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GeekDrew

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: GeekDrew
Originally posted by: archcommus
I don't see how it can change. I mean isn't it something chemical? Either a certain sex makes you stand at attention or they don't. Something chemical would have to be affecting that, no?

I guess it goes back to the age old question of whether you're born gay or not.
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Neither argument is necessarily incorrect. It could be that only some gays are born gay, or whatever... it is certainly possible to chose your sexual orientation... it just escapes me as to why one would do so.
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How is it possible to choose? I don't get this. You can't make yourself feel aroused or not feel aroused by a certain individual. You just think, or see, and your body reacts accordingly. How can you change that?
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I would venture to guess that with the right amount of mental conditioning, one is able to do anything. I know gays that say they have chosen to be that way, because they don't want to be straight - I think that those people are actually bi, and just chose to focus on one gender over the other.
 
LtPage1

LtPage1

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Maybe he was wrong about it in high school. More likely, he's bisexual, and just prefers women.
 
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PokerGuy

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There's no such thing as "just a thing he went through" when it comes to liking guys or not. I don't know nor have I heard of any straight males that "went through" a stage where they were attracted to males and came out as being gay.

Bottom line, he's either gay and not ready/willing to deal with it, or he's bi and not sure of what he wants at this point yet. He's definitely not straight though......

"trial and error thing"? You have to be kidding me. As a straight male, have you ever thought "yumm, I'd love to snuggle up to that guy"? Of course not. It's not a trial and error thing, he is bi or gay, he just doesn't like it or is not ready to deal with it.
 
meltdown75

meltdown75

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i don't see how anyone who is straight could possibly answer this question based on anything other than speculation.
 
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Leper Messiah

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My roommate is bi. Hell, if you think about it, thats really the way to go, twice as many people to choose who's right for you. If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys, I'd be bi.
 
JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: Leper Messiah
My roommate is bi. Hell, if you think about it, thats really the way to go, twice as many people to choose who's right for you. If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys, I'd be bi.
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No, that's not the way to go. Unless STDs is your idea of a good time.

If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys? Blech, no thanks. I'll take a sweet soft sexy women anyday! :)
 
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steelels1

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I don't think you can truly change your sexual attractions permanently, even through conditioning. Something you're simply born with. Now as to whether you IDENTIFY as gay/bi/straight/asexual/etc., that's completely up to the individual.
 
GeekDrew

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: Leper Messiah
My roommate is bi. Hell, if you think about it, thats really the way to go, twice as many people to choose who's right for you. If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys, I'd be bi.
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No, that's not the way to go. Unless STDs is your idea of a good time.

If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys? Blech, no thanks. I'll take a sweet soft sexy women anyday! :)
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How on earth do STDs have anything to do with this?
 
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steelels1

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: Leper Messiah
My roommate is bi. Hell, if you think about it, thats really the way to go, twice as many people to choose who's right for you. If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys, I'd be bi.
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No, that's not the way to go. Unless STDs is your idea of a good time.

If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys? Blech, no thanks. I'll take a sweet soft sexy women anyday! :)
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Well you're obviously not remotely attracted to guys. So how could you even predict a response?

As far as the STD thing goes, that's rather subjective. In my county, you're no more at risk for being MSM than not.
 
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Leper Messiah

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: Leper Messiah
My roommate is bi. Hell, if you think about it, thats really the way to go, twice as many people to choose who's right for you. If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys, I'd be bi.
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No, that's not the way to go. Unless STDs is your idea of a good time.

If I was even remotely sexually attracted to guys? Blech, no thanks. I'll take a sweet soft sexy women anyday! :)
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If being the key word there. I'm not. But as long as you're not whoring yourself around, you're fine no matter what sex you're dating. I was speaking from a purely objective POV.
 
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Ranger X

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Originally posted by: Bozono
If he threw a pitch to another Dude and the equipment was functional, he's Ghey. If he's bi, he's Ghey.
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Finally, someone that makes some sense. Bisexuals are those who're in denial or they're just a people pleaser.
 
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archcommus

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I guess I can't say you are set to be a certain way from birth, as many people who grow up in sexually-harrassed and violated environments turn out quite messed up, and that's obviously due to their upbrining in those cases. So if you can become interested in kiddy porn due to being exposed to certain things as a kid, I guess you can also become gay due to being exposed to certain things, meaning you're NOT born that way and that it's really mental? Meaning you CAN change it? I dunno.
 
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cmv

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Originally posted by: Ime
Originally posted by: Axoliien
My friend has just come back on college break and has been hitting on some of our female friends. The problem is that in HS he came out saying he was gay, and now he says it was just a thing he went through. He says it is something he wanted to overcome. I tried to tell him that he should be himself, and he says he is being himself. I want to know what you think, can someone who came out in HS go straight in college?
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All that means is he is not gay, he is bi-sexual.
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FTW. Of course, he could be lying and attempting to repress his sexuality so I'm with Jehvoah -- way too hard to figure out people especially when they don't seem to know themselves what exactly is going on.
 
nakedfrog

nakedfrog

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Originally posted by: Ranger X
Originally posted by: Bozono
If he threw a pitch to another Dude and the equipment was functional, he's Ghey. If he's bi, he's Ghey.
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Finally, someone that makes some sense. Bisexuals are those who're in denial or they're just a people pleaser.
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Sorry, but you're wrong.
 
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