Has anyone here ever been married in a catholic church?

[TrevorJ]

It's amazing how many steps that they require you to take before the actual ceremony.

1. Initial meeting with priest
2. Obtain signatures from witnesses to your having never married before.
3. Take marriage compatibility quiz
4. Marriage preparation course (basically a weekend retreat)
5. Prenuptial investigation (1-on-1 interrogation by the priest)
6. Track down your baptismal certificate
7. Get marriage license
8. The big day

Luckily the ceremony isn't for another year-and-a-half. Can't imagine doing all of this in < 6 mos.

 

[thirdeye]

I was, and yes it's completely stupid. Thankfully I didn't have to come up with a baptismal cert. because I never was, and had no intentions of doing so.

 

[Heisenberg]

Just have a judge do it in their office. You'll be in and out in 15 minutes.

 

[Lola]

Your huge list is the exact reason we chose not to get married with the catholic church eventhough we both (techincally) are Catholic.

 

[Mursilis]

How dare an institution take marriage seriously!
:roll:

 

[waggy]

yeah my buddy was married in the catholic church. but the priest (father? i am not familer with the church) screwed up and did not file any paperwork after the wedding. So that made the marriage (in the eyes of the church) not binding. so they had to redo it. about 7 couples had to redo the wedding (though they could have just signed new paperwork etc)

 

[nakedfrog]

My friend and his wife had to take classes for a few weeks, IIRC.
Since the ceremony includes a mass, I skipped it and showed up for the reception.

 

[thirdeye]

Originally posted by: Mursilis
How dare an institution take marriage seriously!
:roll:

Oh please. Like any of that stuff would actually prevent a marriage from taking place because they failed their tests or whatever. It's just a good way of getting more money into the church.

 

[meltdown75]

*raises hand*

/flamesuit

my version:

- meet w/ priest (about an hour total)
- "marriage classes" - friday night, 4 hours saturday, 1 hour sunday + mass
- marriage FTW

not a big deal IMHO

 

[dennilfloss]

I was and we encountered some problems because I had married my wife in court earlier to prevent visa problems and help her get landed immigrant status. Because of this, our parish priest did not want to marry us so we went to the university pastor and got married at the university chapel instead.

 

[Ramma2]

Yeah, had to do all that, plus a few steps since the wife is one of those heathen methodists.

 

[Mursilis]

Originally posted by: thirdeye

Originally posted by: Mursilis
How dare an institution take marriage seriously!
:roll:

Oh please. Like any of that stuff would actually prevent a marriage from taking place because they failed their tests or whatever.

To the contrary, that happens somewhat frequently.

 

[blackdogdeek]

we did. we had to do most of that stuff. my wife always wanted to be married in a church so we did all that stuff.

i didn't mind.

 

[brandonb]

Originally posted by: thirdeye
It's just a good way of getting more money into the church.

Are you kidding? The church does that for FREE, not a FEEE! Its volunteer. A friend of mine did the same routine with a non catholic church (luthern I think) and it was free then too. In fact, he said it helped him and his wife alot. They were taught on how to handle conflicts that will come up in marriage, and not to "freak out and get divorced." Yadda yadda yadda.

 

[essasin]

The church makes it a big deal because Matrimony is considered 1 of 7 sacraments. Most of the process is just talking about emotions and the spirtual side to the life long commitment to matrimony. There are no interrogations and quizes are rather rare. They're more like activities than anything else. For the most part the people involved in the process just want to get to know you and spirtually help you for matrimony, so its a really realxed friendy atmosphere. I rather not go through the whole process but it is not a long, tedious, agonizing experience that the OP makes it seem.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: TrevorJ
It's amazing how many steps that they require you to take before the actual ceremony.

1. Initial meeting with priest
2. Obtain signatures from witnesses to your having never married before.
3. Take marriage compatibility quiz
4. Marriage preparation course (basically a weekend retreat)
5. Prenuptial investigation (1-on-1 interrogation by the priest)
6. Track down your baptismal certificate
7. Get marriage license
8. The big day

Luckily the ceremony isn't for another year-and-a-half. Can't imagine doing all of this in < 6 mos.

And this bothers you?

 

[Schadenfroh]

A large portion of my family is Catholic, I have been to several Catholic weddings, but I have never participated in them.


VERY long and VERY drawn out

 

[GagHalfrunt]

Try getting married in a Greek Orthodox church instead. The ceremony itself is longer than the entire process for Catholics.

 

[allisolm]

Originally posted by: Ramma2
Yeah, had to do all that, plus a few steps since the wife is one of those heathen methodists.

Yeah, had to do all that plus a few steps since the husband is one of those heathen Baptists.

 

[PokerGuy]

Originally posted by: thirdeye

Originally posted by: Mursilis
How dare an institution take marriage seriously!
:roll:

Oh please. Like any of that stuff would actually prevent a marriage from taking place because they failed their tests or whatever. It's just a good way of getting more money into the church.

Your ignorance is showing..... One, the church does not charge anything for these activities, so they have no monetary incentive to do these things.

Nobody makes you get married in a Catholic church. Like Lolawiz said, you can always opt to get married somewhere else. If you want to be married in a Catholic church, you have to play by their rules. Don't want to play by their rules, get married somewhere else. Very simple really.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

Originally posted by: TrevorJ
It's amazing how many steps that they require you to take before the actual ceremony.

1. Initial meeting with priest
2. Obtain signatures from witnesses to your having never married before.
3. Take marriage compatibility quiz
4. Marriage preparation course (basically a weekend retreat)
5. Prenuptial investigation (1-on-1 interrogation by the priest)
6. Track down your baptismal certificate
7. Get marriage license
8. The big day

Luckily the ceremony isn't for another year-and-a-half. Can't imagine doing all of this in < 6 mos.

Wow.. your church is really strict. I had to do #'s 1, 4 (#3 was included in this), 6, 7, 8

The longest part was the classes. But that was only 2 weekends worth.

The marriage course was actually fun. It's not preachy or anything like that. It's more of a what to expect from each other when you are married type of class.

Are you having a mass? Those are so long and boring. We skipped that part for the sake of our guests, and just had the wedding ceremony. 15/20 minutes in and out!

 

[Ramma2]

Originally posted by: allisolm

Originally posted by: Ramma2
Yeah, had to do all that, plus a few steps since the wife is one of those heathen methodists.

Yeah, had to do all that plus a few steps since the husband is one of those heathen Baptists.

I tell ya, if everyone was a good Catholic we'd all be better off

 

[KeithTalent]

Was not married in one, but have been to a few weddings in one...boring as hell.

 

[KeithP]

In general, actually being married will be far more work than those 8 steps. It is not all wine and roses. I would say if you feel those steps are a lot of work you are in for a rude awakening after the honeymoon is over.

And no, I am not Catholic.

-KeithP

 

[jadinolf]

Originally posted by: Ramma2
Yeah, had to do all that, plus a few steps since the wife is one of those heathen methodists.

Perish tha thought.