Friend not eating much..

[MiataGirl]

so my friend down away for college for the first time down at cal poly tells me that she's having a lot of trouble eating..and worst of all she actually feels good about it. she knows it's bad though, but she says she can't help it. today for instance, she tells me she didn't eat anything until 7pm, and even then she didn't eat much at all.

i mean i know she's sensical enough to know it's bad..but there's obviously something else wrong..

any ideas?

 

[Mustangrrl]

Well if she's doing it solely to lose weight, you can pretty much find any diet/health website to quote about the fact that you do have to eat something in order to lose weight healthily. If she's doing it as some sort of obsessive/compulsive control thing, she'll need professional help. It's a shame some of the sh!t young women put themselves through... good luck to her.
~robyn

 

[Chaotic42]

I go though that all the time.

I'm starving constantly for a week, then the next week I'm never hungry. I'll bet it goes away soon.

 

[Booster]

Maybe your friend is in love?

 

[dirtboy]

She's probably just nervous, excited, etc about being away and on her own. As things settle in she'll start eating again.

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: MiataGirl
so my friend down away for college for the first time down at cal poly tells me that she's having a lot of trouble eating..and worst of all she actually feels good about it. she knows it's bad though, but she says she can't help it. today for instance, she tells me she didn't eat anything until 7pm, and even then she didn't eat much at all.

i mean i know she's sensical enough to know it's bad..but there's obviously something else wrong..

any ideas?

This is really common unfortunately and can be deadly or cause serious physical problems. She NEEDS to seek professional help for this ASAP if it lasts for more than a short while or recurs. There is probably someone she can talk to on her campus, like a counseling center. Try and talk her into going, be supportive but firm.

 

[Geekbabe]

Some people have a hard time eating when they are under stress,I've been having that problem lately myself.

 

[Orsorum]

I agree with baff.

My first quarter in college, my eating schedule was completely uncoordinated. Actually, whenever I move or undergo a large amount of stress, my body's food cycle tends to completely reset itself - it's been doing it this week.

If she feels it's a good thing or if it's necessary, I think she has some deeper issues that need resolving. Be accessible to her to talk to, and see if you can look up some info on anorexia (bulimia? can never keep them straight). Cal Poly's a good school, they should have RA's and a student counseling center that can help with issues like these.

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: Zakath15
I agree with baff.

My first quarter in college, my eating schedule was completely uncoordinated. Actually, whenever I move or undergo a large amount of stress, my body's food cycle tends to completely reset itself - it's been doing it this week.

If she feels it's a good thing or if it's necessary, I think she has some deeper issues that need resolving. Be accessible to her to talk to, and see if you can look up some info on anorexia (bulimia? can never keep them straight). Cal Poly's a good school, they should have RA's and a student counseling center that can help with issues like these.

You would not believe how **common** serious eating disorders are with teenage women -- it is truly heartbreaking. If there is any chance this is more than a passing forgetfulness it needs to be nipped in the bud.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Jfur

You would not believe how **common** serious eating disorders are with teenage women -- it is truly heartbreaking. If there is any chance this is more than a passing forgetfulness it needs to be nipped in the bud.

It's depressingly common - it's actually becoming more common among teenage guys, too. It sucks.

It needs to be dealt with, but it's not fun... ugh. It just takes patience, persistance and honesty. IMO, .

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Jfur

Originally posted by: Zakath15
I agree with baff.

My first quarter in college, my eating schedule was completely uncoordinated. Actually, whenever I move or undergo a large amount of stress, my body's food cycle tends to completely reset itself - it's been doing it this week.

If she feels it's a good thing or if it's necessary, I think she has some deeper issues that need resolving. Be accessible to her to talk to, and see if you can look up some info on anorexia (bulimia? can never keep them straight). Cal Poly's a good school, they should have RA's and a student counseling center that can help with issues like these.

You would not believe how **common** serious eating disorders are with teenage women -- it is truly heartbreaking. If there is any chance this is more than a passing forgetfulness it needs to be nipped in the bud.

man i know, it's crazy! i mean, it's not even like dumb girls either, it's normal girls.... people you wouldn't have expected.

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: Jfur

Originally posted by: Zakath15
I agree with baff.

