Got thank you card for a wedding gift... 4 months after wedding date.

[NFS4]

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My cousin got married at the end of May; we drove 6 hours to Baltimore for the wedding, and of course we brought a gift.

We just today got the thank you card. It was computer printed (nothing on the outside of the envelope or the inside of the envelope was hand written). It was just a generic message on the inside saying thank you for enjoying in our day, yadda yadda.

Just seems odd that it would take 4 months for that.

My wife and I got married June 20, and had all of our thank you cards sent out within one month. We hand wrote each one with a little personal touch for each person/family.

What's the standard turnaround time for thank you cards?

 

[Redfraggle]

Who cares. I've always hated the whole card giving mania this country has. They invited you, you chose to go, why do they owe you a card in a rush that you'll read once and probably toss out? I mean seriously, I'm a woman and I really don't understand these things.

 

[TwiceOver]

We had ours done within a month. We didn't handwrite though (both of us have bad handwriting) we did create custom cards for each person and printed them out in a nice scripted font.

 

[Chryso]

The allowed time for both sending gifts and receiving thank you notes for wedding gifts is 1 year.

 

[eLiu]

Originally posted by: Redfraggle
Who cares. I've always hated the whole card giving mania this country has. They invited you, you chose to go, why do they owe you a card in a rush that you'll read once and probably toss out? I mean seriously, I'm a woman and I really don't understand these things.

I'm a card, and I'm also confused.

 

[Regs]

Likely because he didn't care but his wife talked him into doing it.

 

[shopbruin]

You have up to a year.

EDIT: sometimes it's hard to have them out within a month. Especially if you're ordering custom ones with your photo from the photographer. Plus after I got married, I moved a month after to the other half of the state, so I had more important things, like getting utilities turned on in my new place, having EVERYTHING packed up and labeled, starting my new job, living apart from the new hubs for two weeks...

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: Redfraggle
Who cares. I've always hated the whole card giving mania this country has. They invited you, you chose to go, why do they owe you a card in a rush that you'll read once and probably toss out? I mean seriously, I'm a woman and I really don't understand these things.

Idunno, I just see it as a courtesy. One of my wife's uncles gave us a check for $500, and another gave us a check for $1,000.

I'd feel kinda bad for not at least acknowledging them for their generosity.

That being said, I'm not all that broken up about it. My mom, however, has been pitchin' a fit about it

I just wanted to know what the standard etiquette was.

 

[zebano]

After our wedding we spent two weeks on a honeymoon, then we started sending out cards every two weeks, they were printed with a handwritten note added to each and it took us 4 months to finish them all.

 

[blackdogdeek]

1 year.

we got ours in just under the deadline. we handwrote all of them (read she handwrote) and 150 guests is hard when you want to come up something genuine for each one. especially when you are as god-forsaken lazy as we are.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
1 year.

we got ours in just under the deadline. we handwrote all of them (read she handwrote) and 150 guests is hard when you want to come up something genuine for each one. especially when you are as god-forsaken lazy as we are.

LOL

1 year. You learn something new everyday

 

[phreaqe]

after my wedding thanks to my wife we got them out within a month i think. if it was up to me they still may not be done(8 months ago) not because i didnt want to thank people i just tend to put things like that off

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Chryso
The allowed time for both sending gifts and receiving thank you notes for wedding gifts is 1 year.

This.

 

[bignateyk]

Just got married 2 weeks ago, and we have sent most of them out. I, too, think they are a waste of time, and would much rather just thank someone in person or over the phone. My wife (like most women it seems) is all about cards. I think we only have 12 more to do.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: phreaqe
after my wedding thanks to my wife we got them out within a month i think. if it was up to me they still may not be done(8 months ago) not because i didnt want to thank people i just tend to put things like that off

I completely understand that. I wanted to hold off a little bit, but my wife kept pushing that it was proper to send them off as soon as possible once we were back from our honeymoon and settled into our house and had some time to wind down.

So we started doing a few per night so we wouldn't get burned out. My wife and my mom got it in my head that waiting too long was simply disrespectful.

 

[yllus]

It really is one year - and although I've never gone through the process, I can understand why it's that long. There's a lot of crap to get done right after you get hitched!

Note: Mostly based off my sister's wedding where the attendance was ~500 people.

 

[ElFenix]

i really hate sending thank you cards. i guess you have to when you ask people you don't know for gifts.

 

[Jeeebus]

I find the idea fairly stupid, but apparently my wife's family is all about the thank you cards. About a month after we were married, her parents were fielding calls from various relatives asking if we had received their gift since they had not yet received a thank you.

sigh... we got them all done probably around the two month mark.

 

[Platypus]

cards are bullshit.

I don't send them and the ones I receive are read and tossed out immediately. Hallmark holidays are especially bad when it comes to cards.

 

[blackdogdeek]

Originally posted by: Platypus
cards are bullshit.

I don't send them and the ones I receive are read and tossed out immediately. Hallmark holidays are especially bad when it comes to cards.

<-- removes platypus from christmas card list

 

[Platypus]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek

Originally posted by: Platypus
cards are bullshit.

I don't send them and the ones I receive are read and tossed out immediately. Hallmark holidays are especially bad when it comes to cards.

<-- removes platypus from christmas card list

Thanks, I couldn't give a fuck less what your crotch fruit look like all huddled up on the banister anyway :laugh:

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: Jeeebus
I find the idea fairly stupid, but apparently my wife's family is all about the thank you cards. About a month after we were married, her parents were fielding calls from various relatives asking if we had received their gift since they had not yet received a thank you.

sigh... we got them all done probably around the two month mark.

Yeah, older family members are REALLY all about getting the thank you cards. You don't *&^@ around with them

 

[alkemyst]

up to a year like many have said and how soon you get one reflects on the gift you gave.

I wouldn't expect any any sooner than 1-2 months though...2-4 weeks just in honeymoon and then for some combining two households.

 

[Alienwho]

I thanked every single person who attended my wedding, individually. I thanked them for coming and I thanked them for their gift. If any of those people were offended (some of which I know were) for not getting ANOTHER thank you in the form of a card and me spending hundreds of dollars on stamps and envelopes, F 'em. Seriously, I was not going to play that game. 99% of the people had less than a 30 minute drive and left a gift that was cost $30.

 

[Redfraggle]

My ex's mom had a fit about ours. I was working two jobs that summer and then went back to school. She's from Northern NJ and ...good god I'm glad to be rid of her. I understand that most of our parents come from a generation where people did this, it was normal and expected -- but nobody "goes calling" or leaves calling cards anymore either. I'd rather phone everyone up and say thanks. All the more reason I'm glad that we had a wedding so tiny you could almost put it in with eloping -- we had a guest and a friend doing photography aside from the required officiant and witnesses. Hurray for second weddings being smaller and less noticed!!