I grew up without a Dad, I was raised by my mom and my older sister. For some reason it seems that I get along much better with women. The majority of my friends are female and the majority of my roomates were female. I am straight and married but I am wondering why I get along so well with females and choose to associate with them more than males was because I was basically raised without any male influence. Anyone else raised without a dad and how did it effect you?
Growing up without a Dad, does it make you feminine?
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anxi80
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it didnt make me more feminine, but i do think i have a better tolerance for putting up with females. i have a good amount of patience and became a really good listener. but i dont think it made me more feminine because i dont have qualities that are usually associated with females. at least imo. 
I think you'd need to define feminine, and 'without a dad'. Many people have a father living with them but he's not around or not a part of the upbringing (the same can be said about moms too). You'd have to study and define this before you could make any kind of informed statements about it. Is an hour of quality time a day with a dad more influential than 6 hours with someone who's not all there, etc. And what is feminine? Many men don't like what our culture dictates are normal 'manly' interests. Me for instance. I HATE sports, have very little interest in cars/hunting/fishing/etc, love poetry, am a romantic, and many other classicly 'feminine' pursuits. That being said I'm not 'effeminate' in manner or action...I'm a long time martial art fanatic, like action shows, super-horny heterosexual, etc. And for the record, I had a father (who hunted, fished, was into sports, etc), and he was VERY involved in my life.
What makes us who we are is actually inside us from birth, and neither family nor societal interactions will often change that too dramatically. Personality wise I'm an introvert with strong feelings...by meyers/briggs definitions I'm an INFP (with very very strong INTP tendancies but we won't hijack the thread to get into a Jungian debate). That's what gives me my preferences (it's not the only thing of course, but it's a major conrtibutor). I could have been raised by Randy Savage or in Soviet Russia, I'd still be the same basic person inside as I am now. I know that these statements will get any sociologists up in arms, and I'm sorry about that, but it's the only reasonable argument given the vast majority of existing research elements.
What makes us who we are is actually inside us from birth, and neither family nor societal interactions will often change that too dramatically. Personality wise I'm an introvert with strong feelings...by meyers/briggs definitions I'm an INFP (with very very strong INTP tendancies but we won't hijack the thread to get into a Jungian debate). That's what gives me my preferences (it's not the only thing of course, but it's a major conrtibutor). I could have been raised by Randy Savage or in Soviet Russia, I'd still be the same basic person inside as I am now. I know that these statements will get any sociologists up in arms, and I'm sorry about that, but it's the only reasonable argument given the vast majority of existing research elements.
I effectively grew up without a dad...
I don't like any sports, which I guess you could attribute to that. I don't have any special empathy towards females, though, nor do I exhibit any major feminine qualities.
I don't like any sports, which I guess you could attribute to that. I don't have any special empathy towards females, though, nor do I exhibit any major feminine qualities.
yhelothar
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I grew up without a dad also with my mom and my sister. I think I am a bit more feminine than the average guy. I became a bit of a bitchy perfectionist like my mom and my sister. I think I get along with females a lot better too. For example, last time when I went out with my friends, which included 6 guys and 2 girls. The 6 guys were playing cards, and I just wasn't interested and joined in on the "girltalk".
Yeah I hate sports too, and I'm into art.
Yeah I hate sports too, and I'm into art.
DainBramaged
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IMO, Kristin's got it right. Nature overrides nurture by a wide margin. We had a brother & sister in our class, probably twins, but I don't know. The guy was as swishy as you can get and still be male. His sister was pretty damned masculine. I have no idea if they had a mom or a dad, but they lived under the same roof either way.
Depends on the person, as someone else said. I think that if a guy is raised by his mom, and he also has a sister or more than one sister, he may well "get along" with females more easily.
A good friend of mine grew up in this exact situation. He was certainly not a masculine type, very feminine in many ways....but he got more women than anyone else I've known.
A good friend of mine grew up in this exact situation. He was certainly not a masculine type, very feminine in many ways....but he got more women than anyone else I've known.
There is a subtle beauty in it. We can understand women. We know what they want. We know when they are lying:evil: We know how to lsiten. We don't take sh!t from anybody and yet make a concerted effort to keep disscussion logical and calm. We clean after ourselves. Basically, we are a genetic half-breed that has the ability to communicate with both sides in an amicable and EFFECTive manner. We are the elite of the world. We are the ones whole will inherit the weath of Onasis..lol Seriosuly though, I can handle 10 screaming women and 10 screaming men all in one room. I've done it before. Sheer madness to calm discussion. It is a marvelous talent:evil:
And yet, we still have a big whole in our lives.
Either way, when I meet "Ms. Right," she is going to love me
And yet, we still have a big whole in our lives.
Either way, when I meet "Ms. Right," she is going to love me
well, it does give you some unusual information, when I was young I had to teach my gfs and friend's gfs about birth control, pap smears, etc.
It was amazing that their own families never taught them such basics.
I am still a good friend of my guy friends' wives (gfs from back in the day)
They still call me, and we all hang out when I go back to my hometown.
It was amazing that their own families never taught them such basics.
I am still a good friend of my guy friends' wives (gfs from back in the day)
They still call me, and we all hang out when I go back to my hometown.
Originally posted by: virtualgames0
I grew up without a dad also with my mom and my sister. I think I am a bit more feminine than the average guy. I became a bit of a bitchy perfectionist like my mom and my sister. I think I get along with females a lot better too. For example, last time when I went out with my friends, which included 6 guys and 2 girls. The 6 guys were playing cards, and I just wasn't interested and joined in on the "girltalk".
Yeah I hate sports too, and I'm into art.
I think we got a metro/homosexual int he closet here
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