My first quarter in college, my eating schedule was completely uncoordinated. Actually, whenever I move or undergo a large amount of stress, my body's food cycle tends to completely reset itself - it's been doing it this week.

If she feels it's a good thing or if it's necessary, I think she has some deeper issues that need resolving. Be accessible to her to talk to, and see if you can look up some info on anorexia (bulimia? can never keep them straight). Cal Poly's a good school, they should have RA's and a student counseling center that can help with issues like these.

You would not believe how **common** serious eating disorders are with teenage women -- it is truly heartbreaking. If there is any chance this is more than a passing forgetfulness it needs to be nipped in the bud.

man i know, it's crazy! i mean, it's not even like dumb girls either, it's normal girls.... people you wouldn't have expected.

For many it feels like self-control to do it, and at first they get a postive response when they lose weight. Eventually, they feel ugly no matter what they do and they keep it up. My best friend in h.s. almost died of anorexia. She was 5'10.5 and weighed 108 lbs and people were telling her how sexy she looked. Not veiny or emaciated. Sexy. I've had several students confide in me that they have permanent heart damage from bulima. And when you actually read the statistics and meet these people every day it amazes me that there is not some sort of major public health intervention Did you guys see Jamie Sigler's (Meadow Soprano) interview about her exercise bulimia?

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Jfur

For many it feels like self-control to do it, and at first they get a postive response when they lose weight. Eventually, they feel ugly no matter what they do and they keep it up. My best friend in h.s. almost died of anorexia. She was 5'10.5 and weighed 108 lbs and people were telling her how sexy she looked. Not veiny or emaciated. Sexy. I've had several students confide in me that they have permanent heart damage from bulima. And when you actually read the statistics and meet these people every day it amazes me that there is not some sort of major public health intervention Did you guys see Jamie Sigler (Meadow Soprano's interview about her exercise bulimia?

There are programs out there - especially if you live in the res. halls, they tend to be more serious about it and do programs on it. As for greek row or being on your own, I can't really answer for them.

It's a serious issue, but it's also the result of a culture that rewards a physical absolute - a beauty that's completely superficial.

 

[Chaotic42]

Originally posted by: Zakath15
It's a serious issue, but it's also the result of a culture that rewards a physical absolute - a beauty that's completely superficial.

Yeah, it seems like everyone thinks that a girl has to be a size 1 or 2 to be beautiful. It's just sad. There are beautiful girls of all sizes.

I don't see the attraction to an 85 pound 12-year-old-boy-look-alike girls anyway.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42

Originally posted by: Zakath15
It's a serious issue, but it's also the result of a culture that rewards a physical absolute - a beauty that's completely superficial.

Yeah, it seems like everyone thinks that a girl has to be a size 1 or 2 to be beautiful. It's just sad. There are beautiful girls of all sizes.

I don't see the attraction to an 85 pound 12-year-old-boy-look-alike girls anyway.

Give me hips and a nice, healthy body any day.

 

[Chaotic42]

Originally posted by: Zakath15
Give me hips and a nice, healthy body any day.

For real. Women should be curvy

At any rate, no one should change themselves just because others want them to. It should be a self-motivated thing. Not only that, but they should worry about their health before they worry about what some jerk-off ass wants them to look like.

 

[Jfur]

Men are now falling prey to weird body image problems, too. For example, that condition where men always feel they are too small so they conpulsively lift. Even if they get huge, they feel freakishly tiny and hate themselves. Some type of body dysmorphia.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Jfur
Men are now falling prey to weird body image problems, too. For example, that condition where men always feel they are too small so they conpulsively lift. Even if they get huge, they feel freakishly tiny and hate themselves. Some type of body dysmorphia.

I've struggled with body image issues before - it's not easy to work through it.

Ugh. Damn my German/Swiss heritage.

 

[habib89]

i can't comment on any psychological aspects or anything, cause i'm sure no professional but i'm sure it's not healthy... i do the same thing too.. sometimes it's just way too hot to eat, or i'm so busy i forget to eat all day till 7 or 8 at night... at least she knows she should eat.. that's a start.. does she seem depressed or anything while she's down there? i dunno what that could mean, but i was just bringing it up