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Google's algorithm for happiness-> 3 easy steps

Step 3 doesn't always work and can backfire on you and people will take advantage of you for your niceness making you unhappy. Never be nice! :awe:
 
Lots of miserable attitudes at any workplace. The best way to cope is to do the best you can and take pride in that. It sounds corny but being able to feel good about what you do everyday can make a bigger difference than what most people realize.
 
I don't read step 3 as be nice. It means wish others happiness, which is essentially don't wish ill on others. The wife and I live by this rule for 99% of people and it has worked well. Basically, quit hating on everything and everyone, quit sticking your nose in others business and let them live their life even if you disagree with what they are doing and karma comes around to you. That doesn't mean be a pushover, or be around things you don't want to be around. Just don't crusade against things that don't concern you. It's a very liberal (man i hate that term) view, but the whole point is, mind your business and quit worrying about everyone else's if it has no impact on you.
 
88keys said:
Lots of miserable attitudes at any workplace. The best way to cope is to do the best you can and take pride in that. It sounds corny but being able to feel good about what you do everyday can make a bigger difference than what most people realize.
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it does sound corny but who cares. a lot of the people who are extremely successful do shit that people think are corny to others. most people who have the attitude of "wanting to change the world" sound corny as shit to people who just want to work for the man their entire lives.
 
I can't help but think that pausing to log moments of joy could often cause one to miss some of the moment, or take something away from it by shifting one into an analytical mode. I think that would be the part that I would find most difficult.
 
crashtech said:
I can't help but think that pausing to log moments of joy could often cause one to miss some of the moment, or take something away from it by shifting one into an analytical mode. I think that would be the part that I would find most difficult.
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i see this kind of thing all the time when everyone is so worried about taking pictures to post on facebook instead of actually enjoying the moment.
 
purbeast0 said:
i see this kind of thing all the time when everyone is so worried about taking pictures to post on facebook instead of actually enjoying the moment.
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I'm kind of the opposite - I get bored easily & taking pictures in the moment gives me something to do :biggrin:
 
That's not really an algorithm though is it? It's just some good common sense strategies for happiness. Save for the "calm your mind" one, I do all that consciously. I suppose I'm pretty calm naturally though.

I'm one of the people who sometimes feels like the world is specifically designed to stymie my efforts. When I'm really strongly in that mindset it seems to me that everything I do goes wrong in some form or fashion. I can actually get myself out of that attitude by consciously marking everything that doesn't go wrong, however insignificant. In the end it's revealed to be just my mind fixating on negative things to feed a useless and impotent rage against reality itself.

I'm convinced that this tendency is borne of nothing more than laziness. If I can convince myself that my every effort is hopeless, then it's that much easier for me to quit trying. It's a trap I can never let myself fall into.
 
ImpulsE69 said:
But that means you aren't actually enjoying the moment...
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Oh dear GOD ^^this^^

I say this to my wife all the time. My kids play baseball and play a LOT of games. She is absolutely obsessed with taking pictures at all time, so she'll take hundreds of photos then spend an hour or two after each game sorting and processing them.

Sometimes she'll complain because a lot of fields do not give good angles for taking photos, so I'll tell her "just sit with me and enjoy the game". She always comes back with "but we need PICTURES".

Most of the time she has absolutely no idea what's actually happening in the game because she's focused on the kids only.
 
He's taking for granted a number of things that need to happen before getting to those three steps.

I'm thinking of Maslow's Heirachy of Needs.

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Looks like the google guy is in the esteem stage.


Many people out there struggle to have enough to eat and have a roof over their heads, that has to be taken care of before "i'm happy!".
 
ninaholic37 said:
Step 3 doesn't always work and can backfire on you and people will take advantage of you for your niceness making you unhappy. Never be nice! :awe:
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You dont have to be weak to be kind. Being Kind doesnt mean 100% always letting people walking all over you, it just means staying rational and not letting little stupid things stress you out.
 
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