a very close friend...I've always been the person she runs to when she's having personal problems...I think she thinks of me as a big brother...I know I know, once you are "that special friend" you have exactly 0 chance....but I can hope right?

Hehehe

 

[jcballer1]

my friend did this and he's now engaged to this girl... he's from nj, she's from pa

 

[Barrak]

I never did but one of my good friends met his current girl online. We live in PA, she lived in Texas. They talked for about a year and she ended up moving to PA to live with him. It has been 2 1/2 years and they are doing well. It happens....

 

[RossMAN]

How old are you?
How old is she?
You said fairly nearby, how far of a drive is she from you?
How often do you two meet face to face?
Does she currently have a boyfriend or someone that she has her eye on?

At least she thinks of you as a good friend and confides in you. I wouldn't give up, but I'd also respect her space and wishes.

 

[d33pt]

here's my pathetic story... when i was a lame kid of 16 i was on aol (yeah yeah shut up) and i talked to this girl alot.. then i ditched aol and went to college and we lost touch..then came along AIM and i find her again and we start talking... then we finally meet 3 yrs later in person.. and the romance sparked...now 1.5 years later we've been living together for 5 months and i'm happy as hell...so it could happen...

 

[allmotor]

hey man im in the same exact situation as you right now. everything you describe is the same with me too. we are beyond the "going out" part but imma ask her to be exclusive on vday. i say go for it. you only get so many chances and you have nothing to lose so why not. you will regret it if you dont! good luck

 

[veryape]

If she doesn't want a relationship with you then she doesn't want a relationship with you. You cannot force these things,because in the end all that will happen is she will end up finally saying,"well,if he won't leave me alone I might as well get some use out of him" and she'll use the crap out of you.

3 years and she still won't go out with you? I'm really not being mean i'm just trying to be honest,it just does not look good for you. After 3 years she would at least want to see you by now if it were ever going to go anywhere.

There are plenty of fish in the see,so don't waste all your time on one that will never work out. I'm sure you can do better. It seems your being strung along for some reason.

Good luck
John-Paul aka veryape

 

[divinemartyr]

Noriaki

After that long it's still very possible for you guys to get together. There will be that one situation that she needs someone to help her get through it, and if you are the one, you might find yourself in the middle of a relationship with her.

My situation is a bit different. I met my girlfriend on ICQ. We talked for a couple months, started talking by phone. I went and met her 6 months later, and 9 months later moved to live here in Dallas (900 miles from my original home). We were always interested in each other so like I said, it's a matter of different situations here.

All I can say is continue to play the nice guy/big brother role and if something eventually happens between you two, then it was meant to be. One thing I can say for sure, is don't exclude other possibilities for relationships. Often times if you get into one, then break up, she'll be ready to go after you then. Guys with girlfriends are always more desireable it seems. Whatever happens, just give it time. I know 3 years is a long time, but in the grand scheme of things, it really isn't. Imagine, some people spend 50+ years of the lives together. =)

dm

 

[OS]

I met a girl over the net once. Then, when I hinted that I wasn't interested anymore, she stalked me. She also tried to run me over in her truck once. I don't particularly enjoy meeting people over the net now.

 

[Supradude]

I haven't met a loev interest on the net yet, but i have met many net friends,... although in person i have only met two, of which i still talk to... and one new friend that i've been chatting on the phone with occasionally... not much info for ya i guess, but good luck to you !!!

 

[virtuamike]

Hehe, happened to me. Started talking to a girl over AOL during the summer before my first year of college, met her in person and hooked up the first month we were there, and been together since. 4 years later couldn't be happier.

That's her messing with the webcam, Mr. Jaymee cat being bored, and me in the background playing PS2

 

[reitz]

Noriaki (edited a less-than-favorable salutation),

<< beautiful eyes that I can spend hours trying to decide if they are blue or green....

She's perfect (for me)...*sighs* we have lots in common, she's sweet and affectionate, she's also one of my best friends....

Hahahah Just thinking about her makes me happy >>

Rather than asking about it here, why don't you repeat that quote to her? Instead of telling us how you feel, tell her. You won't get anywhere if you don't share those thoughts with her.

