Help me make the biggest decision in my life.

[vtqanh]

Originally posted by: Munchies

Originally posted by: Renob
Why is your mom and dad wanting to move? if it for the good of the family I cant believe they are leaving it up to the child.



They said it was up to me



Could I please have your home phone number I would like to have a word with your dad about who is wearing the pants in your house.

They want to move i am torn. They dont want to pressure me, they know I am mature and really weigh it out. They are being fair and they respect me as much as I respect them. Works great that way!

If you are mature enough, you wouldn't need any opinions from this board. If you are mature enough, you should be able to make your own decision

 

[vtqanh]

Originally posted by: chocobaR
I wouldn't move. I already had to move with my family and thought it was the crappiest thing ever. I pretty much lost contact with all the people I knew, had to go to a new high school, make new friends...

life goes on, people should move on, too

 

[illusion88]

MY parents forced me to move a week before I began high school. I couldnt take it and attempted sucide several times. I fell in to a depression and failed all my classes. Dont do it.

 

[MainFramed]

yo josh, remember me? my parents were talking bout moving out there today. i dont think i could do it. to much here...and the weather doesnt bother me lol

 

[UDT89]

I first want to say, i felt bad by the thread title. Then when i read further, i realized what i was dealing with.


1) U're gonna get between 5-10k to move with your parents. Live in their house rent free, and still be a kid. Be glad they arent charging you rent and moving fees for your crap.
2) What are you gonna do if you stay? Rent an apartment? I doubt that if ur in high school. Move in with a friend? For how long, 2 years? What are you going to do when college comes along? You can always go to Michigan in 2 years if you miss it that bad. Which you wont.
3) And lastly, ur only a day trip away from LAS VEGAS. Turning 21 in Vegas, now thats gotta be cool.


Change of scenery is a good thing, especially when all the RISK is eliminated b/c ur with your parents. My uncle moved to tuscon when he was 26 and had a wife and 2 of his 5 kids. Didnt even have a house bought till he got there. He lived in his van for 2-3 weeks.

Now what he did is a BIG decision.

What you should call your decision, is when do i stop thinking I'm in control and to obey my parents.

Have fun in Arizona.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: iwearnosox
At 16 you're fortunate your dad doesn't plant his foot in your arse and impose his will.

$10,000?

You're spoiled, go whine somewhere else.

THANK YOU.

Munchies, I don't know you for squat. But as someone whose Father never made $402,000 in his entire life, I agree with nosox, above. YOu have lived an EXTREMELY sheltered life.

 

[BadNewsBears]

Hey framed sup. Long time no talk. Where about in az? If u ahve any any pinch of interest id suggest asking them to take you out there. MM its awesome

 

[Renob]

They are being fair


Fair? you know nothing of being fair, your a child.


PM me with your home phone number I would still like to talk to your dad.

Until your paying you way , you have no say.

 

[Aceshigh]

Originally posted by: dethman
arizona vs. michigan? is there even a contest?

 

[BadNewsBears]

Sorry michael. Im not refering to anyone else. I know very well what the real world is like. I work hard every mon wed fri sat and sun. Im not really sheltered big guy. My dad doesnt work he was crippled when working as a carpenter. My mom makes good money busting her ass as a nurse at Henry Ford Hospital in Downtown Detroit though

 

[BadNewsBears]

Renob. What do you not understand. They are giving me the decision. Its fair to US. The end. Nothing more. I have no say? They gave me the say.

 

[BadNewsBears]

Jesus. Why is everyine being asshats. I asked for advice not lectures. Move or not. No your parents should not give me the choice. Its over thay gave me the choice. Now I decide.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: Munchies
Sorry michael. Im not refering to anyone else. I know very well what the real world is like. I work hard every mon wed fri sat and sun. Im not really sheltered big guy. My dad doesnt work he was crippled when working as a carpenter. My mom makes good money busting her ass as a nurse at Henry Ford Hospital in Downtown Detroit though

ever think if you moved your mom wont have to bust her ass so hard b/c its cheaper? or maybe your dad's injuries wont feel so bad without the humidity?

You should factor in the benefits your parents get out of the deal and times them by 5. Then see how it compares to your money/friends issue.

You keep 1-3 friends from HS, and the rest will become acquaintances. You meet your lifelong friends in college anyway.

 

[cressida]

hehe 3 replies in a row ...

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: Munchies
Jesus. Why is everyine being asshats. I asked for advice not lectures. Move or not. No your parents should not give me the choice. Its over thay gave me the choice. Now I decide.

This is why i have apprehensions about having children.


If it was up to me, i'd leave you in detriot.

 

[LuNoTiCK]

I would move. Odds are you won't talk to most of your HS friends. Your parents seem like they want to really move, do it for them.

