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help...i told my best bud that he is gay

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frankierx

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Originally posted by: iamme
Originally posted by: frankierx

I told my buddy that he is obviously gay.....he shows no interest in making convo with women he or we meet in public..

He denies this and gives me the 'innocent until proven guilty' crap....I am hesitant to even call him on the phone....communicating only via email....

I am not badgering gayness....just when my buddy is obviously gay but not admitting to it........pulling this lawyer wannabe crap on me inorder to win his argument...well ya know what....im just not going to talk to him via phone and only communicate via email...if we don't ever see or talk to each other in person...then well......just have to move on then......we'll see...
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you're an idiot.
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Okay, I'll go call him now and straighten things out.


Originally posted by: Encryptic
Originally posted by: frankierx


I told my buddy that he is obviously gay.....he shows no interest in making convo with women he or we meet in public..

He denies this and gives me the 'innocent until proven guilty' crap....I am hesitant to even call him on the phone....communicating only via email....

I am not badgering gayness....just when my buddy is obviously gay but not admitting to it........pulling this lawyer wannabe crap on me inorder to win his argument...well ya know what....im just not going to talk to him via phone and only communicate via email...if we don't ever see or talk to each other in person...then well......just have to move on then......we'll see...
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Dude....get a clue and grow up. Who cares if your friend is gay? What do you hope to accomplish by browbeating him into giving you an answer about his sexuality? If he is gay, all you're going to do is drive him away from you, as if not talking to him in person wasn't bad enough.

If he's gay and wants to tell you, then let him do it when he feels comfortable. Otherwise, you're making yourself sound like a homophobe or a closeted gay who can't even admit it to himself. :roll:

To the OP: Congratulations on being able to come out to your friend and I hope your parents are equally accepting of it.
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Okay, Ill go call him now and straighten things out.

 
he's not answering his phone....let me show you the email he sent using "F" words......I later emailed him back hurt because he used the "F"words and I never use the "F" words :


"XXXXXX, what is your problem? Where did this issue come from and why does
it matter to you? We are just friends. It distresses my greatly that you,
some I consider a friend, does not even trust my own word. It seems that
you think that I'm lying to you, just like you thought I was lying to you at
XXXXXX when I told you I had to go get my card and you thought I was going
to sleep. Basically, you don't trust me and I thought you were a better
friend than that.

Lets just say that someone being gay is a crime. In this country, you are
innocent until proven guilty. Now, you just try to show me some evidence
that I'm not heterosexual. You want me to prove to you that I'm innocent??
Give me a f**** break. Gay vibes? What the f*** are you talking about?

Regardless, I don't see what this issue has to do with anything. Let's say
you were gay. I would consider that your decision. But since I am not gay,
I would expect you to keep issue apart from being friends with me.

You are accusing me off being gay and a liar. You are starting to tick me
off. Give me a call later when you think you can start being reasonable.

Later,"


**Now this is my email back:



"Regardless, I don't see what this issue has to do with anything. Let's say
you were gay. I would consider that your decision. But since I am not gay,
I would expect you to keep issue apart from being friends with "

What does this mean? I am not gay....I am the one who thinks you are..
If you are saying that I expect to keep issues of sexual preference apart
from friendship......that is not possible when first of all I always had the
impression that you are straight....this is a major revelation...not that I
would do anything about it other than know for sure that my buddy is
gay...and I just won't be walking around in my underpants..."



**my most recent email because he's not answering his phone at 11pm on a friday night:



"my last email was sent right after reading this one with all the 'F' words
in it.....I've never used the 'F' word in your presence and especially when
addressing you......so if my most recent email seemed disheartening it was
made after I was disheartened hearing the 'F' words coming from you and
being addressed to me.....

I hope that you weren't taken back by the recent events as I have this
past week.....I mean only for you to do well on your XXXXXX in a week....and
am not meaning to distract you from that........I've been just perturbed the
entire past week pondering about this gay issue......."




 
Dude.

You sound like a complete, homophobic assh0le. If you act like this to friends, you will eventually run out of friends to mistreat. Get some therapy.
 
You're retarded. Are you afraid to walk around in your underwear in front of women?

