Gold digger, or is she just lookin out for me.

[ArkAoss]

My G/F Is looking for a new job, and she's been reading the papers alot, and keeps seeing the high paying pc jobs, and she's bugging me to leave my job.
I'm pretty sure my Girl realizes I've got brains, she keeps callin me einstein, but she's keeps buggin me to get my Resume flashed up, and for me to try to get a better job (I could do that easily)
But I've promised my present employer, to stay till June, it was part of a deal to get a 2 dollar raise to my present pay rate. (PART TIME) The place is great, I'd like to stay here, it's small family run paper, I work under guy who's been in IT for at least 10 yrs, and am learning ton's from him. But I don't do much here except send out files, and convert some stuff, and do minor website work. So for what I'm doing, I'm being payed fairly.


Ok enough blabber, do you think my girl wants me to get a better job so we can get more serious, or is she lookin for me to be a gold mine???

UPDATE Have talked with her, she understands My obligation to this job, she just wants me to have the resume ready In case I don't go full time for this job after JUNE.

 

[Yeeny]

Well, it is possible that she just really thinks you are smart, and does not want you to hold yourself back because of promises to other people. But if that is where you want to stay, just make it clear to her. If she really cares about you, she will stick around, no matter how much you make.

 

[Viper GTS]

She's probably concerned for her own future. Women crave security, & you doubling your income means more security for her.

On top of that she probably is genuinely interested in you advancing in your career.

While it may not be entirely unselfish for her to want you to have a better job, I wouldn't worry about it.

Viper GTS

 

[Elita1]

Perhaps she sees your potential and what you are capable of and is trying to help you improve in your weaknesses for your own good.
Give the benefit of the doubt.
However if she is constantly maxing out your credit cards or something of that sort then maybe she wants something other than your brains

 

[Preyhunter]

Why don't you start bugging her to get a new job that pays more as well? That could do one of two things, show you that she is truly just wanting for the two of you to better your situation, or it will piss her off and cause her to break up with you because you figured her out. Either way, it seems it would be an improvement.

On the same note, you have to keep your word if you promised your employer that you would stay (barring that the situation started becoming abusive or oppressive). Without your word, you have nothing.

 

[ArkAoss]

well the job thing, as to me staying on, is mainly verbal. But due to the business structure, here, it being family run and all, I don't think I'd ever have problems, unless I was a real jerk to them, and I won't be one. I'd like to try to stay past june, they feel there will be room for me to become full time by august, or september. And me and my Girl arn't living together, we both still live with our folks, but I'm itching to go out on my own......
And she isn't really buggin me alot, she's looking for a job, and she keeps seeing the opurtunities available, .... She really cares..... I have thought of trying to work 2 jobs till I can either leave this place, or go full time... But trying to balance 2 IT jobs would be tough, unless i found another place alot like where I'm at.

And I don't want to return to the retail workforce for a second job...

 

[yakko]

Kill her now before you make something of yourself.

 

[ArkAoss]

OOOh yeah good point yakko, its soo easy to get brainwashed.... but maybe not kill her, just uhh try to forget her.
But how can I forget a girl that only own's Thongs. And never seems to wear the same pair twice...

 

[Namuna]

The positive outlook:
She sees your potential and is trying to boot you in the ASS to make something better of yourself...Because she cares.

The negative outlook:
She sees your potential and is trying to boot you in the ASS to make something better of yourself...Because she wants security.

Either way, you seem to come out ahead chief.

 

[Eug]

I'd be looking for a better job soon to make sure I was out by your promised June. However, that's just me. Otherwise you're gonna be out by fall instead, and it sounds like that job, while pleasant, isn't the most stimulating in the world. You said so yourself, in not so many words.

I with Namuna.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

ArkAoss, sounds like you don't trust your gf very much. Trust is absolutely necessary for any longterm relationship. I think you should try to figure out why you are suspicious of her motives.

 

[Soybomb]

<< She's probably concerned for her own future. >>


In a poorly structured relationship, that may well be the case. If things are going well though I would imagine she just wants to see you do the best you can for your own sake. Success tends to make a person feel good you know Just explain to her that you gave them your word you'd stay and help them out for X amount of time and that you plan to follow through with your promise. After your obligation is up look for something better

 

[ArkAoss]

hmmmmmm very good point yamaha... do I trust her.... hmm I din't realize that....

The answer is yes I do trust her.
Well I don't trust her cooking yet, but would you trust the cooking of some one who thinks pasta is done, yet some of it is still straight.
She trusts me with her most valued possesion. And I trust her.

To tell ya the truth, We kinda had a &quot;talk&quot; this weekend and, good things where discussed, VERY good. And I'm just kinda bubbly, and lookin for excuse to talk about her.

 

[Viper GTS]

Soybomb...

It doesn't take a poor relationship for a woman to want things that will lead to better long-term security for her &amp; her man. That's normal.

Love may be blind, but it doesn't have to be stupid as well.

Viper GTS

 

[ArkAoss]

True there Viper, that was one thing she wanted to clear up from the start,
She said to me flat out, that I better make sure I didn't just have a crush on her or somthing.
She wants me to be sure that I'm not following her blindly.
And I'm not. She only asked me about a better job, because she keeps seeing ad's while she's looking for one.

 

[bcterps]

I think that your gf just wants to see you being compensated for your skills. From what you've said, it seems like she really cares about you and just thinks that you could do a lot better than your current job (a fact that you yourself have admitted). Right now it doesnt seem like too important of an issue though, if you two were planning on moving in together or getting married, then it would be a real issue. If you're happy where you are, I think that's great, ask most of the people that work full time, I doubt that the majority of them are happy with their current jobs.

--Ben

 

[myputer]

I look for better jobs for my husband from time to time. Not for the sake of the money, although that is nice. I think I do it because I have a tremendous amount of respect for him and know there is nothing he can't do. If you are happy where you are explain that to her, she should be fine with it. I

 

[Hamburgerpimp]

Dump her ass, it'll be over in a year! JMHO

 

[ArkAoss]

dump her WHAT? Hamburgerpimp? I know that's JYHO, but If you knew her, you might not saythat gotta go get my dog, he's barkin at pedestrians again.

 

[Hamburgerpimp]

Hey, just my opinion! I've seen it a thousand times!