hello. i am girl. ((a whine by a complainer))

[eakers]

i am a girl. not a possesion.

so ive been single forrrrrrrrrrr almost a year now. ive had dates and random flings but nothing serious as i havent really met anyone worth my time.
enter charlie.
i met charlie through friends at a house party and we started to get to know eachother on icq, talking almost every single morning when i came home from work and he got to work.
he seems perfect.

well i like to go out on the weekends and charlie being a bit older than me (24, im 21) tells me hes already gone through his clubbing and drinking and whatever phase so he never wants to go out. fine by me, he can sit at home or go to the pub with his friends when i go out, i mean theres no law that says i cant go out without him. OR IS THERE?
he gets sooooooo upset when i go out with my friends cuz he knows im going to get drunk and in his words "clubs are for single people". WHAT? DOES THIS MAKE SENSE TO YOU? i mean, he got upset last weekend when i went to a gay bar with a few of my friends A GAY BAR.

now hes tellin me that some of my friends are bad influences cuz they do drugs or they pick up at clubs or they are bi (this one really upsets me) and he doesnt want me to go out with them as much and i should really start being friends with his friends. he tells me im too smart to be hanging out with my friends and i should be around people that challenge me intellectually.

so he wants me to be around more mature people BUT wants me to be like his little child that he can control and take care of?

so, sadly, charlie and his controlling ways has got to go. my friends mean so much to me and ive told him time and time again im not changing for anyone but myself.

maybe im just selfish, but, im young and there are lots of "perfect" guys out there.

*kat. <-- a little sad right now.

 

[Random Variable]

Hello. I am a boy (or a reasonable facsimile thereof ).

 

[bmacd]

kinda funny b/c you posted in my thread about how cool my gf sounded and that you'd like to hang out with her. I see a lot of Charlie in me...in that i'm done with the clubbing thing and the only reason you goto a club is to grind up on some guy. I agree 100% with Charlie. Sorry hon.

-=bmacd=-

edit: now that i reread your post, i'd swear you were my gf.

 

[bunker]

So is this for real or did you make this one up too?

 

[Isla]

Hello!

I am a woman.



(sorry, couldn't resist!)

 

[Orsorum]

It's your choice to give him up... just keep in mind what you may be losing.

<--- may be a little too long-sighted for his own good.

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: bunker
So is this for real or did you make this one up too?

somebody just posted about knowing what you're giving up...my gf's sister AND parents kept reminding her how much she'd be losing if we did break up..what a perfect guy i am and how she (my gf) needs to start growing up and settling down.

-=bmacd=-

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: bunker
So is this for real or did you make this one up too?

lol

nik (

)

 

[Hammer]

I know we've talked about this before, so you know what I think. If you're gonna date an older guy, its gonna be different.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: bmacd
kinda funny b/c you posted in my thread about how cool my gf sounded and that you'd like to hang out with her. I see a lot of Charlie in me...in that i'm done with the clubbing thing and the only reason you goto a club is to grind up on some guy. I agree 100% with Charlie. Sorry hon.

-=bmacd=-

edit: now that i reread your post, i'd swear you were my gf.

actually i dont go to those kinds of clubs.
i usually just go to wherever my friends are spinning cuz they are djs.

i dont do the grinding thing.
its just wrong.

 

[bugsysiegel]

find someone who is your age at a club. then you both have that in common. personally, i wouldn't care if my girl wanted to go to a club, gotta have some trust, as long as she didn't care when I wanted to go out occasionally, also.

 

[bmacd]

i wish i dated older girls. This is getting old with these girls always wanting to go out and party all night long. Crimony...whatever happened to a night alone watching a movie or something simple? I think there is a major difference between a girl who's 21 and 24. Being 19 years old, i'd opt for the 24 year based on past experiences. If i had my choice, i'd choose to settle down with a 27 year old woman.

-=bmacd=-

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: hammer09
I know we've talked about this before, so you know what I think. If you're gonna date an older guy, its gonna be different.

i know babe

but i have been open and honest with him right from the start about all these things, i dont understand why he would pursue me then try to change me once we were more serious.

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: bugsysiegel
find someone who is your age at a club. then you both have that in common. personally, i wouldn't care if my girl wanted to go to a club, gotta have some trust, as long as she didn't care when I wanted to go out occasionally, also.

i did a lot of experimenting...and was told that if i found the right girl at a club/bar, she'd quit the bar/club scene and settle down with me. It has yet to happen.

