Friends & Enemies: an interesting thing that occurred to me

[NuclearNed]

I have some really interesting thoughts when I mow my yard. Go figure. Anyway, on to the meat of this thread:

It occurred to me the other day that I can remember that the guy who punched me in the stomach in kindergarten was named Steve, but I can't remember the names of my two best friends from back then. In my junior high years, a couple of guys named David and Roger tormented me every day, but I have to struggle to recall the guys I was good friends with. The same thing happens when I try to remember friends from virtually any period of my life, but I remember vividly people who were my enemies even in small ways.

This makes me feel like I'm carrying a lot of grudges, and that I don't forgive people easily. That really bugs me. Also, maybe I don't appreciate my friends like I should, which bugs me a lot too.

Is anyone else like this, or is something screwed up in my wiring?

 

[KarenMarie]

we tend to remember things that hurt more cause they stand out further in our memories.

an electrical shock will be remembered longer than a abirthday card.

 

[blackdogdeek]

maybe we evolved to remember things we should fear better than things we should love as a survival mechanism.

 

[icejunkie]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
we tend to remember things that hurt more cause they stand out further in our memories.

an electrical shock will be remembered longer than a abirthday card.

winnar! :thumbsup:

 

[chrisms]

I guess that is somewhat true. I still do remember just about all of my good friends, even back in elementary school. But I also remember my enemies, no matter how short of a time I knew them.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: NuclearNed

Is anyone else like this, or is something screwed up in my wiring?

you are normal, have a nice day! :sun:

 

[Pocahontas]

You know the old saying ..

Keep you friends close and your enemies closer ..