friend zone with a girl

keystroker

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Okay well I've been friends with this one girl for more than a year. I met her though a friend and she asked for my AOL SN from him a long time ago. Ever since we hang out every once in a while. Now we are hanging out a lot more. BUT she has a long distance BF and they met through church and shes really into him (shes pretty naughty for a church girl).

Anyways we are hanging out more and more. Things with her BF are getting worse and worse (like right now hes in some sort of correction facility his parents sent him to where they stick him a forest and he has to find his way back).

This weekend she wanted me to come over to her sisters house that she was the care taker for over the weekend and she wanted me to spend the night because of the scary movies we were watching. We slept next to eachother in two seperate beds. Nothing happened shes not giving me any signs like that she wants to be more than friends and I don't want to like ask her anything. We hang out like at least once a week and people think we are a cuple whenever they see us. Shes kinda indecisive and I don't know if shes waiting for me to make a move.

I would love to be more than friends but I can bare with the friends stage. Shes actually told me shes had friends tell her they loved her and stuff and she got weirded out. But I don't love her I just want to see how things go :). Shes kinda of like a dream girl to me. Very attractive, not a whore, fun to hang around, and goes on the internet a lot.

Anyone have similar experiences?
 

amcdonald

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Originally posted by: keystroker

I would love to be more than friends but I can bare with the friends stage. Shes actually told me shes had friends tell her they loved her and stuff and she got weirded out. But I don't love her I just want to see how things go :). Shes kinda of like a dream girl to me. Very attractive, not a whore, fun to hang around, and goes on the internet a lot.
I would take this as her subtle way of telling you she's not into you.
 

ThaGrandCow

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Originally posted by: amcdonald
Originally posted by: keystroker

I would love to be more than friends but I can bare with the friends stage. Shes actually told me shes had friends tell her they loved her and stuff and she got weirded out. But I don't love her I just want to see how things go :). Shes kinda of like a dream girl to me. Very attractive, not a whore, fun to hang around, and goes on the internet a lot.
I would take this as her subtle way of telling you she's not into you.

Screw it man... put your nuts out there. Just tell her you think you and her should try going on a date sometime. Don't tell her you love her, just go out on a normal date.
 

Lonyo

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Ask if she wants to go out on a date (but don't call it a date).
Don't say it's not as friends, but imply it.

If she says "no", say that you meant as friends and try and get out of it.
If she says "yes", go and see what happens/if you get anywhere.

That way, with a bit of luck, you should be able to find out, and you're safe even if she says no, because you can pretend it never happened.
 

luckydragon

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DO NOT ASK HER OUT

either wait for her to break up with her bf or honestly it is better to just move on. you are a friend to her and it is very hard to be something otherwise. epsecially when you have given her all the benefits without any commitment towards you
 

MillionaireNextDoor

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If you don't love her, don't bother faking it by being her BF. It'll do more damage to her in the end when you two decide to break up.
 

Spagina

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lol, I call it the no-hope zone. Just enjoy being friends with her, don't worry about banging her, it'll make it much easier on you personally. Find someone else to be interested in.
 

Ns1

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actually you should do what i did

get really wasted one day and ask if she wants to fvck

you have no hope for a relationship, but fwb's are always nice