-=bmacd=-

 

[bunker]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: bunker
So is this for real or did you make this one up too?

lol

nik (

)

I was on #neochat that night .

 

[Hammer]

Dude, a 27 year old woman is at a completely different point in her life than a 19 year old guy in college.

Originally posted by: bmacd
i wish i dated older girls. This is getting old with these girls always wanting to go out and party all night long. Crimony...whatever happened to a night alone watching a movie or something simple? I think there is a major difference between a girl who's 21 and 24. Being 19 years old, i'd opt for the 24 year based on past experiences. If i had my choice, i'd choose to settle down with a 27 year old woman.

-=bmacd=-

 

[Orsorum]

i wish i dated older girls.

I do date older girls... This possibly has to do with me taking 400-level classes as a sophomore... who knows, maybe I'll date a grad student if I start taking graduate classes next year.

Just gotta go for it, I suppose... get involved in stuff that older people are involved in. And you're right, older women are much more fun than younger women... much more privvy to real conversations, have a damn good time just hanging out and talking, etc...

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: hammer09
I know we've talked about this before, so you know what I think. If you're gonna date an older guy, its gonna be different.

i know babe

but i have been open and honest with him right from the start about all these things, i dont understand why he would pursue me then try to change me once we were more serious.

i know you read my thread about my gf, so you probably know i tried the same exact thing...tried getting her to chill out on the drinking and stop the weed. She blasted me for "not respecting her lifestyle" and how "it's the sorority life and i'm not ready to change". Dumping the guy is going to be the only way to stop him from controlling you, but i hope you realize what you're losing...i know my gf doesn't know what she's about to lose when we break it off for good tonight.

-=bmacd=-

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

Since girls are supposedly about 3 years ahead of boys as far as maturity goes, I don't think somone is acting their age.

 

[Pliablemoose]

For guys serious=exclusivity, we decide to be like that about 15 minutes before we ask a girl out on the first date.

 

[RGN]

I'm a 24 year old guy... (Single for 2 years, flings, etc) But if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't want her out getting piss drunk. I'm not talking designated driver here, but reason says piss fvcking drunk is not a healthy thing.

That aside, I would want her to be independent. Be able to make her own decisions, but yet respect my opinions. If she want to go clubbin' so be it. Just don't call me up and want me to hold her hair while she pukes... No cool, not mature.

Its really not-so-common-sense.

 

[Cyberian]

Originally posted by: Isla
Hello!

I am a woman.

Could you roar for us?

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: RGN
I'm a 24 year old guy... (Single for 2 years, flings, etc) But if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't want her out getting piss drunk. I'm not talking designated driver here, but reason says piss fvcking drunk is not a healthy thing.

That aside, I would want her to be independent. Be able to make her own decisions, but yet respect my opinions. If she want to go clubbin' so be it. Just don't call me up and want me to hold her hair while she pukes... No cool, not mature.

Its really not-so-common-sense.

wow...you just put my gf to shame. But you're absolutely right...great minds think alike

-=bmacd=-

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: bmacd

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: hammer09
I know we've talked about this before, so you know what I think. If you're gonna date an older guy, its gonna be different.

i know babe

but i have been open and honest with him right from the start about all these things, i dont understand why he would pursue me then try to change me once we were more serious.

i know you read my thread about my gf, so you probably know i tried the same exact thing...tried getting her to chill out on the drinking and stop the weed. She blasted me for "not respecting her lifestyle" and how "it's the sorority life and i'm not ready to change". Dumping the guy is going to be the only way to stop him from controlling you, but i hope you realize what you're losing...i know my gf doesn't know what she's about to lose when we break it off for good tonight.

-=bmacd=-

by breaking it off with charlie, perhaps i am doing him a good thing?
i see how much your girlfriend hurts you when she does whatever she wants.

i used to be all about stayin in and cuddling and watching movies with my exboyfriend. i used to only go out like once a month and always with him. but now, i just want to spend time with my friends, i like going out and meeting new people and going on little adventures and just having a crazy time. besides ITS THE SUMMER!!!!!!!! its not like have school or anything, i know once school starts up again ihave to settle down some.

 

[propellerhead]

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