I have plenty of straight friends, and I've never 'crossed the line.' You're an idiot, and you're alienating your friend, maybe at a time when he needs a good friend the most.
 
wow, either you're a real ass, or in fifth grade

i guess you're the macho man now, because you're very obviously the most "not gay", and you'll lose friends just to prove yourself!
 
Originally posted by: Nebor
You're retarded. Are you afraid to walk around in your underwear in front of women?

I have plenty of straight friends, and I've never 'crossed the line.' You're an idiot, and you're alienating your friend, maybe at a time when he needs a good friend the most.
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you are right.....I don't know but maybe i should have talked to him on the phone about this one instead of emailing......
 
Originally posted by: frankierx
Originally posted by: Nebor
You're retarded. Are you afraid to walk around in your underwear in front of women?

I have plenty of straight friends, and I've never 'crossed the line.' You're an idiot, and you're alienating your friend, maybe at a time when he needs a good friend the most.
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you are right.....I don't know but maybe i should have talked to him on the phone about this one instead of emailing......
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or maybe you should just stop living
 
Originally posted by: OMG1Penguin
wow, either you're a real ass, or in fifth grade

i guess you're the macho man now, because you're very obviously the most "not gay", and you'll lose friends just to prove yourself!
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yeah...i shouldn't treat him like this.....i dont know what came of me....its just that I should have called him instead of emailing...
 
Originally posted by: frankierx
Originally posted by: Nebor
You're retarded. Are you afraid to walk around in your underwear in front of women?

I have plenty of straight friends, and I've never 'crossed the line.' You're an idiot, and you're alienating your friend, maybe at a time when he needs a good friend the most.
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you are right.....I don't know but maybe i should have talked to him on the phone about this one instead of emailing......
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Just tell him you don't care one way or the other, but that you're always there to listen if he needs to talk. Then invite him over for some pizza and beer while you watch some sports or whatever. Just don't act wierd around him! That will alienate him.
 
Originally posted by: OMG1Penguin
Originally posted by: frankierx
Originally posted by: Nebor
You're retarded. Are you afraid to walk around in your underwear in front of women?

I have plenty of straight friends, and I've never 'crossed the line.' You're an idiot, and you're alienating your friend, maybe at a time when he needs a good friend the most.
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you are right.....I don't know but maybe i should have talked to him on the phone about this one instead of emailing......
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or maybe you should just stop living
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i'll try to call him and apologize then....
 
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: frankierx
Originally posted by: Nebor
You're retarded. Are you afraid to walk around in your underwear in front of women?

I have plenty of straight friends, and I've never 'crossed the line.' You're an idiot, and you're alienating your friend, maybe at a time when he needs a good friend the most.
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you are right.....I don't know but maybe i should have talked to him on the phone about this one instead of emailing......
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Just tell him you don't care one way or the other, but that you're always there to listen if he needs to talk. Then invite him over for some pizza and beer while you watch some sports or whatever. Just don't act wierd around him! That will alienate him.
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Okay....hes really been my best bud for over 5 yrs now.....i just hope its not too late....
 
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you really are a fvcking moron
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i don't understand why it is a big deal. Why can't one of you just man up and apologize and get over it? If not, your "friendship" is worth sh!t.
 
Originally posted by: KPSHAH316
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you really are a fvcking moron
/obligatory/

i don't understand why it is a big deal. Why can't one of you just man up and apologize and get over it? If not, your "friendship" is worth sh!t.
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Okay,,...it is 1.23am now ...i will call and leave a voice mail apologizing if he doesn't pick up.....or maybe i should not chance the voice mail messing up and rather wait until he picks up tomorrow or something.....
 
Originally posted by: frankierx
Originally posted by: KPSHAH316
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you really are a fvcking moron
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i don't understand why it is a big deal. Why can't one of you just man up and apologize and get over it? If not, your "friendship" is worth sh!t.
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Okay,,...it is 1.23am now ...i will call and leave a voice mail apologizing if he doesn't pick up.....or maybe i should not chance the voice mail messing up and rather wait until he picks up tomorrow or something.....
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just let it go, stop pestering him.
 
i wouldn't do the voice mail. call and make sure you speak to him. arrange a meeting so you both can vent star 67 before you call/
 
His being gay or not being gay should effect you in no way if you are actually his friend.

Drop the issue.
 
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