Girls are screwing with my mind

[Hoeboy]

Here's another topic about girls. This time I'd like to b*tch a bit. For 3 months I've been going after this girl. From the beginning she knew I was interested in more than friendship. She turned me down at the beginning because of some reasons. So for the last 3 months, I've been stressing my a$$ trying to prove to her those reasons are wrong. I've succeeded but those 3 months were hell. Everynight I'd lay in bed analyzing every f*cken single move to see my progress and it totally killed me mentally. And on New Years eve, I was going to pop the question again. Got a big teddy bear, a rose, and a card ready. Turns out she busy New Years eve but we set plans for New Years. Even better since if she said yes, New Years would be a perfect day. Yet again on New Years she was busy and I instead spent time with her little sister. I gave the bear to her little sister minus the rose and card. Told myself "f*ck it. If I really mean anything to her, she'll make an effort." Felt good. Felt real good. Late at night she called and I ignored the call. Felt good. Felt real good. But friends kept pushing me to answer it so I did. Not even a hello and she busted out asking about her sister and after that she said okay bye. Went out for a cigarette and figured I should help her look for her lil sister cuz she was missing. Called her up on her cell a couple of times wanting to tell her I wanted to help cuz I was worried too. I was also worried about her driving this late at night because it's all foggy. Spent 30 minutes out there, decided to roll by her house and load and behold, her car was in the driveway. She never did go look for her sister and she probably didn't answer my call cuz she didn't want to talk to me. Now I got home and feel like such a dumbass. I tried to take the stand but ended up getting f*cked over once again. If you had the patience to read thus far, I tell ya one thing. Forget girls. She just lost my friendship, my trust, and everything I had to offer.

Ending Bitching transmission....

 

[JayPatel]

my mind to used to get played by chicks..but then i smartened up and realized im too good for this sh!t........

 

[Killbat]

tragic

[edit] I suggest you connect to Digitally Imported NOW, it's perninent

 

[Soybomb]

Having a relationship with someone is quite fullfilling, just don't let yourself get jerked around, thats now who you want to be with.

 

[goofy2000]

umm.. did they find the lil girl? or she's still missing..

 

[Hoeboy]

probably did. f*ck. i still cant believe i spent 3 months in heartache. no matter how many times i can say she aint worth it, the fact still remains i actually had feelings for this girl. not just cuz she's hot or whatever. it's gonna be so hard getting over her. i need to keep busy.

 

[JohnGalt]

just be friends with girls, don't get more involved.

 

[Moonbeam]

Sounds like you look at girls like some kind of business proposition. List what I give and what I get and keep track of which side is ahead. Seems to me that if you're not looking for a DEAL, but human exchange with real people, deeper relationships can happen naturally and unforced.

 

[Gorth]

let us know after u do her or after she gets another bf.. which ever comes first

 

[Hoeboy]

and gorth u can go screw yourself. if u had any last ounce of human dignity in you, you'd understand how painful it is to truly like someone and have it not work out.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< Girls are screwing with my mind >>

They do. It's in their nature. They have the need to play games and use guilt trips to feel wanted and loved. It's all bullshiiiit to me. It's worse when they become parents.

Three months isn't really all that bad, though. Look at it like this: Now you know. Now you're done with it (god I hope you are!). You didn't marry her and realize it afterwards. You realized that girls do fvck with guys for their ammusement (sp?).

Just don't fall into the trap of playing those same damn games! Some guys play the same games right back and the girls get all pissed off. hmm. Double standards are good, right? ( :| )

I hope you find one of the few girls who are actually worth a relationship with, though! Good luck!

 

[Hoeboy]

thanks FFM. that really helped. i think i'll just need to keep telling myself &quot;no girl is good enuff for me.&quot; yea i know it's kinda egotistic and not true but somehow i gotta lie to myself to get over it right? time heals all. i'm a firm believer in &quot;what goes around, comes around.&quot; i'll be rewarded one of these days.

 

[Passions]

Girls are dumb, why you get played like dat?

