friend is dropping out of college

[chorb]

Ive known my friend since middle school, needless to say we are good friends, I either see him or talk to him at least a few times a month. He and I both went to 4 year universities (different ones about an hour and half apart), however this year he decided he was going to take a semester off from college, to make some money, take a break or whatever, saying that he was going to go back in the fall. But recently he said he is no longer going to re-enroll, and he is just working some dead end job. I know he doesnt have the best family conditions and such, but I just want to see him do well, so can I talk to him and try to convince him to go back? or is that something that is a little out of my boundries as a friend?

Cliffs for the lazy:
-known friend for 10 years
-friend is dropping out of college in his 3rd year
-should I try to convince him to go back? or is it not my position to say anything

 

[etalns]

He's going to get into the workforce and realize how much easier college is... then he will be back.

 

[astrocase]

Maybe it's not a dead end job

At the very least you should find out why.

 

[SampSon]

Let him make his own decisions. Nothing you can say will change him.

 

[imported_Trippin315]

College is not for everyone.

 

[Canun]

Believe it or not, it is possible to be successful without a college degree. Just much harder to get that point.

Or tell him to just get a general business degree. It's easy, and it meets the requirement to have a degree.

 

[Taggart]

3 years of tuition down the drain?

tell him to finish what he started, especially this close to the end

 

[JasonSix78]

My best bud did pretty much the exact same thing. I would really try to get him to finish up, he'll be a lot better off in the long run!

-Jason

 

[mitaiwan82]

what was he majoring in?

 

[Midlander]

Give him time. He'll figure it out and go back.

 

[Ika]

try to convince your friend to go back to college. ask him why he's not going back (if you don't already know), and if it's about the money, talk some sense into him using stats and percentages.

 

[Descartes]

IMO, there's little beyond the boundaries of true friendship. I want my friends to look out for me even if it ultimately means a difference of opinion, and I offer the same in return.

I think you're in the right. If he had a solid job opportunity with promise I'd say it might not be a bad idea, but you suggest that's just an aimless job. I'd bring it up to him. That's what friends are for...

 

[GeekDrew]

Originally posted by: SampSon
Let him make his own decisions. Nothing you can say will change him.

College may not be for everyone, nor will friends be able to change decisions in many cases... but you are definitely not out of line by trying to convince your friend to go back to college. The words begging, pleading, and coercing come to mind.

 

[Kanalua]

Originally posted by: Qosis
He's going to get into the workforce and realize how much easier college is... then he will be back.

I took a year off to work (construction). Nothing motivated me more than that expirience. Working outside, in the mud and snow for 12 hours a day. Pulling concrete blankets, digging trenches, hauling concrete, etc.

 

[g8wayrebel]

I say try to talk to him. If I was going to make a mistake that may change my life , I would want you to try to talk sense into me.

 

[Engineer]

Originally posted by: Midlander
Give him time. He'll figure it out and go back.

I did.

 

[ndruw]

Although this example wasn't under the exact same circumstances, there is proof that college isn't for everyone.

 

[Shadowknight]

He's gonna do what he's gonna do. It could be worse, I had an ex-friend who managed to alienate me, had two different girlfriends, who practically became an alcoholic and decided to stop going to class... and he was a fairly good artist who could have done well in the art program. Supposedly, he flunked out. But a year later, he was in a psych class with me and worked at the student union where I worked. He had gotten a new girlfriend from our hometown, and was taking the class and working at the SU because that's what class she was taking/where she was working. I was NOT happy about this :|

 

[bersl2]

Some people need time to work out their issues. He can always go back to school later.

 

[GeekDrew]

Originally posted by: Shadowknight

I was NOT happy about this :|

Why?

 

[FoBoT]

kidnap him and force him to go back

 

[waggy]

well it is his life. he is an adult. he needs to make the choice as to what he wants to do.

 

[GeekDrew]

how can you people call yourself a friend if you just sit there without at least *trying* to convince him to go back to college?

 

[James3shin]

he'll go back...I did. I was in the same shoes as your friend. I didn't care about anything coming out of high school except $$$ and blowing it on whatever I felt. I basically FAILED/kicked out and went to work at deadend jobs (installing car audio, and retail), then it hit me like a mack truck. I'm now back in school dominating it.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Well, it's his choice. The most you can do is give him advice if he wants it.