GF not invited to cousin's wedding

[Night201]

So, my 1st cousin is getting married soon and my girlfriend (of 6 year - 7 in August) has not been invited yet. What are your thoughts on this?

I think it's absolute bullshit and I don't plan on going if she isn't invited. It's nice knowing that the girl who you plan on marrying is on your 1st cousin's "b-list". :|

Edit: Oh and please don't bash me about scared of committment crap or stuff. We're going to be engaged soon.

 

[olds]

What does your invitation say?

 

[chowmein]

1. Go anyway
2. get drunk
3. ... bride's mates/maids ... (hey you're drunk!)
4. profit

serious: maybe it's an error, did you ask your cousin?

 

[kranky]

Didn't your invitation say you could bring a guest?

 

[mcvickj]

Perhaps your invitation is for both?

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
What does your invitation say?

It just has my name - no guest or her name.

Oh and please don't bash me about scared of committment crap or stuff. We're going to be engaged soon.

 

[purbeast0]

ummm usually the invitation is to the family member + 1.

typically, there aren't invitations sent out to each person in a couple, just one.

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: kranky
Didn't your invitation say you could bring a guest?

Nope.

 

[eshrai]

Maybe your cousin forgot your girlfriends name and was embarased to ask you? Call her and ask about it. She has a lot on her mind, could have just forgotten to put it on the invitation.

 

[olds]

Are you close to the cousin?

Hell with it, decline the invitation and send a butter dish.

 

[Night201]

I've talked to my parents and she is in fact not invited "yet"

 

[imported_Tomato]

It's your cousin's wedding, not yours. This is THEIR day, and they are entitled to invite or not to invite whomenever they please.

Keep in mind, weddings are also expensive, and food alone can run $50-100+ per head. If financial issues are a factor, take that into consideration.

Instead of sounding so hostile, maybe you should try to be more understanding of your cousin's situation. Personally, I think it would be pretty petty on your part to boycott the wedding for that reason, missing out on a significant event in your cousin's life because you're mad someone who you want to be there isn't invited.

How old are you?

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Are you close to the cousin?

yes, our whole family is very close and they know my gf obviously.

 

[MaxDepth]

We hate your girlfriend.

 

[robothouse77]

Originally posted by: chowmein
1. Go anyway
2. get drunk
3. ... bride's mates
4. profit

serious: maybe it's an error, did you ask your cousin?

haha, did you mean "...bride's maids"?

 

[purbeast0]

wow that really is crappy. i have never seen a wedding invitation given to a person w/a SO that does not say them + guest.

my GF just got one a few weeks ago for a wedding we went to for her best friend, and it was just to her and said + 1.

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: Tomato
It's your cousin's wedding, not yours. This is THEIR day, and they are entitled to invite or not to invite whomenever they please.

Keep in mind, weddings are also expensive, and food alone can run $50-100+ per head. If financial issues are a factor, take that into consideration.

Instead of sounding so hostile, maybe you should try to be more understanding of your cousin's situation. Personally, I think it would be pretty petty on your part to boycott the wedding for that reason, missing out on a significant event in your cousin's life because you're mad someone who you want to be there isn't invited.

How old are you?

mid-late 20's

 

[Jassi]

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: kranky
Didn't your invitation say you could bring a guest?

Nope.

I think its implied. Call your cuz and ask, it would be a shame to create tension over what could be an honest mistake.


That is, unless there is reason to believe that it was intentional. Call anyways.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
What does your invitation say?

It just has my name - no guest or her name.

Oh and please don't bash me about scared of committment crap or stuff. We're going to be engaged soon.

My friend Alice's good friend is getting married this December. They have specifically asked invited guests NOT to bring any other guests, because they have a limited budget. They feel bad about it, but that's just the way it is, and people who understand their plight are respectful of it.

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
What does your invitation say?

It just has my name - no guest or her name.

Oh and please don't bash me about scared of committment crap or stuff. We're going to be engaged soon.

My friend Alice's good friend is getting married this December. They have specifically asked invited guests NOT to bring any other guests, because they have a limited budget. They feel bad about it, but that's just the way it is, and people who understand their plight are respectful of it.

There should be an option to pay if that is the case - I'd pay to bring her.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: Tomato
It's your cousin's wedding, not yours. This is THEIR day, and they are entitled to invite or not to invite whomenever they please.

Keep in mind, weddings are also expensive, and food alone can run $50-100+ per head. If financial issues are a factor, take that into consideration.

Instead of sounding so hostile, maybe you should try to be more understanding of your cousin's situation. Personally, I think it would be pretty petty on your part to boycott the wedding for that reason, missing out on a significant event in your cousin's life because you're mad someone who you want to be there isn't invited.

How old are you?

mid-late 20's

So are financial issues a factor, or do you not whether they are or not?

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
What does your invitation say?

It just has my name - no guest or her name.

Oh and please don't bash me about scared of committment crap or stuff. We're going to be engaged soon.

My friend Alice's good friend is getting married this December. They have specifically asked invited guests NOT to bring any other guests, because they have a limited budget. They feel bad about it, but that's just the way it is, and people who understand their plight are respectful of it.

How very "cosmopolitan" of you.

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: Jassi

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: kranky
Didn't your invitation say you could bring a guest?

Nope.

I think its implied. Call your cuz and ask, it would be a shame to create tension over what could be an honest mistake.


That is, unless there is reason to believe that it was intentional. Call anyways.

My other cousin's bf isn't invited either. They've been dating for a little less than us.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: purbeast0

typically, there aren't invitations sent out to each person in a couple, just one.

you can bring somebody with you, especially if they know you have a gf

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: Jassi

Originally posted by: Night201

Originally posted by: kranky
Didn't your invitation say you could bring a guest?

Nope.

I think its implied. Call your cuz and ask, it would be a shame to create tension over what could be an honest mistake.


That is, unless there is reason to believe that it was intentional. Call anyways.

It is NEVER implied.