Guys I think we all make socializing much more difficult than it really is

[ClarityZedd]

93% of communication is nonverbal. People don't give a fuck what you have to say, they mostly judge you on your body language/confident tone of voice/body language/posture/ etc...

You can have a good conversation with a stranger talking about just about anything. I was at a grocery store today and started talking to this dude about triple oikos yogurt (it's awesome protein yogurt). The key is to start off with something non threatening and then ask them more and more personal questions as time goes on.

I think we all build up in our head that we have to come up with this perfect opening line to talk to strangers...in reality, if you have a great positive attitude, they will love you no matter what you say. The key is to be very genuine, not expect anything (the less you care, the better results you will have) and trust yourself that the other person will like you.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Yet, you can't meet a woman.

 

[madoka]

in reality, if you have a great positive attitude, they will love you no matter what you say. The key is to be very genuine

"Hey girl, I may look like a balding manlet, but I'm technically more of a troll."

Let me know how sincerity and truth works out for you.

 

[Greenman]

The perfect opening line is"hello", followed by "good morning/afternoon/evening". The trick to having a meaningful conversation with someone, male or female, is to not talk about how rich/handsome/accomplished you are.
The issue you have, and don't seem to realize it, is that you're totally self absorbed. I don't know how you break out of that, but you need to.

 

[Sicfast]

Not even kidding in the slightest, if someone started talking to me randomly at the grocery store, about yogurt or any other food, I'm going to look at them like they're crazy and walk away.

 

[whm1974]

Not even kidding in the slightest, if someone started talking to me randomly at the grocery store, about yogurt or any other food, I'm going to look at them like they're crazy and walk away.

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I don't know, I gotten good advice about cooking before at the store.

 

[Sicfast]

I don't know, I gotten good advice about cooking before at the store.

Being an autodidact has it's benefits.

 

[ClarityZedd]

The perfect opening line is"hello", followed by "good morning/afternoon/evening". The trick to having a meaningful conversation with someone, male or female, is to not talk about how rich/handsome/accomplished you are.
The issue you have, and don't seem to realize it, is that you're totally self absorbed. I don't know how you break out of that, but you need to.

did you read the OP? that's what I'm talking about

have a meaningful conversation and focus on having good attitude/voice of tone/body language

 

[ClarityZedd]

Not even kidding in the slightest, if someone started talking to me randomly at the grocery store, about yogurt or any other food, I'm going to look at them like they're crazy and walk away.

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really? you're that much of a social retard?

let's say you're at a grocery store and in the meat section, a stranger friendly smiles at you and tell you to try that T - bone, it's a great cut of meat, you would be weirded out?

jesus christ millenials nowadays are anti-social

 

[Sicfast]

really? you're that much of a social retard?

let's say you're at a grocery store and in the meat section, a stranger friendly smiles at you and tell you to try that T - bone, it's a great cut of meat, you would be weirded out?

jesus christ millenials nowadays are anti-social

It makes me a social retard because I don't care? I have shit to do and get on with. Not sit there and talk to your stupid ass. Also, I'm 33.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

93% of communication is non-verbal, which is why I normally walk around in public 24/7 with my middle-finger up.

 

[yhelothar]

"Hey girl, I may look like a balding manlet, but I'm technically more of a troll."

Let me know how sincerity and truth works out for you.

sincerity + truth + good principles + good values

 

[Kaido]

Not even kidding in the slightest, if someone started talking to me randomly at the grocery store, about yogurt or any other food, I'm going to look at them like they're crazy and walk away.

I don't know, I gotten good advice about cooking before at the store.

I was just at Whole Foods yesterday getting the weird oranges I get annually & a guy randomly came up and started asking questions about it. We talked for like five minutes, haha. I don't mind sharing about food, especially if someone has the guts to overcome their fear & talk to a random stranger.

Side note, they were Satsumos (Sumo citrus fruits), which are amazing. For a brief history, as I understand it:

1. Currently sold as a "Satsumo" (not satsuma, which is a type of mandarin) or "Sumo" citrus fruits
2. Known as Dekopons in Japan, which is where they came from (also called hallabongs, in South Korea)
3. Created by crossing a kiyomi (a satsuma crossed with an orange) with a ponkan (a large Chinese mandarin)
4. Four main features:

1) Huge
2) Crazy delicious
3) Has a low-effort tear-off knob on top (GENIUS!) to open it up for peeling with just your fingers
4) Incredibly easy-to-peel

A quick intro: (all of this came to market around 2011 in the United States)

https://gizmodo.com/5773849/the-dekopon-is-the-fruit-of-the-future

Really interesting back story in America:

http://www.latimes.com/food/la-fo-dekopon-20110217-story.html

Suntreat company, who sells Sumos:

http://www.sumocitrus.com/sumo_in_stores.aspx

Also called Satsumos:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...weighing-12oz--times-size-cousin-satsuma.html

If you can find them, they're the bomb!

