They don't want to be impressed. They probably want to do something fun that is not risky or will make them feel awkward later on. Girls are not hard to talk to and get to know or anything like that. Guys just come on all formal, or start shoving each other and calling each other names when a girl comes around and behaving like they've never seen a girl before in their whole life.
The trick to carrying on with a real live girl is to pretend that the ecounter is just with another human being that may or may not have anything interesting to say (but probably does), and may or may not be interested in what you have to say (but probably will be). This is, in fact, the case. I try not to treat girls different than I treat guys when I first meet them. It's difficult if the girl in question is qualified for the cover of this month's Redbook or Vogue, but not impossible even then.
And a date should be about having fun. The "getting to know her better" part is just a natural phenomenon associated with proximity to the girl. Don't make the "getting to know her better" a formal part of the date. Too many cheesy TV scripts always has the couple looking at each other across a table and saying things like, "Enough about me, tell me about yourself." *gag*
NicklasReugen ~ yeah, that must be it... :disgust:
I'm in a story-telling mood tonight.
Just a little while ago, I was in NYC for an interview. Interviewed, got the internship (didn't take it - only $15/hour, no housing, NYC), was asked out by the boss to dinner. Sure, why not... I have a couple hours to kill before my bus is scheduled to leave, anyway.
I go. The guy basically flaunts all he has... talks about his $10,000/month penthouse suite, brags about the location of his company's new office, chats about his $xxx-million portfolio, "accidentally" drops hints about his buddy-buddy status with big names, lists all his vacation houses, etc. I was not impressed - focused on my meal and tried not to make any sarcastic remarks the whole time. He paid the bill for dinner ($250), no sweat.
Before I left to catch my bus, he asked me if I might be interested in dating an older man... and I told him, very politely, that I was not. If money was all I was going for, I would've been all over that in a heartbeat. But... it isn't. So I wasn't.
None of my former boyfriends had a lot of money (heck, *I* was usually the one who shelled out the cash for dinner and vacations), but... they had a lot of heart. And that was what I loved them for.
<< the only thing that impresses girls 18 and older is $$$$. So flash it and lots of it. Sad but true fact. Any girl who denies this is in denial. >>
no. no no no no no.
i don't know what kinda women you are looking for but i don't care if the guy i'm going out with is rich or not. i love my bf cuz of who he is, not because he can flash money around. my roommate flat out asked me once "but your bf can't provide for the lifestyle you would want to live. how can you stand that?" "because i love him and can sacrifice some things."
i am not in freaking denial. maybe you should go find someone that isn't so superficial and someone that you can relate to.
and i'd just like to say i'm 21 and VERY easily amused and entertained hehe. i think u know when u are with the right one when u no longer have to "impress" them. maybe u should start going out with girls who u know a little better and feel more comfortable with them. then u won't have to worry about that as much
<< my roommate flat out asked me once "but your bf can't provide for the lifestyle you would want to live. how can you stand that?" "because i love him and can sacrifice some things." >>
oh my gosh, that's so sad...hello! girls can provide (moneywise) for themselves, i will live in the lifestyle i want no matter what my bf is making. isn't your roomie an engineer too? i can't believe she thinks like that...
I've developed an interest in one of the male members of this forum. Is it because he's rich? No...
Very poor example, HK. Aren't internet relationships based more on fantasy than reality? If you're entire relationship revolves around phone calls and chat, ofcourse money isn't an issue (unless you're calling Long Distance!!). But in reality, when you're having a relationship you're actually participating in things that involve money.