Gah was I too mean to this guy? :-/ (AIM chat)

[Gage8]

Originally posted by: fyleow
why didn't you just block him?

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: dwell

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

I don't talk to ugly b!tches.

Let's see your pic. I bet you are a real catch

I'm ugly. What do I have to do with this?

 

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

I'm ugly. What do I have to do with this?

Then you shouldn't talk. Plus you had to personally attack Karen to attempt and prove your point. So in the end you really should have kept your mouth shut.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: dwell

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

I'm ugly. What do I have to do with this?

Then you shouldn't talk. Plus you had to personally attack Karen to attempt and prove your point. So in the end you really should have kept your mouth shut.

I wasn't proving a point. I was insulting her.

 

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

I wasn't proving a point. I was insulting her.

Yeah for no reason then. You think she's a bitch because she blew some guy off. You personally attacked her looks for no reason whatsoever. Perhaps as I suspected what she did echoes your own personal experience.

My guess is you don't have the balls to talk to any women in real life, or they wont talk to you, so you have to get out your frustrations by insulting people on internet forums. It would explain your nef-worthy ~7000 posts in under a year. But that's just my guess.

 

[FacelessNobody]

At first, I though it was a bit harsh but the more I think about it, your response was appropriate. I'm a younger guy (20) and one job I have is as a personal protection agent. Oftentimes in school or elsewhere, I'll meet a girl and in our conversation I'll list off what I'm doing now and since that job is one of them, I sometimes get a scary admission from them: "Really? Umm, I ahhh, have a problem with this guy/girl..." Needless to say, I have gained some experience with defeating stalkers, and one of the most helpful things is severing the channels in which they interact with you. Now, you're not being stalked (as far as I know), but since AIM is all about communication, here's what your options were:

1. Block him. I like this one, but there are ways around it. Someone can create another screen name and add you to the buddy list to see if you're on. If they switch back to their original SN and see you offline, they know what's up. By then, hopefully, they would've gotten the message.

2. Ignore his messages. Who wants to put up with that annoying crap, though?

3. Do what you did (tell him NO). In a real case of stalking, the first step in promoting legal action is for the stalked/stalkee (word?) is to make a clear and definite request for the stalker to back off. "I don't want you hanging around me", etc, done seriously. In your case, the "I don't want to talk to you" should be clear enough. If someone doesn't understand that they are really goddamn stupid.

As a guy, though, I do have to ask why you gave him your contact info if you didn't want to talk to him? That's just asking for trouble. If Newegg.com sold problems, your order payed the employees' year-end bonuses. Be aware of what messages your feigned interest sends. You've heard the guys complain in this thread about "leading us/him on." Girls are too often confused with what they want (until they get older) and that confusion messes with our heads. For guys, the gray area is far more painful than either the black or the white. Here's a classic: "I like you )) as a friend ()." + = . Left without a conclusion, we're either going to proceed forward or pull away until we get one. You gave this guy one . If you feel bad about it, don't. His life, like yours, will go on.

 

[borealiss]

Originally posted by: caramel
klee, i'm rather surprised that you did this! in the first place, why did you bother to give him your contact info if you probably knew you wouldn't talk to him? i know you mentioned that over time he grew to be boring...anyhow, i do think you should have been forthright the first time you blew him off. you should not have dragged it out and then go postal on him, lol this is actually a person whom you know in real life--not just some random person. if i don't want to talk to a person there is usually very good reason-- (being boring isn't one of them)--so i bitch them out and be done with them for some time. i tend to reassess the situation at that point, but in the meantime i don't lose sleep over it, either.

btw, dorito has ketchup-flavoured chips now, and they're amazing

cuz she said she figured he was boring later on after she gave it to him.

and yes klee, that was pretty harsh. i think you should've gotten to the point and just told him straight up. dragging out stuff and letting them figure it out on their own is the worse. if a quick rejection is gonna make me fall faster on my face, then that just means i'll pull myself up faster too. succinctness is important.