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girlfriend of 6 yrs gone

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what do I do now? Any advice?

I am really feeling fine about the whole thing, but I've realized, I have no idea what to do now that she's not around. I've just been sitting around watching tv?

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention in my post that this has all happened today (saturday), my birthday. Great way to start my life at the perspective of a 23yr old fresh, i guess.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
I agree with the sentiment that it sounds like this was for the best. The fact that she wanted to spend her downtime going out with her friends rather than with the OP is very telling.
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Originally posted by: Xanis
she has also been going out w/ friends until 4-5AM while I'm at home by myself. This is on her days off when it is the only time we can be together. I told her I wanted to settle down and become a family man, and that isn't part of settling down. Apparently she wants to continue staying out all hours of the night.
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It seems like you guys want two totally different lifestyles, and obviously staying together wouldn't work att this point in time. I wish you the best of luck.
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She was already gone and looking for an excuse to break it off clean. I've seen it happen many times before.
 
Originally posted by: huberm
what do I do now? Any advice?

I am really feeling fine about the whole thing, but I've realized, I have no idea what to do now that she's not around. I've just been sitting around watching tv?

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention in my post that this has all happened today (saturday), my birthday. Great way to start my life at the perspective of a 23yr old fresh, i guess.
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Get out and do whatever you want. What's stopping you?

You have friends, right?
 
Originally posted by: huberm
the house is in my name, so i'm lucky there.

Problems:
she has been working a job from 2pm-10:30pm for the past six months or so. I work 6:30AM-4:00PM. I told her she needed to change shifts so we could at least see each other sometimes (i'm asleep by the time she gets home, shes asleep when i leave). That was one of the things I told her needed changing - switching to a day shift

she has also been going out w/ friends until 4-5AM while I'm at home by myself. This is on her days off when it is the only time we can be together. I told her I wanted to settle down and become a family man, and that isn't part of settling down. Apparently she wants to continue staying out all hours of the night.
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HELL- OHHHH !!! Dude, it's over. She wasn't reading from the same play you were.
Find a new leading lady, there are plenty out there.

 
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: huberm
the house is in my name, so i'm lucky there.

Problems:
she has been working a job from 2pm-10:30pm for the past six months or so. I work 6:30AM-4:00PM. I told her she needed to change shifts so we could at least see each other sometimes (i'm asleep by the time she gets home, shes asleep when i leave). That was one of the things I told her needed changing - switching to a day shift

she has also been going out w/ friends until 4-5AM while I'm at home by myself. This is on her days off when it is the only time we can be together. I told her I wanted to settle down and become a family man, and that isn't part of settling down. Apparently she wants to continue staying out all hours of the night.
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HELL- OHHHH !!! Dude, it's over. She wasn't reading from the same play you were.
Find a new leading lady, there are plenty out there.
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easier said than done!

it is really hard to let go of the girl you know was meant for you.
 
sometimes life sucks

it gets better, even if it takes a long ass time

big ups for putting your foot down though dude

ill have one for ya
 
Sorry to hear that. I'm in the same boat as you are, because my GF of 3 years that I planed to marry left me yesterday.
 
Originally posted by: huberm
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: huberm
the house is in my name, so i'm lucky there.

Problems:
she has been working a job from 2pm-10:30pm for the past six months or so. I work 6:30AM-4:00PM. I told her she needed to change shifts so we could at least see each other sometimes (i'm asleep by the time she gets home, shes asleep when i leave). That was one of the things I told her needed changing - switching to a day shift

she has also been going out w/ friends until 4-5AM while I'm at home by myself. This is on her days off when it is the only time we can be together. I told her I wanted to settle down and become a family man, and that isn't part of settling down. Apparently she wants to continue staying out all hours of the night.
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HELL- OHHHH !!! Dude, it's over. She wasn't reading from the same play you were.
Find a new leading lady, there are plenty out there.
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easier said than done!

it is really hard to let go of the girl you know was meant for you.
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I was with a girl longer than that and it hurt like hell when we broke it off. It does get better so keep your chin up.
 
Originally posted by: ZeroEffect
If someone loves you, they want to spend time with you. If she's in to going
out bar hopping with her friends more than being with you, something's wrong.
And the only reason for being out all hours and bar hopping is to meet other
guys. So it's good that you got rid of her now, before she cheated on you.

One more thing... don't let her screw around on you, and then take her back.
Get yourself someone that deserves you.
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YUP!

I don't know if I'd believe that she's out trawling for other guys exactly, but she's definetly not interested in spending time with you if she's going out to all hours. You said she didn't change a single thing about her life that you mentioned, so basically you were the one making all the effort to change. If she cared, she'd make a difference.
 
Originally posted by: huberm
what do I do now? Any advice?

I am really feeling fine about the whole thing, but I've realized, I have no idea what to do now that she's not around. I've just been sitting around watching tv?

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention in my post that this has all happened today (saturday), my birthday. Great way to start my life at the perspective of a 23yr old fresh, i guess.
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wow ouch...clean slate, fresh year

well 2 things, either A) you're still in shock B) you were really much more unhappy than you thought, and now you're actually relieved.

advice: keep busy, don't let negative thoughts creep into your head
 
Originally posted by: DaTT
Keep us udpdated if you talk to her and such please.
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well, heh, don't know if that'll happen, she won't take my calls or call me. Only text messages.
 
my condolences.

I can't hope for anything but happiness for you, whether it be with her after she realizes what she lost, or whether you find somebody else.


whatever makes you happy mate, go for it.

 
Originally posted by: huberm
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: huberm
the house is in my name, so i'm lucky there.

Problems:
she has been working a job from 2pm-10:30pm for the past six months or so. I work 6:30AM-4:00PM. I told her she needed to change shifts so we could at least see each other sometimes (i'm asleep by the time she gets home, shes asleep when i leave). That was one of the things I told her needed changing - switching to a day shift

she has also been going out w/ friends until 4-5AM while I'm at home by myself. This is on her days off when it is the only time we can be together. I told her I wanted to settle down and become a family man, and that isn't part of settling down. Apparently she wants to continue staying out all hours of the night.
Click to expand...
HELL- OHHHH !!! Dude, it's over. She wasn't reading from the same play you were.
Find a new leading lady, there are plenty out there.
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easier said than done!

it is really hard to let go of the girl you thought was meant for you.
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fixed.
 
Originally posted by: Schfifty Five
Originally posted by: huberm
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: huberm
the house is in my name, so i'm lucky there.

Problems:
she has been working a job from 2pm-10:30pm for the past six months or so. I work 6:30AM-4:00PM. I told her she needed to change shifts so we could at least see each other sometimes (i'm asleep by the time she gets home, shes asleep when i leave). That was one of the things I told her needed changing - switching to a day shift

she has also been going out w/ friends until 4-5AM while I'm at home by myself. This is on her days off when it is the only time we can be together. I told her I wanted to settle down and become a family man, and that isn't part of settling down. Apparently she wants to continue staying out all hours of the night.
Click to expand...
HELL- OHHHH !!! Dude, it's over. She wasn't reading from the same play you were.
Find a new leading lady, there are plenty out there.
Click to expand...



easier said than done!

it is really hard to let go of the girl you thought was meant for you.
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fixed.
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winnar!! If she was meant for you:

A) She wouldn't have picked the latter on your ultimatum
B) You wouldn't have any problems you couldn't work out.

You're 23. Get out, get your wang polished, and have some fun.
 
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