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[gilgamish]

Im afraid I'm loosing my ability to think clear, therefore Im writing this thread although it is highly sensitive cause for me, but Im in desparate need for advice.
When you are about to make a destiny decision involves just the two of you (Married Couples), you set down and discuss it with your spouse all over, until you're done.
You made it, well-satisfied about it.
All the sudden a third-party (Parents-in-law in my case) shows up, and makes an opinion that merely appears like an opinion. And your spouse takes for granted, in fact your spouse and parents-in-law decided to take control of the whole matter.
You tried to get a grip of yourself and suppress the anger (It wasnt easy for me although).
Anyway, you explained to your spouse that this is all wrong, and she jepordising the stability of your lives together. no positive response.
Such acts cannot be tolerated by me, because im dead sure it will happen again if forgotten
Im going for divorce, i have a kid to worry about i dont want no one sabotaging my raising to him, i dont no body taking descisions and actions or reactions for me, No one controls any home but the people sharing that home, thats what i think

 

[Battleangel3222]

I agree with the idea that you as a couple should make decisions and if you cant agree as a whole then it does jeopordize your marriage but ummmm
*Looks at Two threads above this*
*Looks at Two Threads Below this*
....Not the best place lol.

 

[quakefiend420]

you are definitley losing your ability to think clearly...please sober up and start this thread again.

 

[woowoo]

Speaking as a married man I think I can identify with your situation.
My advice?
Suck it up and go on with life.
Realize that this is the way it will be.
You will never be able to get between your spouse and her parents
Never?..
Base your future decisions on this.......

You can get control of your life but it will take time.
Divorce is the easy way out.
Your kid needs you two to stay together

Start with establishing your own bank accounts.
And shifting your direct deposit to them.
Money is power
He who has the money makes the decision

Then, Start taking a greater roll in your kids lives
Be there for the little things like school, homework, trips to the park.

Slowly push mama?s parents out

You can be in control again, but it will take time

Remember?.
Were all in this together??
(Red green)


Good luck

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: Battleangel3222
I agree with the idea that you as a couple should make decisions and if you cant agree as a whole then it does jeopordize your marriage but ummmm
*Looks at Two threads above this*
*Looks at Two Threads Below this*
....Not the best place lol.

I can not stand it when my wife calls her parents to ask them something when I tell her the answer. She has no independance whatsoever and her parents don't know how to say "figure it out". Stupid things to, like how do I reheat Pizza. OK, that's a bit overboard, but it's trivia things. How do you fertilize a lawn dad?

I wish her parents would cut the damned cord already and I am damn close to telling them that.

 

[Chrono]

huh? please stop speaking in a general term so that i know wtf you are talking about

 

[Battleangel3222]

Bah - simple silly girl who hasnt lived on her own. Simple crap, give it a year.