Help me find a new career. (long; ADD don't read)

amnesiac

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Some background information about me:
I'm 24, a recent graduate of USC with a BA in Psychology (5 year plan hurr) -- technically I'm finishing up a language requirement in the evenings this semester but whatever -- and currently wasting away in the action packed field of insurance sales.

In a way, I have two employers. I'm a partner in the family insurance firm, which my dad has been running for the last 55 years. Yes, he's been in the same career since he was 23. The other facet of my employment is with New England Financial, for which I am a Series 6/63 licensed Registered Representative. To them, I'm a "detached agent" meaning while I work under the family's company name I am authorized to only sell products offered in the MetLife hierarchy.

To put it succintly, this is not my niche. My father is a tremendous salesman, and my brother, when he was alive and with the company, shared the same silver tongue that netted him big cases left and right. I consider myself very intelligent and very talented, but not a good salesperson. First, I simply don't believe in this business enough to push the products like I should, and second, I detest sitting at a desk and I especially detest paperwork...which incidentally comprises 90% of my job.

So, I'm considering getting out. I know that scads of you would kill to be in my shoes -- a gigantic book of existing business, near-unlimited potential for income, complete freedom -- I'm sure some of you are thinking that I'm batshit insane for wanting to give up a prepackaged ready-to-serve American Dream.

Maybe I am putting the nails in my own coffin, but I see it this way: I can push myself really, really hard in an industry I despise doing a job I loathe, and possibly make a good six-figure income, or I can make substantially less but doing so in a job I like. Considering that my current job sends my stress levels through the roof (partly due to my father's oncoming senility) and makes me depressed as hell, I think the choice is perfectly clear.

Now, the question is, what the hell do I do? I'm damn good with computers but IT/Tech support are so goddamn far out of the question it's not even funny. I have restaurant experience (short order cook, cashier, trainer @ Cheesecake Factory), and I love to cook, so I was contemplating applying as a restaurant manager, or perhaps a line cook/sous chef. I was also thinking of possibly putting my Psych degree to good use as a parole officer. Then, there are other, random openings I found in the paper such as a Private Investigator trainee and a Chauffeur, both of which sound intriguing.

My ultimate goal, sometime down the road is to raise capital and open my own restaurant. Getting together funds to go to culinary academy is in the cards too. Also, I do plan on getting married in the next few years, which is something I have to think about.

Thanks for your advice, helpful or not.
 

Ameesh

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sounds like you like the restaurant business, why dont you keep working now and attend school on the weekends to be trained as a chef or as a restaurant manager. then when you are ready go work as a chef and then eventually get your own restaurant.
 

amnesiac

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Originally posted by: Ameesh
sounds like you like the restaurant business, why dont you keep working now and attend school on the weekends to be trained as a chef or as a restaurant manager. then when you are ready go work as a chef and then eventually get your own restaurant.

There is no such thing as weekend school for chefs. They're all full time schools; at least the serious ones are. For example, the school I was looking at -- CSCA in Pasadena (Le Cordon Bleu affiliate) is a 2 year program.

If I could get some real world experience under my belt first that would be great.
 

Ameesh

Lifer
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Originally posted by: amnesiac
Originally posted by: Ameesh
sounds like you like the restaurant business, why dont you keep working now and attend school on the weekends to be trained as a chef or as a restaurant manager. then when you are ready go work as a chef and then eventually get your own restaurant.

There is no such thing as weekend school for chefs. They're all full time schools; at least the serious ones are. For example, the school I was looking at -- CSCA in Pasadena (Le Cordon Bleu affiliate) is a 2 year program.

If I could get some real world experience under my belt first that would be great.

hmm if you are very serious then you should bite the bullet and go back to school. if i were you i would get some savings together as well as paying off any debt i had before i did it but i think that you should not saty in a job that you hate, you will not be very good at it and you will not be happy.
 

glen

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medicine is a great career for someone with ADD, it's just hell getting in and out of med school.
 

dirtboy

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If you're not happy, do something else. Unfortunately, only you know what will make you happy. All I can say is good luck and that I hope you make a wise choice. Walking away from your "gold mine" will be tough, yes, but if you flounder is screw up it will make you look like a fool.

I am in a very similar situation to you and I'm not big on sales either. If worse came to worse, I'd just continue doing this line of work. In the meantime I'm finishing up my college education and I'm not sure where it will take me. Maybe I will stay in the biz, maybe I'll get out. Maybe I'll leave and return to it later. Who knows for certain.
 

CChaos

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A friend of mine in college got a full ride which he turned into an Econ degree. His father teaches Econ at a well know University and his brother is in Finance. A couple of years after college he went to culinary school and is now a very happy chef in Vermont. F the American Dream square in the eye. Just follow your dream. Oh, and does anyone dream about selling insurance?
 

amnesiac

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Originally posted by: CChaos
A friend of mine in college got a full ride which he turned into an Econ degree. His father teaches Econ at a well know University and his brother is in Finance. A couple of years after college he went to culinary school and is now a very happy chef in Vermont. F the American Dream square in the eye. Just follow your dream. Oh, and does anyone dream about selling insurance?

True that.

I'm going to be talking with my father about it this week.
INterestingly enough I was shuffling through some old papers today and found the resignation letter that my brother submitted back in 1996. Heh.
 

I detest sitting at a desk and I especially detest paperwork...which incidentally comprises 90% of my job.
99% of jobs that make any amount of money, are 90% paperwork.

Just go and try different things. Don't set your mind on getting a career. The harder you try, the further away from your grasp it will slip.