grrrrr... HOA committee's suck! -long-

[ChrisIsBored]

I hate it when motherfvcking idiots who are in charge of something(only because he bought the domain) screw things up and act like a jacka$$. I know it's a long read but I feel like ranting after tonight.

About a year ago my local Home Owners Association newsletter was requesting people to help with the website development. I volunteered and went as far as creating a full site design. So there I am finished with the project waiting for this guy Doc(he bought the domain) to tell me what type of links to add, how we'll continue, all this stuff... Well.. he wants to get together for a meeting but he cancels on me. We try again, he cancels. He ends up not being able to make it 3 or 4 times and by then i'm just saying screw it you suck(in my head). He never tries to get ahold of me.. I just basically give up.

About 3 weeks ago we have another HOA meeting and the President brings Doc up and he's praising him for buying the domain name and saying he's done so much already. I stand up to complain that Doc hasn't done $hit yet and how I volunteered and was canceled on numerous times.

So we get a list for people to volunteer because apparently Doc is now willing to help get the site going. I sign up and wait a week for Doc to contact us... finally after I had to call someone to tell Doc to get off his ass, he sends out an email asking when everyone can get together. A week goes by, I send an email asking when we're getting together he says not yet he'll set a date. Then this past weekend he sends an email saying we should try to get together on Valentine's Day because he's not married and has that night free. What a jackass! Other people actually have a life! Someone else cancels for that meeting, and it's already taken 2 weeks by this point to get here now. He said this project would be done in 1 month. :| So here's my email:

Doc,

Already two weeks have gone by, and at this rate it will take another 2
months before we get anywhere. I suggest you firmly pick a date such as
Monday evening @ 7PM and we hurry up and discuss building the site. Any
relevant information can be submitted by email to whomever was unable to
attend. If anyone else has any design idea's they should feel free to
submit them.

Your rate of progress is stunningly slow and I'm well aware of what
happened last time. I suggest you either get on the ball and take charge,
or relinquish the silverbrook domain to someone who will. No offense to you
personally, but a project as simple as this one should not consume the
amount of time it has already taken.

Regards,

Chris

Of course I want him to hurry up and pick a date. Last time he kept delaying on me, and now he's doing the same with us now. Here's his response:

Chris,

I feel it's important for everyone on the committee to get together for our
first meeting so we know each other. I know that may not be possible
because of everyone's schedule. I picked Friday after looking at the
schedules that everyone sent me. It seemed to be the best day, accept for
this Friday because of Valentine's day. I will look at everyone's schedule
again and pick another day next week that will accommodate as many of us as
possible. Building this site with the full participation of everyone on the
committee is more important than getting it done on your time table.

I don't appreciate your comments. You said "you're aware" of what happened
last time, but you really don't know the whole story. You don't know a damn
thing about me or what I went through last year. I was in the military and
believe me, I was a little busy. Maybe you had all the time in the world,
but I didn't. I was gone for quite a while doing my job to protect this
nation from psychopathic terrorists, plus I have a web design company that
my partner and I have been building on the side. So when I was here, I
worked a full day at my military job, and then came home and worked until 1
or 2 in the morning on my company. But even though I was tremendously busy,
I still took the time to come up with the idea of a community web site, and
buy the domain, and use my own money and resources to host the domain at no
cost to the Silverbrook residence. I tried my best to put the web site
together, but it slipped through the cracks. I'm sorry for that, but I
don't need you judging me without bothering to find out the facts.

It's easy for you to make negative comments about me, but where were you?.
After some time had passed and we hadn't talked, why didn't you try to find
out what was going on?. You didn't to take any initiative to help keep the
project going, but you think it's Ok to put the entire blame on me. And
then you talk bad about me at the community meeting we had, and then send
this e-mail berating me.

I retired from the military last month, and have more time in my life. I'm
happy this project is back on track, and I want to work together to get it
done. I'm sorry it's not moving in accordance with what you feel is fast
enough, but if you have a problem with me, then say it to me, not everyone
else on the committee. And if you are going to continue to be abrasive and
condescending then I really don't need you on this committee. But, if you
want to be constructive, and give suggestions and be helpful, then we'll be
able to work together and build a good web site for this community.

Doc

Yes yes all in good get the whole group together, but do it in a timely matter you as$hat! :| He goes off on some rant about how he's so patriotic and in the military so he was busy but couldn't take the time to get someone else to develop the site.

Here's my response:

Doc,

First of all, to select a holiday such as Valentines Day,
especially in the evening is simply asinine. You yourself may not have
plans, but it's poor judgment to think such a date and time would work well
for others.

Furthermore, I continued many times to attempt a meeting with
you previously, and repeatedly I was canceled on. You blame me for not
taking initiative, yet you're the one in control, you're the one with the
domain, you're the one who canceled the project to begin with; perhaps if
someone else were in charge of this committee than things would be
different. If you think I'm going to spend months on end attempting to
accommodate you, well then I'm sorry but that's not the way things work in
life. Your accusations are incorrect sir. The situation is one and the
same now, I'm advising you to speed things up based on your previous
inability to finish this project.

To be frank, I don't care what personal tragedy in your life caused you to
stop work on the site to begin with. That information is none of my
business; I do however feel that in such a circumstance, you should have had
the mind to find someone else to continue the project, rather than having
everyone wait on you. I find it especially aggravating that I already spent
many hours developing a design, only to receive no substantial feedback, and
to be ignored.