 

[Moonbeam]

Just be and everything will take care of itself. Go straight ahead.

 

[OS]

No girl is worth that kind of headache, chicks are a dime a dozen. Go to a massive rave and you'll see what I mean.

It's probably a case of wanting something you can't have. That doesn't mean it's worth having though.

 

[OS]

I've posted this qoute before, but it's worth posting again.



&quot;In addition, men fall in love more easily than women, whereas women fall out of love more easily than men. Furthermore, women seem to experience less emotional turmoil than men when romantic relationships break up.&quot;


Weiten and Lloyd, Pyschology Applied to Modern Life, pg 230

 

[Weyoun]

hoeboy, was this the same girl that you made that thread abotu for the present? if so, sorry to hear it man hopefully you will fond someone who's mature enough not to play games, and appreciate you for who you truly are. Don't worry, you sound like a very nice guy, and it won't be long before someone else comes along that you'll take interest in.

Good luck and safe travels

 

[OS]

Urgh, reread your story and you might be jumping to conclusions and bad feelings. Cell phones lose their reception and she could have gone in someone else's car. But, DON'T get your hopes up. And I must say, judging from how many times you tried to spend time with her and she has backed out, it seems to me that she really isn't interested at all. Easier said than done, but forget about her and look somewhere else.

 

[sweetrobin]

Look at it this way ... in the total of your life ... what is three months ? It's a good lesson thats what it is. I once wasted a year on a guy that couldn't make up his mind about what he wanted. I didn't just have feelings for him. I loved him with every thing I had. And when things didn't work out I thought I was going to die. But I didn't I've been involved with several people since then, and I am now in the most wonderful relationship and getting married Things work out the way they are supposed to. Girls aren't the only people who play head games. So don't let it color you so much that you let the right girl down. Be true to yourself but don't let people walk on you.

 

[ElFenix]

OuterSquare - you hit on the girls at raves? yeah... they're cute and all... but they're usually like 16 or on X or something... that just ain't right (unless you're like 16-18, of course)

 

[cxim]

>> Disclaimer for those who are without a sense of humor <<

Crap... Red...a lot of us have been there... &amp; none of us are laughing about it... not today.. maybe tomorrow we will...

Hboy... get back up &amp; look for a real woman.... life is too short for a b1tch like her...

 

[OS]

<< OuterSquare - you hit on the girls at raves? yeah... they're cute and all... but they're usually like 16 or on X or something... that just ain't right (unless you're like 16-18, of course) >>



Well, you talk to them and look, but I don't consider ravers to be relationship material. And yeah, I'm too old for the sub 18 crowd anyways, but for hoeboy, it would work to take his mind of things. It's still interesting when you hit on a chick wearing body paint

 

[Daniel]

What sucks is sometimes you need a bad situation like that to realize you don't want to be mentally played with like that. Once a few years back I met someone, she seemed perfect, like totally perfect but she had to leave for about 3 months. I was waiting for her, writing the whole time, etc... She got back and had met someone else while away and never told me about it until she got back, it sucks but you learn not to waste your time if the feelings aren't as strong both ways. If she keeps blowing you off there is a reason and it's probably stronger than just a few small things, take it as a hint and look for someone that likes you for who you really are not just for who they want you to be.

 

[AngelOfDeath]

Sorry to hear. If I were you, I would walk up to her and give her what she deserves. Tell her exactly what you've been doing and what you fell. Tell her that you think she's a b*tch since she can pull such stunts at you. That is if you think you're ready to do that. It isn't fair that she treats you like that. Get it out, let her know what she lost and then walk away with your pride. Love is a game but don't let them get to you .

AoD

 

[Mill]

First time I have ever heard of anyone complain about getting &quot;screwed&quot; by a girl. LOL. Seriously, she isn't worth it. I went through the same kind of mind games and never realized what everyone was telling me. If she ever wants to be with you, then she will let you know. If she is pulling stunts then just forget about her. I know it will be hard to do this, but in the end it will be worth it.

Just my .02$