Do you really want to end up with this girl? Then tell her how you feel; tell her all of her wonderful qualities. If you speak you mind, and she responds favorably, then grab the opportunity and run with it. If you pour your heart out and she doesn't blink an eye, then you never had a chance anyway.

If you really care about this girl, do something about it instead of just posting your thoughts on an Internet BBS. If you don't, someone else likely will. Grow a sack and do something about your feelings, otherwise you'll always look at her as the relationship that never happened.

 

[nippyjun]

Just ask her if she would ever consider taking the relationship to the next level. If she says no, then forget it.

 

[Missus]

Nope... Sorry... Can't say that has ever happened with me...

Sounds riskier than a blind date though.... Unless pics and medical records (including pyscological) are included...



Don't sweat it the right one will come along sooner or later...

 

[GiLtY]

no offence, but the girls i met online are either too crazy or too cold....... where are the decent girls these days.... or i was in a wrong place at a wrong time

 

[amnesiac]

Yes, I'm one of the lucky ones! =)

I had broken up w. my g/f of 3 years and decided that I would have better luck with online personals than the skanky sorority hos at my school.

I spent about a week browsing personals @ yahoo and finally got a response from this one girl.. We traded emails and pictures, and finally met up after a couple weeks. Now we've been going out for nearly 6 months and I think we make a GREAT couple.

Goes to show that these things DO happen...

 

[Muadib]

Have you told her how you feel about her? I was one of those special friends for close to 3 years too,(I met her through a friend though not on the net), and I too was in love. It was after attending a party &amp; watching her get real friendly with some guy that I had had enough. I waited until she was alone &amp; told her I needed to talk to her. We went to my car where I just unloaded everything I had been feeling. It worked out for me as we're still together almost 5 years later. Hopefully things work out for you, but even if it doesn't you will feel better. How, is that? Well, you will then know that you've done everything possible to get together with her. Good luck.

 

[Lord Evermore]

I met a girl online, moved to Massachusetts to live with her (at her parents house) for a year and a half, then we broke up, now we're friends (as close to a 'good' friend as I have, since I don't have any).

 

[Taz4158]

Met my current wife on ICQ. She was from France and I'm in Canada. She flew over and we got married 2 weeks later. Been over 3 years now.

 

[Noriaki]

How old are you? 20
How old is she? Almost 18
You said fairly nearby, how far of a drive is she from you? At the moment I'm on co-op so I'm 500miles away, but where I go to Univ is about 2 hours from her, and in September she's going to the same university.
How often do you two meet face to face? 10 times a year or so.
Does she currently have a boyfriend or someone that she has her eye on? Yeah and this ones a little more serious than most...but she's lots of BFs since I've met her

reitz: Yeah I know...I've told her that I like her...not in those exact words, but she does currently have a boyfriend so I'm a little shaky on saying stuff like that to her...

outersquare: Uh...ouch...no she's not like that...she's a really really good friend, I just happen to want more.

Missus: Sounds riskier than a blind date though.... Unless pics and medical records (including pyscological) are included.. Heheheh I've met her in person. Lol



Hahahah thanks for all the responses to my pointless rant guys I was feeling a little down last night. I'm past it though, life goes on.

I'm not actually even looking for any other women...my life is to transient right now...I'm in Calgary until the end of April or August (might get an extension) then I move back to Victoria for 8 months, then I'll have to pick up and move off on another co-op term for 4 or 8months, then back to Victoria for another semester or two of classes. Then probably one last work term, and then a final stint back at UVic...then about December 2003 I'll be finished and I'll find a job and a more permanent home...so with all that moving around I'll be doing in the next 2.5 years I'm not even really looking for a woman right now. I don't think that this is the girl I'm going to end up with for the rest of my life. She's my first love, and I won't forget her, but I don't think I'm going to marry her or anything.

In reality she's not *perfect* for me, I was just ignoring certain things last night. And as much as I love her, I don't think she'd make a good permanent fixture in my life. I think that in the end it would make both unhappy and ruin our friendship, which I don't want to do.

Anyhow, thanks for all the replies, but I'm all better now, it's amazing what a good nights sleep can do for you

Edit: oh and I'm not totally useless, it's not like I've been ignoring all other women in the world or anything There's another girl back home I liked for a while, and a girl at work that I've got my eye on now to. I think I might ask her out next week...not anything permanent you know, but just for fun.