help! going thru major anxiety!

skywalker66

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guys,

we all know how fvcked up am i and all, but right now I'm having some serious problems.

Like you know how I could get obsessed about little stupid things and think about the all the time until my mind was lost from the rest of the world, and I was lost in a world of confusion not knowing any answers to my original questions, extreme anxiety attacks, and leaving myself with big headaches afterwards.

when i get into these anxiety attacks i cant think or do anything else at all. sometimes my life stops for like 3 hours while i think about something and i can never find answers or resolve what im thinking about. Actually usually I will, but it will happen much later on, and then a new problem comes up in my head.

For example, earlier it was my diet that I always thought about. I was constantly going back and forth between ideas, couldnt figure out what was wrong or right, and I'm very glad that I've finally settled on something.

Now my new issue is girls. I can't decide how I would go about dating them and in what situations and what not.

like i dont know if it would be my style to ask girls out that u see in public vs. whether I should just wait and just ask the girls out that are apart of my regular life.

i dont really know what the point of dating is anymore. some ppl do it to find someone they like, but it seems like others just do it for kicks, and im wondering if it would be worthwhile for me to do it for kicks, and if that is possible without having sexual stuff involved, etc, etc, etc,

as you can see im in a big fuckin mess.



EDIT: thought of something more to say:

like people are telling me that i should date girls anyway this summer, even though i only have 1 month before college starts, and im outta here.

i mean i thought the whole point of dating was to find someone to get involved in a good relationship with, right?
it sounds like some ppl will date, for reasons that relate to appearances only. and then they 'get to know the persons personality later' thru dating? wtf?

how the hell do you keep all of that straight? like how do you know who you are really interested if your dating 5 different girls that you all met at the beach,
and say there's this fine chick that goes to the same school as you, that you talk to everyday??

and how the heck do you decide how much time you should alot to dating? like how much is too little and how much is too much?

I know this one guy who basically isnt close friends with anyone at all, but he's also a player, who has a date literally every night of the week!

Everything is so dang confusing!!
 

UberDave

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It sounds as though you should just get a girl to fall into place with you. Running around trying to catch girls is just stupid and unemotional. It usually takes a while, but with time a girl who's involved in the same stuff as you will come around eventually hopefully. Catching girls on the random running around takes away a lot of things and just usually ends up being a toy, and not something you really need.

As for anxiety, I suggest finding yourself a friend to just chill with or go to the gym with him or her. Have him spot you and just work out together and chat and work things out. Put your anxiety through your body with weights. It sure beats going physco and driving down the expressway doing 100+ mph.
Eat more salads and maybe bake patatoes and steak (steak = relaxing 'expensive' soothing). I don't suggest alcohol to solve anything, it will just make you weak and drain your confidence and strength with yourself.

Good luck,
-Dave
 

skywalker66

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okay
i dont understand this toy thing and what qualifies as chasing around for girls?

Like does toy imply sexual implications?


Is there anyway to date a girl that you meet at say some place out in public, like the beach, the mall, etc, where you can get something out of it, without sexual activity involved??

Are you saying that its a bad idea to get numbers from girls that you meet out at places???


some ppl think that theres nothing wrong with it at all, and that its rather harmless


im so lost as to which option is going to leave me the most happy.
I dont want to make things too confusing, but at the same time, I dont want to be missing out on any fun in my life. :( I've already missed out on enough fun in my life.
 

oLLie

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Wow, you really do think about this stuff a lot. Just take it easy... relax, go with the flow, yo.

*edit* I chuckled when I saw he put EDIT in his original post which is unedited. :p
 

rgwalt

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<Road Trip Quote> You know what your problem is? You are all brains! Not enough balls. </Road Trip Quote>

I've had these sorts of attacks every so often. Just try to relax and not think. If it gets too bad, see your doctor.

Ryan