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wasssup

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So i'm working helpdesk now, but already gave my two weeks notice in since I finally got an offer for a job as a software engineer. Since then, my "friend" turned into an ass, trying to belittle me as much as possible to make himself feel better about himself.

I'm trying to leave on a good note so i'm not doing much, I figure I just have to deal with this crap for another week, but man people can be pathetic sometimes.
 
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So this friend works at the same place you now, I'm guessing. I think friends should be proud of their friends' success, of course, unless you denied the job from him.
 
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Originally posted by: wasssup
So i'm working helpdesk now, but already gave my two weeks notice in since I finally got an offer for a job as a software engineer. Since then, my "friend" turned into an ass, trying to belittle me as much as possible to make himself feel better about himself.

I'm trying to leave on a good note so i'm not doing much, I figure I just have to deal with this crap for another week, but man people can be pathetic sometimes.
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hug him.

and give him a big wet kiss.
 
waggy

waggy

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i agree with boogiman. not a real friend at all.

heck i have friends that are far more successfull (carrer wise anyway) then i am. one is makeing like $250k a year (he is 31). it does not bother me at all. i am very happy for him. he has worked hard to get where he is.

I also have a friend that is the defination of loser. he still lives with his parents (31 also i think). has had 3 girlfriends (i set him up with 1 another was 5 years younger and used him for money) and delivers papers for a living.

he stoped talking to me once i baught a house. wich was to bad i had fun hanging out with him.
 
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bignateyk

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eh.. it works both ways though.. alot of times the person will start gloating subtely about their success at every possible moment, and it will eventually drive real friends away..
 
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wasssup

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Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Trying to belittle you in what way?
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I really wanted to keep the rant short and simple, but...

Well he usually just insults me (or my family) for anything. Just today we went to lunch, and he asked me if I knew every indian holiday (i'm indian). I told him no, I was born here and am not hardcore religious. He pauses -- looks at me with a straight face -- and then says my parents did pathetic job in raising me. I just thought wtf? He then starts talking about how his parents did a perfect job, etc.

Also, while he's been here 3 times longer than me (it will be 5 months here the day I leave) the boss' seemed to like my work and were about to promote me. I'd rather program over doing IT support so I passed on the offer, but he was never approached with anything. I don't see how it's my fault that I work my ass off and get recognized.

Another thing is that my "b.s. in computer science is useless, that his mcse means much more that any type of degree."

It goes on.
 
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Neurorelay

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Originally posted by: wasssup
Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Trying to belittle you in what way?
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I really wanted to keep the rant short and simple, but...

Well he usually just insults me (or my family) for anything. Just today we went to lunch, and he asked me if I knew every indian holiday (i'm indian). I told him no, I was born here and am not hardcore religious. He pauses -- looks at me with a straight face -- and then says my parents did pathetic job in raising me. I just thought wtf? He then starts talking about how his parents did a perfect job, etc.

Also, while he's been here 3 times longer than me (it will be 5 months here the day I leave) the boss' seemed to like my work and were about to promote me. I'd rather program over doing IT support so I passed on the offer, but he was never approached with anything. I don't see how it's my fault that I work my ass off and get recognized.

Another thing is that my "b.s. in computer science is useless, that his mcse means much more that any type of degree."

It goes on.
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LMAO, MSCE better then a BS in Comp Sci, well okay then. :)
 
Unheard

Unheard

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I hate guys like that. I went through a very similar situation earlier this year. After I left, I quit talking to the guy, and eventually we ended up going our seperate ways.
 
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BobDaMenkey

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Eh, just shrug it off. You won't have to deal with him much longer, but admittedly it is annoying.
 
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Jassi

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Originally posted by: wasssup
Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Trying to belittle you in what way?
Click to expand...

I really wanted to keep the rant short and simple, but...

Well he usually just insults me (or my family) for anything. Just today we went to lunch, and he asked me if I knew every indian holiday (i'm indian). I told him no, I was born here and am not hardcore religious. He pauses -- looks at me with a straight face -- and then says my parents did pathetic job in raising me. I just thought wtf? He then starts talking about how his parents did a perfect job, etc.

Also, while he's been here 3 times longer than me (it will be 5 months here the day I leave) the boss' seemed to like my work and were about to promote me. I'd rather program over doing IT support so I passed on the offer, but he was never approached with anything. I don't see how it's my fault that I work my ass off and get recognized.

Another thing is that my "b.s. in computer science is useless, that his mcse means much more that any type of degree."

It goes on.
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Is he Desi too?

If he is, its a common syndrome with Desis. Give it some time, there will be a study on it and it will earn a fancy name. I was 12 when I moved from India and I think I've lived there about 7 years of my life so I am not completely out of touch with the old school Indian culture. I find it really hard to maintain a friendship with people my age who are new here (and some people who've been here a while but are still FOBs) for the same reason. A lot of Desis I have met in Canada and America are very different from how I was raised to view Indians and are the worst "friends" and jealous pricks.

Maybe I have been unlucky...
 
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Braznor

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Originally posted by: Jassi
Originally posted by: wasssup
Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Trying to belittle you in what way?
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I really wanted to keep the rant short and simple, but...

Well he usually just insults me (or my family) for anything. Just today we went to lunch, and he asked me if I knew every indian holiday (i'm indian). I told him no, I was born here and am not hardcore religious. He pauses -- looks at me with a straight face -- and then says my parents did pathetic job in raising me. I just thought wtf? He then starts talking about how his parents did a perfect job, etc.

Also, while he's been here 3 times longer than me (it will be 5 months here the day I leave) the boss' seemed to like my work and were about to promote me. I'd rather program over doing IT support so I passed on the offer, but he was never approached with anything. I don't see how it's my fault that I work my ass off and get recognized.

Another thing is that my "b.s. in computer science is useless, that his mcse means much more that any type of degree."

It goes on.
Click to expand...


Is he Desi too?

If he is, its a common syndrome with Desis. Give it some time, there will be a study on it and it will earn a fancy name. I was 12 when I moved from India and I think I've lived there about 7 years of my life so I am not completely out of touch with the old school Indian culture. I find it really hard to maintain a friendship with people my age who are new here (and some people who've been here a while but are still FOBs) for the same reason. A lot of Desis I have met in Canada and America are very different from how I was raised to view Indians and are the worst "friends" and jealous pricks.

Maybe I have been unlucky...
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No, you are right

Indians hate Indians
 
FelixDeCat

FelixDeCat

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Go to a local Indian restuarant, share some curry with him, and tell him you need to "stick together" to make it America. He just might see the light and become your bestest buddy, or just get indigestion.

If that doesnt work, kick his ass. :evil:




:laugh:
 
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SSP

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I also noticed that in Indian friends. Don't know why they feel so threatened by someone?s success.

*heres an obligatory 'I'm not saying all of them do it', comment*
 
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Stumps

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yes...I have friends like that....they make fun of me because I have a GF(and baby girl on the way), a job, a house and a car, while they still live at home with there parents(which is pretty pathetic for 26yr olds)...I believe it's called tall poppy syndrom...very very common in Australia
 
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