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Help me liven up my life

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nixium

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Someone asked me what hobbies I have, and I drew a blank. This caused an epiphany of sorts, and I realized my life really sucks. No, not disabled-woman-in-afghanistan type of suck. Not civilian-in-the-gaza-strip suck. Not even I-lost-my-job-while-under-tons-of-debt suck. Just plain old boredom and loneliness.

I'm 25, and I just moved to this suburb type area in NJ, and I realized I spend most of my time in abject boredom. This isn't so bad since I'm an introvert and like spending time with myself, but not *this* much time. Trouble is, I have no friends outside work - while the people at work are great, I don't want to hang out with them *all* the time.

So, any ideas on how I can meet people/make friends? hobbies? This stuff was so easy in college - you literally had tons of people coming your way. It seems like the exact opposite now. At least in college you had clubs and whatnot to do stuff.

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Some good suggestions in this thread. I like the following -

Rufus12 - Get a dog, and go to the park.
ggnl - Get a gym membership and get in shape, then train for and compete in local events
DrawninwarD - don't get a cat.
ConwayJim - girls are fun
IcebergSlim - what are you doing in the suburbs idiot.
vi edit - Local running clubs, biking clubs, kayaking clubs, ect.
BeauJangles - Don't do anything conservative.
InflatableBuddha - Some of my coworkers are into salsa dancing
Jstr0rm1 - Learn how to cook , Learn about good wine
SMOGZINN - "volenteer" at local charities.
Injury - Pledge to spend 2 hours a day outside of your home

You guys are great! Thanks 🙂

As a general thank you for the suggestions so far, I'm happy to announce that this list can be used as proof that ATOT does not consist of pimply geeks hooked to WOW posting out of their parent's basement. Sadly, it cannot be used as proof there there are biological women posters. However, one step at a time.

 
Get a gym membership and get in shape, then train for and compete in local events. You'll meet lots of people in the process.
 
where in NJ are you living? you could look in local newspapers for upcoming community activities. Might meet a few people that way.
 
Originally posted by: ggnl
Get a gym membership and get in shape, then train for and compete in local events. You'll meet lots of people in the process.
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Just started doing this (not the competing part.) Nice idea though. I'm totally out of shape, but I should join a martial arts class when I'm ready. MMA or something.
 
Originally posted by: nixium
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
what are you doing in the suburbs idiot.
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WIN!

Only way I can stay close to work, unfortunately.

Besides, NJ is just one big suburb anyway.
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well don't place so much importance on living close to work. What town do you work in.
 
Join some sports leagues. You meet tones of people through them.

Soccer, Softball, Volleyball, Golf, etc.
Even if you totally suck at sports, you can probably play soccer on a coed ski club team.
Use Google to find some.
 
Local running clubs, biking clubs, kayaking clubs, ect. Exercise itself is good for the body and mind, but the social aspect of the clubs is nice too.
 
Have you ever had a flash of insight like "THAT would be fun to try?" Well, think back and pick three or four of those things and try them. There's usually nothing stopping you except your own misgivings. Try learning an instrument, taking up woodworking, going camping, or going kite surfing. Anything can turn into an awesome hobby... you just need to try things until something sticks.
 
Go and take a course you're interested in, join a sports league/club ... I have played in a rec pool league that was tons of fun and very relaxed, and met quite a few people there.
 
Originally posted by: nixium
Someone asked me what hobbies I have, and I drew a blank. This caused an epiphany of sorts, and I realized my life really sucks. No, not disabled-woman-in-afghanistan type of suck. Not civilian-in-the-gaza-strip suck. Not even I-lost-my-job-while-under-tons-of-debt suck. Just plain old boredom and loneliness.

I'm 25, and I just moved to this suburb type area in NJ, and I realized I spend most of my time in abject boredom. This isn't so bad since I'm an introvert and like spending time with myself, but not *this* much time. Trouble is, I have no friends outside work - while the people at work are great, I don't want to hang out with them *all* the time.

So, any ideas on how I can meet people/make friends? hobbies? This stuff was so easy in college - you literally had tons of people coming your way. It seems like the exact opposite now. At least in college you had clubs and whatnot to do stuff.
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Umm...there are clubs and activities outside of college too, you know. Check out websites for community centres nearby and see what sports and activities interest you. I took an improv comedy class last year, and I had a lot of fun.

Dancing is always a good possibility. Some of my coworkers are into salsa dancing and they convinced me to try it out. I sucked horribly (I'm athletic, but I have no sense of rhythm), but you may do better. And it is a fantastic way to meet women.

 
Originally posted by: nixium
Someone asked me what hobbies I have, and I drew a blank. This caused an epiphany of sorts, and I realized my life really sucks. No, not disabled-woman-in-afghanistan type of suck. Not civilian-in-the-gaza-strip suck. Not even I-lost-my-job-while-under-tons-of-debt suck. Just plain old boredom and loneliness.

I'm 25, and I just moved to this suburb type area in NJ, and I realized I spend most of my time in abject boredom. This isn't so bad since I'm an introvert and like spending time with myself, but not *this* much time. Trouble is, I have no friends outside work - while the people at work are great, I don't want to hang out with them *all* the time.

So, any ideas on how I can meet people/make friends? hobbies? This stuff was so easy in college - you literally had tons of people coming your way. It seems like the exact opposite now. At least in college you had clubs and whatnot to do stuff.
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I am also a introvert and have found a few things that are universally appealing to the opposite sex and are enjoyable in them selves.

1. Learn how to cook - not bulllshit but really learn how to cook. Learn about exotic mushrooms and truffles, different cuts of meat, vegetables like salsify and celery root. With the internet you can really take it to the next level.

2. Go to the gym - don't do meat head exercises. work your core and do lots of cardio.

3. Learn about good wine - Learn to appreciate some lower cost wine and covet more expensive things.

4. watch lots of indie films. Maybe build up a library and have a nice sound system/tv to watch them on. With netflix its impossible to not see good indie films.

5. Gain a unusual fascination with Japanese selvedge denim 🙂 and cool tshirts.

6. If you can have an interesting job possibly is design or artistic in nature.

7. hide the fact you play tons of tf2 until you have been seeing someone for a month 🙂
 
Originally posted by: nixium
Someone asked me what hobbies I have, and I drew a blank. This caused an epiphany of sorts, and I realized my life really sucks. No, not disabled-woman-in-afghanistan type of suck. Not civilian-in-the-gaza-strip suck. Not even I-lost-my-job-while-under-tons-of-debt suck. Just plain old boredom and loneliness.

I'm 25, and I just moved to this suburb type area in NJ, and I realized I spend most of my time in abject boredom. This isn't so bad since I'm an introvert and like spending time with myself, but not *this* much time. Trouble is, I have no friends outside work - while the people at work are great, I don't want to hang out with them *all* the time.

So, any ideas on how I can meet people/make friends? hobbies? This stuff was so easy in college - you literally had tons of people coming your way. It seems like the exact opposite now. At least in college you had clubs and whatnot to do stuff.
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You can also volenteer at local charities. You will be helping your community, meet lots of interesting people, and have something cool and interesting to tell the ladies that you do.

If you want something to REALLY liven up your life, try finding a local chapter of PEP (people exchanging power) or other BDSM groups. :evil:
 
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