 

[Kaido]

they mostly judge you on your body language/confident tone of voice/body language/posture/ etc....

I dunno, people are mostly too worried about themselves to over-think about other people. It's really only the obnoxious ones who point out issues in other people, in my experience.

 

[Carson Dyle]

The reality is that some people are just social misfits. Completely inept in their interactions with other human beings. And that these people are surprisingly common. The OP seems to think his issues are primarily in finding a mate. Chances of that being the case are slim. I'm sure his family, coworkers and friends (if there are any) think he's just as strange.

 

[Sicfast]

I dunno, people are mostly too worried about themselves to over-think about other people. It's really only the obnoxious ones who point out issues in other people, in my experience.

This. Exactly this.

 

[Sicfast]

The reality is that some people are just social misfits. Completely inept in their interactions with other human beings. And that these people are surprisingly common. The OP seems to think his issues are primarily in finding a mate. Chances of that being the case are slim. I'm sure his family, coworkers and friends (if there are any) think he's just as strange.

I'll explain it like this, theirs a time for acceptable social interaction with strangers. Usually over a beer at a sports bar or event or other places of similar interests where others gather. Not grocery shopping.

 

[WelshBloke]

OP evidently made socialising more difficult than it needed to be!

https://forums.anandtech.com/thread...ase-delete-all-my-threads-and-ban-me.2540890/

 

[Red Storm]

Also, I'm 33.

33 is prime millennial age, FYI.

 

[feralkid]

I was just at Whole Foods yesterday getting the weird oranges I get annually & a guy randomly came up and started asking questions about it. We talked for like five minutes, haha. I don't mind sharing about food, especially if someone has the guts to overcome their fear & talk to a random stranger.

Side note, they were Satsumos (Sumo citrus fruits), which are amazing. For a brief history, as I understand it:

1. Currently sold as a "Satsumo" (not satsuma, which is a type of mandarin) or "Sumo" citrus fruits
2. Known as Dekopons in Japan, which is where they came from (also called hallabongs, in South Korea)
3. Created by crossing a kiyomi (a satsuma crossed with an orange) with a ponkan (a large Chinese mandarin)
4. Four main features:

1) Huge
2) Crazy delicious
3) Has a low-effort tear-off knob on top (GENIUS!) to open it up for peeling with just your fingers
4) Incredibly easy-to-peel

A quick intro: (all of this came to market around 2011 in the United States)

https://gizmodo.com/5773849/the-dekopon-is-the-fruit-of-the-future

Really interesting back story in America:

http://www.latimes.com/food/la-fo-dekopon-20110217-story.html

Suntreat company, who sells Sumos:

http://www.sumocitrus.com/sumo_in_stores.aspx

Also called Satsumos:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...weighing-12oz--times-size-cousin-satsuma.html

If you can find them, they're the bomb!

Thank you.

It is time I venture on from Blood oranges and Cara Cara.

 

[ultimatebob]

I was just at Whole Foods yesterday getting the weird oranges I get annually & a guy randomly came up and started asking questions about it. We talked for like five minutes, haha. I don't mind sharing about food, especially if someone has the guts to overcome their fear & talk to a random stranger.

(Snip)

If you can find them, they're the bomb!

Dude. I CANNOT afford to be shopping at Whole Paycheck right now. I just blew all of cash on a fancy sports car.

 

[Sicfast]

33 is prime millennial age, FYI.

A chart for you

 

[WelshBloke]

A chart for you

So you're agreeing with him?

 

[ultimatebob]

A chart for you

I want a better name for my generation than "Generation X" I want to be "Generation Excellent" or "Generation Awesome"

 

[[DHT]Osiris]

A chart for you

Calling shens, considering I never even heard the term Millennial until maybe a decade ago, and I was born in '84.

Growing up, I was told we were Gen X, next rollers were Gen Y.

This shit has changed so much, every few months, that it's mostly pointless to even label it. All it does is cause confusion, and create another way to propagate tribalism.