I'm more than willing to work with you on this project, but I reiterate, if
you don't feel you can continue within a timely fashion, relinquish the
rights to the silverbrook domain to someone who will. I will gladly pay the
transfer fee's to move the domain elsewhere. If you think you deserve an
award for putting up the cash to donate the domain name, well sir I feel you're
sadly mistaken. I don't feel pity for anyone spending less than $10 to
hold up progress.

Regards,

Chris

And then this jackass... I don't even think he has the authority... but he's decided to kick me off the web site committee... he's holding a damn grudge for making him look like a fool in public at the last Home Owners Association meeting.

Chris,

I really don't have time to deal with this. Your e-mails have been
offensive and show your immaturity. I'm not going to spend time going back
and forth with you about this because it isn't worth my time.

Your controlling personality isn't good for this committee. You decided
things weren't going exactly the way you wanted, so you took something that
happened in the past and berated me about it. It's obvious you only care
about what you want, and that isn't conducive to working on this team.
You'd ultimately just aggravate everyone with your childish whining about
taking too much time.

Your help is no longer wanted on this committee, and you won't be contacted
anymore for Web Site Committee matters. The rest of us who are willing to
work together will take care of it.

I have neither the time nor the inclination to deal with such an abrasive,
self-absorbed person as you. I'm putting your e-mail address on my blocked
list, so don't bother to respond because it won't get to me.

Doc

This idiot is taking 3 weeks to get a group together just to talk about our plans, when he told everyone the entire thing would be done in 1 month.

Grrrrr..... i'm so calling up the President of the HOA tomorrow and lending an earfull. What BS.


:disgust::|:disgust::|

 

[TheShiz]

i think you need to calm down.

 

[conjur]

Sounds more like this one guy is just being an a$$hat more than the committee itself sucks. Have you contacted the others personally?

 

[ChrisIsBored]

Well... here's the sad thing.. one other member.. another older gentlement popped in and here's his message:

Although I am not part of this activity I would like to say that I firmly
agree with DOC. You see, many want to lead but it is more than just talk
and it takes one heck of a lot communication. Not setting things out to do
when one is a team member. If it upsets anyone really bad try pushing the
key between the "i" and the "p". You'll get over it. I too am a military
retired person and do not appreciate someone who has a limited vision on the
world and not just their neighborhood, though limited since no action was
taken previously, since action means more than words. Don't even sit back
and demand when you are the person who has not ground to stand on!!! People
like us gave up a lot of our lives so people like you can complain.
However, just because you have the right to free speech, so do I and mine is
exemplified, as DOCs' with action. Look at the real picture and not just a
small insignificant part that you see. Go ahead....respond prove my
point!!!! Prove that there is definitely a contamination in the gene
pool!!!!

Dave

He obviously didn't trash talk me enough so 1 minute later he sends a second email:

Hey Chris....Your letter only proves my point. Look in the mirror because
that may be the only person who respects you!!!

Sorry they don't make glasses to accommodate narrow vision. Sorry that they
do not make a pill that remove the anger from your heart. Most of all Sorry
that you can not understand teamwork. Shame!!! What do you want to be when
you grow up!!!

Dave

So here's my response to Dave. If anything else comes in tonight i'm simply going to ignore it til the President of the association has say in this matter.

My email to Dave

Dave,

I'm sorry you feel that way but there's absolutely no need for
your personal attacks, that's simply childish. By signing up, you are apart
of this activity unless you choose otherwise. My point is not to put shame
towards any one person; I am simply trying to move the process along at a
quicker pace. As I'm sure you were in attendance at the last HOA meeting,
you may have noticed that there are many aspects of our neighborhood
association that have come to a slow crawl. Myself being one of the persons
who volunteered previously to design the Silverbrook website, I have
firsthand experience of watching the process fail.

I don't understand how you feel I have no sense of teamwork when
there has, as of yet been no group participation - Of which I am trying to
hasten the momentum. I've been patiently waiting to help further develop
this project but what good does that do when the one in charge does not
adhere to any sort of schedule? Doc has stated that this project would take
a full month to accomplish. It will be 3 weeks into that month by the time
we get together as a group to start any sort of discussion. How do you
perceive this timeline as being effective leadership? I sir do have grounds
to stand on; I have spent numerous hours in development of a Silverbrook
site, I have spent countless emails contacting Doc to schedule a meeting
date, I have been canceled on as many times and the end result was a website
which was never created.

My family has a long history of Military experience, so while I
do respect your efforts to help defend this great nation, I don't feel such
information is relevant to our project at task. We all have our jobs to
keep us busy, but every so often one must go above and beyond to finish what
has been started.

Regards,

Chris

Anyways... i'm calm about it.... just upset that this jerk isn't getting anything done.

 

[ChrisIsBored]

You can also notice the lack of respect they show me due to the fact that i'm a 22 year old who looks 16. The older guys don't take kindly to someone who looks like a kid telling them that they're not doing their job. :disgust:

 

[ChrisIsBored]

Haha.. i'm sure nobody really cares but I'm getting a big kick out of this situation now. There's a few more emails where this guy "Doc" continues to bash me saying how immature I am and even goes as far as saying he discounted my opinion because I look too young.

Well..... I went above his head and to the two ladies in charge of the committee's. They called him up asking for a meeting with just him and this guy sent them an email saying NO on the basis that they won't tell him what the meeting is about. LOL! So essentially he's telling his bosses on a volunteer community committee that he won't meet with her. This guy is getting so canned. It's gotta be bad when you get kicked off a "volunteer" organization.