Friend thinks he's HIV+, words of advice I can give him?

[fs5]

I haven't had contact with him, found out through a mutal friend that his ex-boyfriend called him saying he got tested and that he's HIV+.

Which means naturally he's scared to death but hasn't got tested, free clinics don't open on the weekends. He hasn't come out to his family and if he found out he's HIV+ then he'll have to tell them that AND he's gay.

I think he might go into depression mode. Anything I can say to comfort him?

 

[Riprorin]

Tell his that there's salvation through Jesus Christ.

What can you possibly tell someone in that situation, other than finding comfort in one's faith?

 

[prvteye2003]

leave the darkside? Seriously, I don't think I would say anything to him unless he comes to you first. As far as he knows, you don't know. You and he might be better off if he thinks nobody knows.

 

[Murphyrulez]

"Stay away from my pooper"

 

[PunDogg]

Originally posted by: prvteye2003
leave the darkside? Seriously, I don't think I would say anything to him unless he comes to you first. As far as he knows, you don't know. You and he might be better off if he thinks nobody knows.

 

[Francodman]

Tell him that there's help and that there's medication to prolong his life. Tell him to stay healthy, and tell all his sexual partners that he's HIV+.

 

What ever you say, tell him not to have sex with anyone until he get's checked out.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Roger
What ever you say, tell him not to have sex with anyone until he get's checked out.

And tell anyone who he had sex with between his ex-partner and finding out what the results are. Silence is deadly.

- M4H

 

[fs5]

Originally posted by: prvteye2003
leave the darkside? Seriously, I don't think I would say anything to him unless he comes to you first. As far as he knows, you don't know. You and he might be better off if he thinks nobody knows.

he knows I know.

 

[Thegonagle]

Obviously, he needs to get tested. That's the first step.

 

[aircooled]

Originally posted by: Roger
What ever you say, tell him not to have sex with anyone until he get's checked out.

 

[Riprorin]

Originally posted by: Roger
What ever you say, tell him not to have sex with anyone until he get's checked out.

Dang, would you really have to tell someone this?

 

[Ylen13]

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One more comment like that and you will NEVER be able to post here again

UNDERSTAND ?

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[fs5]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
Tell his that there's salvation through Jesus Christ.

What can you possibly tell someone in that situation, other than finding comfort in one's faith?

Unfortunately, I don't think he's very religious.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Ylen13
tell him he will die eventually and and there is no reason why he can't have sex whille he is still alive

Your ignorance is only further proof of your idiocy.

Kill yourself.

- M4H

 

[prvteye2003]

Originally posted by: fivespeed5

Originally posted by: prvteye2003
leave the darkside? Seriously, I don't think I would say anything to him unless he comes to you first. As far as he knows, you don't know. You and he might be better off if he thinks nobody knows.

he knows I know.

oh, okay. Well, according to the first post, you haven't had contact with him and that you found out through a mutual friend. I just assumed he didn't know you knew. In any case, I would tell him not to say anything to anyone until he gets the results of his test. If he comes up positive, then it's time to start worrying and letting everyone know....his family, friends, sex partners that he has had since the ex, etc....Someone else gave the advice of telling him about the medications. This is a GOOD idea. Since HIV was dicovered, medicine and the medical community has come a long way. Even though there is no cure as of yet, I've seen people live past 10 years with full blown AIDS. Also, tell him that HIV is just the first step to AIDS. He may not get AIDS for 10+ years and could then live another 10+ years. Do everything right, take all the required medications, and he could live healthy for a long time to come.

 

[prvteye2003]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Ylen13
tell him he will die eventually and and there is no reason why he can't have sex whille he is still alive

You sir are a fvcking idiot.

 

[ReiAyanami]

if he has magic johnson money he can live mad long time kobe style

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: prvteye2003

Originally posted by: Ylen13
tell him he will die eventually and and there is no reason why he can't have sex whille he is still alive

You sir are a fvcking idiot.

Please unmangle your quoting so that it doesn't look like I'm supporting that dipsh!t. Thanks.

- M4H

 

[Riprorin]

The fact is, there's no certainty in life and anyone of us could be gone in a blink of the eye.

Certainly your friend is now coming to face to face with his mortality.

 

[GermyBoy]

Tell him his life choices (or whether he was MADE to be gay) is certainly coming back to haunt him now.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Roger
What ever you say, tell him not to have sex with anyone until he get's checked out.

And tell anyone who he had sex with between his ex-partner and finding out what the results are. Silence is deadly.

- M4H

agreed

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
Tell his that there's salvation through Jesus Christ.

What can you possibly tell someone in that situation, other than finding comfort in one's faith?

jesus christ will not cure him if he gets HIV. stop trying to recruit it isnt the time for this.

 

[prvteye2003]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: Riprorin
Tell his that there's salvation through Jesus Christ.

What can you possibly tell someone in that situation, other than finding comfort in one's faith?

jesus christ will not cure him if he gets HIV. stop trying to recruit it isnt the time for this.

I don't think hes saying that Jesus will save him. I think hes just saying that there is self healing within faith of Jesus.

 

[Riprorin]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: Riprorin
Tell his that there's salvation through Jesus Christ.

What can you possibly tell someone in that situation, other than finding comfort in one's faith?

jesus christ will not cure him if he gets HIV. stop trying to recruit it isnt the time for this.

It's the perfect time. It's an offer of hope. What do you have to offer?