 

[Renob]

What do you not understand

OK let me try to point out whats right in front of you-------------------------------------------------------------YOU ARE A CHILD

Im not trying to be an A$$ but you shoud have NO say if the family is moving.

I have no say? They gave me the say.


Thats why someone should be talking to your dad and mom.
They should not be making family decisions based on what a 16 yearold thinks.

 

[cressida]

Originally posted by: Renob
What do you not understand

OK let me try to point out whats right in front of you-------------------------------------------------------------YOU ARE A CHILD

Im not trying to be an A$$ but you shoud have NO say if the family is moving.

I have no say? They gave me the say.


Thats why someone should be talking to your dad.

hehe, I like it how he says "Im one of the more popular soph's right now"

 

[amnesiac]

Originally posted by: UDT89

You keep 1-3 friends from HS, and the rest will become acquaintances. You meet your lifelong friends in college anyway.

So you say. Most of the people I met in college were worthless drunkards or druggies. I have maybe 3 good friends I've retained from College. The rest are old high school buddies.

Granted, my graduating class was 60 people and most of us knew each other from kindergarten (K-12 total population was 612 students) so that may have been a factor, but dont' discount high school friendships.


Munchies, try to decide how rooted you are to your current life. If you don't foresee yourself grieving from losing the friends you have there, don't fret it. Your best high school friends are usually made senior year anyhow.

I'd consider that big chunk of change a rather good incentive. Use it wisely and you'll have a great head start for when you need to fend for yourself.

However, IMO Tucson is a gigantic shithole. Everyone I know who's lived there says it sucks because all the good stuff is in Phoenix. The minorities and underprivileged are taking over the town and encroaching on the once lustrous upper class territory. You might be sheltered from it by being in the suburbs though.

Next time you're in Tucson, go to the restaurant called "The Tack Room" - 5 star restaurant. Supposedly some of the best food you'll ever have.

 

[Thegonagle]

Originally posted by: Munchies
Jesus. Why is everyine being asshats. I asked for advice not lectures. Move or not. No your parents should not give me the choice. Its over thay gave me the choice. Now I decide.

I hope you don?t think I was giving you a lecture. I was merely giving pragmatic suggestions as to why such move would be advantageous.

I would take this as an opportunity to broaden the perspective on my view toward my entire life. I?m sure you?ll make a good decision.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: amnesiac

Originally posted by: UDT89

You keep 1-3 friends from HS, and the rest will become acquaintances. You meet your lifelong friends in college anyway.

So you say. Most of the people I met in college were worthless drunkards or druggies. I have maybe 3 good friends I've retained from College. The rest are old high school buddies.

Granted, my graduating class was 60 people and most of us knew each other from kindergarten (K-12 total population was 612 students) so that may have been a factor, but dont' discount high school friendships.


Munchies, try to decide how rooted you are to your current life. If you don't foresee yourself grieving from losing the friends you have there, don't fret it. Your best high school friends are usually made senior year anyhow.

I'd consider that big chunk of change a rather good incentive. Use it wisely and you'll have a great head start for when you need to fend for yourself.

However, IMO Tucson is a gigantic shithole. Everyone I know who's lived there says it sucks because all the good stuff is in Phoenix. The minorities and underprivileged are taking over the town and encroaching on the once lustrous upper class territory. You might be sheltered from it by being in the suburbs though.

Next time you're in Tucson, go to the restaurant called "The Tack Room" - 5 star restaurant. Supposedly some of the best food you'll ever have.

It varies as far as friends goes. Most of the kids in HS that i knew were drunks and druggies. College i met more mature people, that drank but not druggies.

Plus my class in HS had 400 people.

 

[thomsbrain]

i say move. it will not be fun leaving your friends but you will make new ones and in the process have an exellent chance to (unconsciously, at least) reinvent yourself. your parents really shouldn't have to bribe you to do this, it's not like you really have a say... but since they are, that just makes it more attractive that you should shut up and go with the flow. besides, the car you buy with the money will last a lot longer in arizona than in michigan.

 

[TourGuide]

Originally posted by: conjur
Go for it...experience life!

 

[Dragnov]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: iwearnosox
At 16 you're fortunate your dad doesn't plant his foot in your arse and impose his will.

$10,000?

You're spoiled, go whine somewhere else.

THANK YOU.

Munchies, I don't know you for squat. But as someone whose Father never made $402,000 in his entire life, I agree with nosox, above. YOu have lived an EXTREMELY sheltered life.

Don't worry about these people Munchies. These people are extremeley bitter and jealous because they did not have the money when they were the child or now currently. All because they didn't have it, they must hate on everyone that does.

 

[poopaskoopa]

You should stick around wherever you are at now for your friends, most of whom you'll never see again soon after highschool graduation.