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Girls - Help me out on this one.

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Xenon14

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I've been told several times that females like eye contact. In fact I've been yelled at for avoiding eye contact. So I've put in extra effort to provide more eye contacts to females when I talk. The topic somehow came up around me and a few girls, and they said that I freak them out when I "stare" at them and never take my eyes off them. First I'm an ass for not providing eye contact, now I'm a freak for doing what they want! This is sheer nonsense, what gives?!
 
LOL,I'm good but even I can't give you a FAQ on how to do the eye thang, you've just got to
practice, it's an art and the best can speak volumes without ever opening their mouths 🙂

The eyes have it ! 😉
 
Correct me if I'm wrong, but girls love it when guys hang on their every word or vice versa, when they ignore them completely - Niether method has worked for me. Now, granted I don't follow 90% of what the heck she's talking about, but I act as if I'm thoroughly interested (yes it's exhausting, but I was under the impression that it'd pay off). Evidentally not - after laughing...and then catching her breath, one of the girls whom until this year I could not look in the eye for some reason...intimidation perhaps, and the same girl who I had a semi-quasi-not even a-relationship with told me that I freak her out when I don't take my eyes off her when i talk to her.
 
"I've been told several times that females like eye contact. In fact I've been yelled at for avoiding eye contact. So I've put in extra effort to provide more eye contacts to females when I talk. The topic somehow came up around me and a few girls, and they said that I freak them out when I 'stare' at them and never take my eyes off them. First I'm an ass for not providing eye contact, now I'm a freak for doing what they want! This is sheer nonsense, what gives?!"

LMAO! I can see why those girls freak out! I'm already freaking out even though I haven't seen you face to face. blush

I would freak out as much as they do. Anyone gets uncomfortable when someone else stares at them, especially for very long.

Girls are not asking you to *stare* at them. They are asking you to glance at them and admire them. They are asking for eye contact too.

In no way is any of these synonymous with *staring*. Staring makes people uncomfortable and sick sometimes. I don't know, but often that leads one to think of sick things you might be thinking when you're staring at them.

Learn the skill of eye contact with a chick. Staring is not cute at all and is not the skill you acquire to get a girl. You did too much than requested of you. As a result, girls freak out. blush

"Correct me if I'm wrong, but girls love it when guys hang on their every word or vice versa, when they ignore them completely - Niether method has worked for me."

Gosh! Some of these stereotypes have me cracking up in disgust. I pity you if you actually believe many of these stereotypes. Most certainly, girls do appreciate guys who seem to pay attention to them and their every word. It simply gives the impression that they care. However, the whole notion that you can deceive her and play those crappy games pisses me off. You couldn't be more mistaken . . . the ignore game, for instance, only lasts for a short while. She'll be over you already by the time you show interest in her. . . . 🙂
 
hmm...try this: while they're speaking, look at first one eye, then the next, then back and forth. it's a mannerism i actually picked up from my ex-gf, but it really does convey the impression you're paying rapt attention to someone when they're speaking. don't do it too quickly or you'll just look like a cuckoo clock. toss in a few head nods and the occasional "mmm hmm..." at appropriate times. 😀
 
Luvly, just luvly.

Perhaps I could've seen it coming. Either side of an extreme cannot possibly be a tactful way to approach any situation. In parallel I've realized via my neuronet processor (I learning computer) that I, via my username, asinine questions, and odd/somewhat tacky use of vocabulary may have given Luvly an impression that I'm an ignorant bafoon using "Saved By The Bell" as my reference for social behavior. Perhaps...perhaps.

But, I did post it in that manner to get a broader response from the readers, as I'm sure extremes are easier to spot and easier to rectify.

Back to my original point however, I don't "Stare" at them, I look at them with "interest" plus, since it's someone I know, I see no reason for them to be freaked out and if they are, why can't they point it out at the time? I find that even more disturbing.
 
Originally posted by: bandXtrb
women, whoever the hell can understand them :|
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This is true with both men and women.

Don't try to understand them. Just be yourself and follow the minimum level of cultural expectations/etiquette.

Things will automatically be natural that way. If they have extra BS demands - whether men or women - then screw them. They are not worth your time.
 
did anyone see that drew carey on dating where that screwball guy (don't know his name but you know who I am talking about) learns in the dating class that 5seconds of eye contact is good so he decides to do 5 min?
 
making eye contact requires a little practice. just look them in the eyes while you talk, or they talk, and then look away for a bit, then back in the eyes, then look away. you don't have to move your head, just look to the side or something. don't look at their boobs and stop staring at them. practice in front of a mirror if you have to.
 
It does seemingly take some special muscles to keep the eyeballs from going down(some of these women don't help me with their shirts either 😛), but yeah it's not-that-hard. No X-ray vision here(and I certainly don't look like I'm trying for it either!).
 
Originally posted by: bandXtrb
don't look at their boobs and stop staring at them.
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That is SO hard. It just happens and by the time I realize it its too late. :Q I sure do love boobs 😀
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I try to get all of the boob looking on the approach to talking, say you see a girl you know a few feet away where you can see them head to toe as you go in to talk get the looks in early and then when you start complement their pants or shirt to throw them off to your staring at their boobs. then while you are talking don't look any lower than the chin. Unless they have amazingly gorgeous boobs then just apologize b/4 hand and stare away. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Michael1897
Originally posted by: bandXtrb
don't look at their boobs and stop staring at them.
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That is SO hard. It just happens and by the time I realize it its too late. :Q I sure do love boobs 😀
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I try to get all of the boob looking on the approach to talking, say you see a girl you know a few feet away where you can see them head to toe as you go in to talk get the looks in early and then when you start complement their pants or shirt to throw them off to your staring at their boobs. then while you are talking don't look any lower than the chin. Unless they have amazingly gorgeous boobs then just apologize b/4 hand and stare away. 🙂
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or you could just talk to hot women that are a foot shorter than you from short distances. then its hard to tell where you're looking.

 
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