Friends? How many do you have IRL?

[Mai72]

Will you be my friend Godfather?

I have 2-3 FRIENDS IRL. ON ATOT I have THOUSANDS!!!

 

[BoomerD]

“FRIENDS” not many. <10 I guess. Friendly acquaintances, maybe another 15-20 or so.

I’m pretty picky about “friends.”

 

[lxskllr]

A couple. I appreciate my time alone.

 

[Red Squirrel]

Kinda sad, but not that many. I have like one friend in town I hang out with often enough, and another that we see each other MAYBE 1-2 times a year. (he has severe anxiety issues, so I try not to be pushy about going out and let him reach out to me when he needs time with someone) and I have another friend but he lives down south. We talk a lot on chat etc and see each other once a year when he comes to town but that's about it.

I'm introverted so not one for parties etc and not that social in general so it does not really bother me. I probably spend more time with family than with friends.

 

[DigDog]

Actually zero.

 

[ImpulsE69]

My best friend is a Nigerian Prince. My friendship can be bought. PM for details

 

[FelixDeCat]

Do "work friends" count?

 

[repoman0]

People I'm close enough with to go on a weekend ski trip or hike trip or whatever: probably 20ish+

Really close friends, more like 8 I guess. Good friend group is one of the reasons I didn't move away from Boston over the past few years, and now I'm old an unadventurous (29 ) so I don't want to leave anyway.

 

[Carson Dyle]

Count how many people would help you move with, say 3 days notice, in return for beer and pizza. That's how many friends you have.

I have one. Maybe.

 

[local]

Zero point zero, lost my last one six years ago.

 

[highland145]

Count how many people would help you move with, say 3 days notice, in return for beer and pizza. That's how many friends you have.

I have one. Maybe.

Ha, that's not quite fair because my friends are old and most live elsewhere. Not Boomer old but still. If local, I'd work for B&P...at the end of the day though.

People that I can pick up the phone and chat with like I just saw them yesterday but it was 2 years ago...a decent amount but I am in my 50's and one "should" have acquired a few by now.

People that I hang out with regularly...the wife and kid. He'll be going to college next year and I'm seeing the depression coming. Chick flicks and Hallmark channel in my future.... Maybe I need to go back to school.

 

[sdifox]

What are those?

 

[highland145]

What are those?

The ones that will actually pay the postage to send something to Canada.

 

[Thebobo]

Human friends?

 

[Carson Dyle]

Ha, that's not quite fair because my friends are old and most live elsewhere. Not Boomer old but still. If local, I'd work for B&P...at the end of the day though.

People that I can pick up the phone and chat with like I just saw them yesterday but it was 2 years ago...a decent amount but I am in my 50's and one "should" have acquired a few by now.

People that I hang out with regularly...the wife and kid. He'll be going to college next year and I'm seeing the depression coming. Chick flicks and Hallmark channel in my future.... Maybe I need to go back to school.

Plenty of people I could call up on the phone. Old friends, yeah, but it's not like we're going to go out and have a beer on Friday, or catch a ballgame or go mountain bike riding on Saturday.

As I get older, it's just beginning to dawn on me why many people DON'T move away from the area where they grew up. Friends, family, something called "home".

 

[SKORPI0]

 

[sdifox]

The ones that will actually pay the postage to send something to Canada.

Lol

 

[Red Squirrel]

The ones that will actually pay the postage to send something to Canada.

I guess I have a lot of friends in China.

 

[highland145]

Lol

Yeah, I didn't love you that much. Sorry.

 

[Charmonium]

A couple. I appreciate my time alone.

Pretty much this. I've never had much of a desire to socialize and tend to regard friends as being more trouble than they're worth. I guess if I placed a higher value on such things I'd feel differently.

I found out recently that Facebook has some built-in friend categories - regular friends, which have the same privileges as when you accept a friend invitation. Close friends, which I think get priority in your news feed. Acquaintances, which aren't blocked from your feed but derogated. And lastly Restricted, which can only see public posts.

There are only 4 people in the 'close' category and one is a relative. Another is someone I knew decades ago and got back in touch with. Of the other two, one is someone I chat with every day but I didn't even know a year ago. And not romantic either which is kind of a new experience for me.

I think maybe I feel the way I do about this is that I've just never met the right people. I'm not sure what would make them 'right' but I'm betting they have to be pretty weird.

 

[snoopy7548]

I'm OK with being alone. I have one true friend but he lives halfway across the country (I fly out to visit his family about once a year), and a couple of co-workers I would consider good friends but we never see each other outside of work - I think that's mostly due to just life and having families.

Once you hit a certain age/point you need to make a huge effort to make friends, and even then it likely won't really work out.

 

[skull]

I'm OK with being alone. I have one true friend but he lives halfway across the country (I fly out to visit his family about once a year), and a couple of co-workers I would consider good friends but we never see each other outside of work - I think that's mostly due to just life and having families.

Once you hit a certain age/point you need to make a huge effort to make friends, and even then it likely won't really work out.

I still got friends from grade school but they're all assholes, now that I've grown up and they haven't they get on my nerves, so we don't don't hang out much. Its weird trying to make new friends being older. Dudes from work ask to grab a beer and hangout but I quit drinking. Then they're like oh yeah you quit drinking we could...and another one will chime in yeah what are you faggots gonna do if you don't drink some beers or smoke a joint.